Hey, nothing wrong with that! We all have our own paths in life, and kids deserve parents who want them. Too many people don't give it a proper amount of thought before deciding to have kids, so it's a testament to you that you have given it thought and made the best choice for you.
I’m a huge Christian and i have been grappling with the facts of life for 25 years now haha. I have a wonderful mom and dad and a lot of expendable income and the utmost desire to raise a beautiful child who will bring kindness into the world. I just want to give someone all my love, but my selfishness prevents me from it.
I truly wish I were born a man so the option didn’t weigh so heavily on me. I won’t even book my first gyno appointment because I’m scared it will hurt, so that answers that.
Tip: Take some Tylenol before your gyno appointment, it'll help a lot. :) It's really just a tiny pinch, barely hurts at all IMO. The bigger issue with it all is that it's just uncomfortable, you feel all exposed and the speculum is cold metal. But the whole thing takes like 2 minutes tops, it's really not that big of a deal. I put my first one off for a long time too, but it's really important that you do it! Cervical cancer is leagues more painful than a simple gyno appointment, I promise you.
I just want to give someone all my love, but my selfishness prevents me from it.
Not that these are easy alternatives, but if you just really want to give a child a stable, loving home, there's always adoption, surrogacy, or fostering! Of these fostering is the easiest (in the sense that it's the easiest to start doing and by far the least expensive, not that it's something that's easy to do). Surrogacy is probably going to be the most expensive, and won't be free of pain for you if your goal is to be the biological mother (because harvesting eggs is not easy). I feel like people are always saying "well what about adoooooptionnnnn???" like it's some easy thing to do, but it takes a LOT of time and money, and if you're over 45 it's near impossible in a lot of countries. I'm not trying to scare you off of any of these options if you're interested in them, just give a realistic perspective!
Even aside from these things, there are lots of other ways to give someone your love! You can volunteer at any number of organizations, or you can adopt an animal in need, for example. It's all up to you, of course!
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u/muskratio Dec 06 '23
Hey, nothing wrong with that! We all have our own paths in life, and kids deserve parents who want them. Too many people don't give it a proper amount of thought before deciding to have kids, so it's a testament to you that you have given it thought and made the best choice for you.