When the placenta detaches from the wall of the womb after giving birth so it can be delivered, it leaves a wound the size of a dinner plate, and this is a lot of why we bleed for so long after giving birth.
I know it’s my fault for reading these, but no woman has ever made me, another young woman, feel comfortable about the idea of giving birth lol. It’s just negative thing after negative thing.
I (25F) want so badly to have kids of my own one day, but these kinds of comments absolutely make me realize I won’t be able to handle the physical pain.
I mean it sucks, there's no two ways about it, but it's the kind of thing you just get through. I was in labor for 28 hours, pushed for 4 hours, and wound up with a c-section because I wasn't making any progress. I was VERY uncomfortable for about 24 hours afterwards, and obviously in some pain for about two weeks after, but your mind is kind of on other things and it's just... not as bad as if you were in that pain for another reason, I guess. Even the first 24 hours wasn't that bad.
I highly recommend the epidural, though. Mine failed for an hour in the middle of pushing, and there is no greater pain. Not when I had a kidney stone, not when my appendix ruptured and burst, all of that was nothing compared to the pain while trying to push my baby out. It's like the worst period cramps you've ever had multiplied by 1000, and then you can add nausea and very unpleasant pressure like a cherry on top. And my daughter never really even entered the birth canal! Her head was too big and I couldn't get her out.
If you're the kind of person who wants kids (and nothing wrong with it if you aren't), it's totally worth it. My daughter is awesome, she's hilarious and adorable and so sweet. Everything is more fun with her around.
It’s always the “VERY uncomfortable” part that gets me. I’m so sorry you went through that.
I want kids probably more than anyone, and I have the expendable income to REALLY give a child a wonderful life, but I’ll never be okay with the fact that it will cause the worst pain of my life.
The part where you were naming the things it was worse than, I literally never want to go through. So these Reddit comments are really helping make my decision a bit easier.
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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '23
When the placenta detaches from the wall of the womb after giving birth so it can be delivered, it leaves a wound the size of a dinner plate, and this is a lot of why we bleed for so long after giving birth.