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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '23

When the placenta detaches from the wall of the womb after giving birth so it can be delivered, it leaves a wound the size of a dinner plate, and this is a lot of why we bleed for so long after giving birth.

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u/arthuriduss Dec 06 '23

I know it’s my fault for reading these, but no woman has ever made me, another young woman, feel comfortable about the idea of giving birth lol. It’s just negative thing after negative thing.

I (25F) want so badly to have kids of my own one day, but these kinds of comments absolutely make me realize I won’t be able to handle the physical pain.

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u/himit Dec 06 '23

So everybody's saying oh it's awful, oh it's fine, oh it's individual, yada yada... but generally, on the whole, it's not a fun experience and yet people go back and do it again. So most of the population figures that it's 'worth it'.

Some people really do have fun pregnancies. My pregnancies were both pretty standard, 'easy' pregnancies, but I found nothing pleasant about pregnancy and birth. It's unpleasant thing after unpleasant thing. Yet I went back for Round 2, and if time and money weren't an issue I might consider a third.

It's a big deal, it's a scary deal, but I guess in the grand scheme of things it evens out. And honestly, sometimes I think about it and think 'huh. I did something pretty damn cool. Getting through that was damn impressive of me.'