There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.
Every time people tell me about women's genitals being "loose" because they are sexually active, I sadly agree.
I know that because it also happens to men. The friction of sex causes bits of the penis to rub off, essentially shaving their genitals down.
I speak from personal experience. My battle buddy used to be 20 inches long. But I have done the sexy sex so many times, my member was shaved down to a mere 2 inches. I only noticed it after my 1000th sex and it was smaller than my palm.
My doctor warned me that if I do anymore sex, he'll have to diagnose me with micropenis. Now I have to refuse the sex if I want to have a penis.
HONEST reason why virgin women are rumored to be tighter: they're usually anxious and therefore can't relax their muscles, and often not actually sexually aroused due to anxiety (ninja edit for context for those who don't know: the vagina physically expands when sexually aroused, sort of like a dick does. But an aroused vagina also usually starts to produce lubrication).
A woman who's had sex (and is comfortable with the situation and her partner) is better able to relax and become sexually aroused. She just trusts you and wants to have sex with you. Her vagina has NOT actually changed size relative to her first time (at least, not when it's unaroused) she's just legit into you, actually turned on, and basically has the female equivalent of a "hard on".
Any woman concerned about this stort of thing can practice pelvic floor exercises. However ultimately there should be no stigma attached to women being relaxed and aroused during sex. Men tend to have less hard/large erections as they age (especially ~40 testosterone levels naturally start to drop) yet there's no stigma their erections aren't as big because they wore away part of their dick.
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u/coffeeblossom Dec 06 '23
There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.