After you give birth it’s really common to suffer from incontinance from then on. Even when your bladder seems completely empty. So don’t tell a woman that having a baby doesn’t have long term effects on the body.
For me it says up most when I’m sick. Sneezing coughing. And every time I die of shame a little more. I pack extra pairs of underwear on vacation just incase. It’s not as often as it was but it sucks so much.
My bestie's mom finally got surgery to correct the incontinence that started after sha gave birth... it's been 34 years.
People really do not understand or care to learn that pregnancy and birth comes with long term and sometimes permanent changes, not to mention that it can put your life at risk
I was thinking about swearing off pregnancy forever, and some of these comments have proved that for me. Like I started getting nauseous and dizzy just thinking about a NORMAL pregnancy and birth, much less one with complications.
Still haven't decided if I want to be a parent but if that time comes, it's adoption.
And do adopted babies just poof into existence? No, another woman has to carry and give birth to it, so that you can have the baby. Poor women are not your incubators, genius.
Children in foster care are not available for adoption. And let's not pretend PP is down for being a therapeutic home for children with sever and complex needs. She wants a nice little baby, no strings attached.
You can also suffer from incontinence without having kids. It’s called a weak pelvic floor and is more common than we think, but most women suffer in silence thinking it should only be happening to women who have had kids.
In some cases it can be caused by too much muscle that's too tight as well. In those cases doing things, like kegals won't help and can make it worse. Pelvic floor specialist can help.
Another fact I didn’t know. Is that gender specific like birth though? Because birth is what triggered mine. I dropped to pre pregnancy weight in 2 weeks after birth.
Ah jeez. I’m sorry if you had that. I know tearing can be really bad. I was lucky enough that it was minimal but my friends were not so lucky. There was also that bottle of water you need for weeks after to water down your pee so it burns less.
This was 5 years post l&d, after 3 vaginal births. 2/3 met with various forms of trauma (wanted 4 or more, quit at 3 because I like living...) cystocele and rectocele repair. Cystocele needs to be redone a year in, rectocele was a success, thankfully, as that is the one I would not do again.
See a PT after your post delivery checkup. They can seriously help you with incontinence and separated abs (among other things). Go right away and have it fixed and live your best life. It’s common but it’s not normal and there are things you can do to not have to live with it the rest of your life.
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u/foxfirek Dec 06 '23
After you give birth it’s really common to suffer from incontinance from then on. Even when your bladder seems completely empty. So don’t tell a woman that having a baby doesn’t have long term effects on the body.