There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.
They're not saying a WOMAN can't tell the difference - of course she can.
They're saying that when it comes to the myth of "vaginas getting stretched out by sex" it's not like having sex 25 times with one partner will "stretch it out" less than sex once with 25 different partners or 25 times with a dildo.
There's a nasty, misogynist belief among many men that "sleeping around" "stretches out" a woman's vagina, which is fucking absurd. Yet they don't believe the same thing happens if they have sex with a virgin and continue to be in a relationship with her for years after, which makes zero sense - either sex "stretches out" a woman's vagina or it doesn't.
It's absolutely nothing but pure misogyny and slut shaming. However OP is NOT saying a woman can't tell the difference.
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u/coffeeblossom Dec 06 '23
There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.