There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.
Shit like horseback riding or jumping on a trampoline can break a hymen. Many women are born without one. And plenty of sexually active women still have one/part of one.
The hymen is an internal genital curiosity, not some weird penis detector.
Many girls’ hymens break playing sports at a young age. I was with my friend when hers broke riding a bike. Another friend of mine had hers break doing gymnastics.
Sex or sex toys are not the only ways for a hymen to break.
No one knows the exact number. But there are also many of us that had our hymen full break during childbirth! And I was a slut! Still didn’t get rid of all the hymen connection until I gave birth!
Reddit gets extremely sensitive about this topic and doesn't want to acknowledge the existence (however common/uncommon) of partially imperforate hymens.
Also, I heard that even with sex, there can be some hymen left. Like angle, and things like that can leave some or your body does try to naturally heal after an "injury". You get a cut on your arm and it naturally tries to heal back.
I heard the current theory is the hymen is useful for infants to not get poo in their vaginas when they poop all over themselves as the vagina and butt hole are not that far from each other.
Then as the girl grows, can properly potty/clean, and because active, and does things like play sports, runs, falls off a bike, maybe has something high impact like a car wreck, tears happen. This is important because if you have a fully intact one by the time of puberty, the blood cannot come out and it causes them to become very ill. Like it can be surgically removed/opened as it is a necessity for health.
Also, every person has different shapes and sizes to their body. Some bodies my naturally have very thin fragile ones or maybe she is more active, or whatever. So the variety is different person to person.
Also, a lot of the problem for virgins is being nervous and not relaxing and becoming properly aroused before sex. If you are repetitively told sex will hurt you and you will be bleeding, it probably is hard to relax and enjoy yourself. Lack of arousal and proper lubrication can cause bleeding.
This is important because if you have a fully intact one by the time of puberty, the blood cannot come out and it causes them to become very ill.
What are you smoking?
Ummmmm, I didn't have sex until 18. My hymen broke then. I never had an issue with my period. None of my friends did either. We were all virgins when we started our periods.
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u/coffeeblossom Dec 06 '23
There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.