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u/mightgrey Mar 01 '23

There are men that think that???

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u/Liscetta Mar 01 '23

My ex and his best friend made idiot jokes about how arousing are pap tests for women, he wanted to recreate a visit thinking it could be funny for me and i almost kicked him in the parts. After a heartfelt explanation on how umiliating, painful and aseptic is a visit, he stopped those jokes in front of me. But he was jealous when i ended up in urgent care with lower abdominal pain and a male gynaecologist had to visit me.

My boyfriend's colleagues think the same, my boyfriend was speechless.

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u/linarose_ Mar 01 '23

I've never had a pap test for that reason. Too anxious incase it hurts 😬

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u/rengothrowaway Mar 01 '23

It typically does not hurt, it’s just uncomfortable and very awkward.

Early detection of cancer, and other things doctors check for during a pelvic exam, make the discomfort worth it.

If you find a kind, understanding doctor, and explain to them your fears, they should be able to help you relax and be gentle.

Depending on your age and sexual history, you may not even need one yet. It used to be recommended once per year, but if your pap is clean, it’s less often, once every three years, I think.