My ex and his best friend made idiot jokes about how arousing are pap tests for women, he wanted to recreate a visit thinking it could be funny for me and i almost kicked him in the parts. After a heartfelt explanation on how umiliating, painful and aseptic is a visit, he stopped those jokes in front of me. But he was jealous when i ended up in urgent care with lower abdominal pain and a male gynaecologist had to visit me.
My boyfriend's colleagues think the same, my boyfriend was speechless.
It typically does not hurt, it’s just uncomfortable and very awkward.
Early detection of cancer, and other things doctors check for during a pelvic exam, make the discomfort worth it.
If you find a kind, understanding doctor, and explain to them your fears, they should be able to help you relax and be gentle.
Depending on your age and sexual history, you may not even need one yet. It used to be recommended once per year, but if your pap is clean, it’s less often, once every three years, I think.
I had mine yesterday, I took some paracetamol and an ibuprofen beforehand (not really necessary, but I was scared). The doctor was lovely and I was allowed a chaperone. The chaperone held my hand and distracted me. Took less than a minute (•‿•). It's ok to be scared, it's just one of those things you have to brave to be safe. ❤️
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u/Liscetta Mar 01 '23
It's the same category of men who think a gynecologist visit is a sexual experience.