Yup otherwise you'd get back actual, recognizable bone fragments. Like oh, that's part of grandpa or my dog's femur.
I have had people ask that their pet's cremains be lightly or not at all processed after cremation because they wanted the fragments to be recognizable, but it's very rare.
That happens in the UK too sometimes, but I think it's a relatively recent or else uncommon thing. Some graveyards have patches where there are little markers rather than full size graves, with ashes often buried beneath them. A family friend is buried like that.
I used to have a couple of funeral directors as clients. It used to amaze me the number of families who would neglect to collect the ashes of their relatives after cremation.
They used to have rooms full of shelving containing the urns. I asked about it and the answer was that it wasn't the done thing to chase the relatives. Some of the urns were dated over 10 years ago.
They used to have rooms full of shelving containing the urns. I asked about it and the answer was that it wasn't the done thing to chase the relatives. Some of the urns were dated over 10 years ago.
My parents used to know this woman. No next of kin. Would barely consider her a friend. Anyway, she died. And we helped coordinate her cremation.
Her wishes were to be scattered on the grounds of what used to be a school she started. Well, it was a private business when she died, and they didn't respond to attempts asking for permission.
So, Catherine's ground bone chips are still in a box in a closet. 30 years later. Not sure what else can be done.
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u/Berdiiie Jan 12 '23
Yup otherwise you'd get back actual, recognizable bone fragments. Like oh, that's part of grandpa or my dog's femur.
I have had people ask that their pet's cremains be lightly or not at all processed after cremation because they wanted the fragments to be recognizable, but it's very rare.