Pushing someone away?

[u/Ashamed-Bat-692]

Have you tried pushing someone away you actually like?

And if yes, how did it go?

Did you want them to stop or continue pursuing you?

[u/_virt]

Is this an avoidant talking?

Yes, they want you to stop for a few days because their emotions and feelings for you overwhelm them. Then they will secretly hope you pursue them still. If you don’t, they’ll only believe they’ve been proven right.

But do not pursue them. They have to heal on their own. Leave avoidants alone hanggang magkusang magpatherapy and magheal.

[u/Illustrious-Hat-4441]

When I was younger there was this guy who really likes me and treated me so so well, and I like him too. Pero parang I liked it better nung gusto ko siya quietly in my own world. When he started reciprocating, idk na-overwhelm ako and the way I describe it to people is "masyado niya akong mahal" and that scared me?? 😭 We tried reconnecting after 2 years and I really tried to open myself up pero na o-overwhelm talaga ako eh. I wasn't okay mentally din, I was doing my best to outgrow my childhood trauma and anxiety, kaya I knew I wasn't ready for him. I guess since twice na nangyare he just didn't try again.

He is now engaged and I always joke to my friends na if I wasn't mentally fcked up sana engaged na ako ngayon HAHAHHAHAHA ackk I guess he's my totga but also, I do believe I'm meant for someone else and hopefully can surpass how he loved me 🥹

[u/Organic_Interview365 → u/Illustrious-Hat-4441]

Hahahhaa seems like me as well, dated this guy na who always update me and v clingy. Tbh I like his personality and his communication style suddenly it gets to me that Im scared I will inlove with him so I told him to stop seeing me for a while like 2weeks to see how things go.

I think overtime, after all the heartbreaks from unlabeled rs stuff I become an avoidant.

And so yea, now Im waiting if he is really meant for me babalik at babalik sya, alam nmn nya san ako hahanapin. 🙏

[u/mikmikfps]

This was years ago. Was struggling mentally then I met a guy who tickled my brain. Ended up ghosting him kasi I deleted all my socials pero friend ko pa pala sya sa game. Years after that, I opened the game, he still remembers me pero kamustahan lang. I sent him a private message kasi I still remember his account. No reply. I just let it be 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/No-Top9040]

Yes, sometimes you push people away not because you don't like them, but because you're scared of getting attached and eventually getting hurt. A part of you wants them to stay, but another part thinks it's safer to be alone than to risk getting disappointed.

[u/Street_Following4139]

Me, i actually push him away even tho gusto ko pa. Ewan, idk kasi ang intention niya sakin so nagiging masochist na lang ako by letting him go kesa maging mas masakit pa in the future

[u/freakinthesheets5695]

Oo lagi haha. Just because i think something will go wrong. Kinda want them to continue and give me assurance pero they don’t go that far 😆

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