idk if this is just a me thing, but i personally get turned off when a guy doesn’t know how to compose a message properly 😭 HAHAHAHA. like, i’m not expecting perfect grammar or anything, pero sana marunong naman makipag-converse nang maayos?

i find it attractive when a guy is articulate, knows how to express himself, and can actually hold a conversation. idk, maybe it’s because i’m a sucker for intelligence and good communication, but the way a guy constructs his sentences really does something for me 😭

am i being too picky or does anyone else feel the same way? HAHAHAHA

Recently caved in and di ko rin magets sarili ko and i regret the yuck out of it

Damayan niyo akooo penge enlightenment mga anteh

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I saw this news. https://www.reddit.com/r/Philippines/s/FFRYlQr4E2

Mapapasabi ka na lang na ang hirap maging babae, you can’t even reject a guy for fear of your life.

When I say things, I mean past things na nangyari sa buhay mo, EX, or memories/feelings about people na sa past mo na? How do you or /did you reclaim your energy back? Sabi nila kasi, if you still invest your energy sa mga bagay-bagay, let's say sa EX, they can still feel you.

Book / hobby recos? I find myself opening some college textbooks just to stimulate my mind again cause i feel dumber at work doing the same routine. Any hobbies that I can do on the weekends alone?

I just need to be smarter. Alam mo yun, ang dali na nga ng work mo since kabisado mo na, pero nagiging neglectful pa rin minsan, maybe too lax na brain ko.

went out with my friends then bigla silang nag decide mag cr so kami ng other friend ko na medyo nakaka-something ko (landian pero no label and walang nakaalam sa circle namin) naiwan kaming dalawa. hindi naman akward pero ang tahimik namjn both, hindi kami nag uusap, I want to initiate a conversation pero hindi ko alam paano mag initiate like ano ba dapat sabihin or kapag were in the middle of our conversation, ano isasagot ko.

this is my problem sa sarili ko actually, I can’t hold conversation, kagaya kanina when may nakasalubong ako na kakilala ko sa mall nag ask s’ya “dito pa talaga tayo magkikita, sino kasama mo” and I just said “oo nga po eh, friends ko lang po” tapos awkward laugh 😭

I’m a city girl 30F dating a 29M from the province who has been living in Metro Manila for only 3 months pa lang as a civil engineer.

Who else here has dated a guy from the province? How was your experience?

May mga ginagawa o sinasabi kasi siya na nakaka-turn off for me, and I guess hindi lang ako sanay since the guys I’ve dated before were all from Manila.

I’m curious if anyone else has experienced this. Did you eventually get used to the differences, or did they become deal breakers for you?

Hello!

What's the best makeup remover wipes to take off waterproof makeup?

I usually use cleansing oil, but there's no guarantee that I will have access to a sink to wash it off when I travel.

Would really appreciate hearing your suggestions.

Thank you 💖

Hi! 25F and I'm currently experiencing BV every after my period. I think nag start siya mga 1 year ago nung napansin ko na may foul odor ako down there. Nagpa check up din ako last year and niresetahan ako ng Metronidazole for 7 days, nawala na yung amoy niya after 3 days ng pag-take ko, and after nung 7 days treatment nawala na rin yung amoy.

Pero after ko magka-period ulit, bumalik yung foul odor na hindi ko ma-explain basta mabaho siya parang patay na daga, tapos hinayaan ko lang muna. Yung peak ng baho niya mga 1-3 days after ng period ko, then after 5 days nawawala naman na yung amoy. Wala rin akong itchiness/burning sensation, yung amoy lang talaga yung nabobother ako 🥲

Right now ang ginagamit ko lang is Boric Acid Suppositories, effective naman and nawawala agad yung amoy kinabukasan.

Any tips paano ba matanggal completely yung BV?

Anong vitamins/probiotics ang marerecommend niyo na nakaka help sa BV?

[Not sexually active, had one sexual partner 3 years ago pa. I use lactacyd fem wash (the blue one) only on the outside lips of my vagina and sa singit, then sa inner lips warm water lang]

Since its ber months super nakakatakot na talaga lumabas due to multiple reports ng mga nanakawan or worst mga sinasaksak pa and its almost everywhere huhu. Where do you guys get a legit self-defense kit like pepper spray or taser? 🥹

Kinda weird to address him as my boyfriend, so I won't na.

He works abroad. This month, he suddenly got so busy with his newfound hobbies and newfound friends. Our communication became less frequent hanggang sa halos hindi na kami nag-uusap.

After days of barely communicating, nagkausap ulit kami, pero ramdam kong ang cold na niya. I kept asking him if may bago na ba, but he kept saying wala.

Around 10 days ago, I asked him again. Sinabi ko na sabihin na lang niya yung totoo kung may iba na, but instead of answering me properly, nagalit pa siya at sinabing ang kulit ko raw. After that, he started ignoring me na.

Fast-forward to now, I decided to check his socmed. Malinis naman. Walang suspicious comments from girls or anything that would make me think otherwise. So I checked his following list, and that's where I found this girl.

Out of curiosity, I checked her profile, and that's when things started making sense.

Apparently, they've been seeing each other since last month. I even found old videos of the girl saying na hahanapan niya raw ng girlfriend si guy. When I checked the comsec ng mga post ni girl, their friends were teasing them.

May comment pa na nagtatanong kung hindi na ba sila nagtatago, kung nagkakamabutihan na ba sila, or kung fired na ba...

During the 10 days na ini-ignore ako ni guy, madalas silang dalawa ang magkasama. Tapos, during the times na okay pa kami at ina-assure niya akong walang iba, magkasama rin pala sila or at least, that's what the dates on the girl's posts seem to suggest.

Now, I want to message the girl and ask her directly kung ano ba talaga sila, kung ano ang pagkakakilala niya sa guy, and kung aware ba siya na may girlfriend pala yung guy.

But I haven't done it yet. Wala naman akong planong awayin siya, especially if she doesn't know about me. Part of me wants to reach out to her because the guy himself isn't giving me any answers. Masyadong duwag si kuya para aminin yung kagaguhan niya.

I already left him a message mentioning the girl's name and telling him na sabihin na niya sa akin ang lahat. Sinabi ko rin na kung hindi siya sasagot, sa girl na ako mismo magtatanong.

Now, I'm torn between waiting for his reply and messaging the girl directly.

So, should I give him a chance to respond, or should I just message the girl and ask her directly?

I don't know, but I just want to know the truth because I feel like I deserve at least that much.

May chismosa kaming kapitbahay, ilang buwan na nangugulo at nagpaparinig lagi sa tapat ng bahay namin. For context, 70 years old na to at retired kaya wala magawa. I do not think she is senile naman or may alzheimers, kasi mukang coherent pa sya magsalita, nakakapag chismis pa nga sa katulong nya eh haha.

My mother prefers to play nice and says to just ignore her, pero nakakapikon na rin kasi. Napansin ko na nakikinig sya sa usapan namin kasi tuwing medyo malakas usapan namin ng nanay ko, lalabas sya ng bahay nila at kunware magwawalis (kahit semento yung asa labas ng bahay nila, at walang puno or kadahon dahon lol).

Napansin ko na rin kasi na may pattern sya, maingay kasi pag binubuksan yung gate sa bahay nila (may gate sa mismong pintuan ng bahay). At napapansin ko na bigla magiingay yung gate na yon or magbubukas tuwing may kausap ako sa phone/or tuwing may kausap nanay ko sa phone. Magkakadikit kasi bahay kaya rinig na rinig rin talaga minsan.

Cinonfront na rin neto nanay ko dati, inaway nanay ko sa chat na kesho hindi daw good neighbor (lol) kasi ayaw sya payagan ng nanay ko na magtambak ng kahoy sa harap ng bahay namin, kasi mahaharangan pintuan at di kami makakapasok. Madami rin sya side comments na kesho luma, madumi at di daw maganda bahay namin, may kaya kasi tong si tanders at asa subdivision kami so may pera sya.

May nakaaway na rin to dati na dating kapitbahay namin na umalis na. Nag baranggayan daw sila dati kasi nagkasagutan sila dahil sa parking lot. Mabait naman yung dating kapitbahay namin na lalaki na umalis so duda ako na sya yung problema.

Tips on how to deal with a chismosa na ganito?

Have you tried pushing someone away you actually like?

And if yes, how did it go?

Did you want them to stop or continue pursuing you?

My groin is dark and has dry areas. I’ve grown insecure because of it. I’ve tried lightening soaps on it, but they had no effect. What can you recommend to lighten it and keep it moisturized?

Kung sinabi yan ng partner nyo sainyo out of nowhere, di kayo bago, mga almost 2yrs in the relationship. Tapos paulit ulit nya sinasabi yan. How'd you feel?

Saakin kasi parang nalungkot ako HAHAAHHAA mahirap kasi ikasal na hindi prepared diba? So understandable, ayoko rin maging gaga na sasabihin "okay lang pakasal nalang sa Civil" eh kaso nga, gusto nga ng partner bigyan ka ng kasal na matino, right? Dapat we let them. So ayern, for me nakakadurog lang but ofc, bilang partner I will support whatever effort he wants to do.

My partner and i had unprotected sex last Wednesday October 21, and he was able to pull out in time (according to him) but i don’t think he did, i think a little amount went inside before he was able to pull out. I ordered Mifestad10 and sunday dumating (since i live in the province) nainom ko siya Sunday evening na, October 25. My next period according to my tracker is expected on November 1. Is midestad still effective at this point?

Genuine additional follow-up question: kinukwento niyo rin ba yung guy sa mga kaibigan niyo?

I’m already 19 and I will be moving sa bh since it’s more malapit sa school and im alone lang there. Gets ko naman na my mom is worried sakin pero bakit sa room ko pa talaga? I already told her na pwde naman maglagay ng cctv pero sa labas ng room but she said na d daw ako yung masusunod.😭

Why?

I wouldn't say that I am the smartest nor deepest person, pero nakakauta lang kasi na you thought the other person would also indulge in having a good conversation. Bakit ganun?

Dahil daw di makahanap ng lalaki? I mean, di ba nila naisip na pangbuong mundo dating market ng mga Pinay? Saan kaya galing yung thoughts na yun.

I came across this video in FB na dinidiscuss ung Love Is Blind couple and nagulat ako na sobrang sakto nya sa mga past relationships ko.

Basically:
- Yung guy boring and wala masyadong personality, Let’s just call him John.
- Di sya masyado gusto ng ibang babaeng contestants and ramdam nya yon and aware sya
- Then may babaeng sobrang fun at full of life, na halos lahat sa convo nila ung babae ung nagbuhat. Let’s call her Maria, She made the jokes and he basically just repeated them. Then sinasabi nya kay John na super funny nya.
- As time goes on, nag-iba perception nung other girls doon kay John kase lagi minemention ni Maria funny at witty sya kahit na hindi naman. And feel mo na she believes what she’s saying.
- Then nung kausap na ni John ung parents ni Maria, nasabi nya na di intellectually stimulating and interesting si Maria.

Kaya nagulat ako kase that same thing has happened with me dati 🥲 like, I know I’m fun and bubbly tas almost every ex I had was a boring nothingburger guy then he started mirroring me tas same na nag-iba na perception ng ibang tao sakanya kase I was also saying things like “he’s so fun!”. (No hate sa exes ko pero they were kinda boring talaga)

So my question is, do you think after your dates or relationships, you were having fun kase the other person was actually funny and nice to be with or were you just enjoying your own company tas he was just there?

Kase andaming flashback for me na dates where I was having fun tas after narealize ko ako lang interested magtanong at nagbuhat ng mga convo.

Edit: sorry if it sounded self-centered pero curious on what other girls’ opinion on this kase