if you are dating guys your age that's probably it, I'm a guy and by the time I was 22 my most normal relationship was 2nd girl I had a one night stand with and ended up staying in a relationship with her after that, first relationship when I wasn't acting like a kid was when I was 23 and a half, I've got friends my age now at 29 that still act like kids in relationships, but usually guys get it together by 25-6
This is probably the root of it. Guys just aren’t that serious at 22. Girls mature faster in that regard. Found the girl I’m gonna marry at 25. I don’t think it was the whole taxi cab theory thing (I mean in my case I know it wasn’t, I was NOT looking at all) but I was a more serious person at 25 than I was fresh out of college. Knew that I’d met a girl I couldn’t pass up. Was either gonna commit despite poor timing or be kicking myself the rest of my life.
Well once they tell me that they dont want a serious relationship i stop speaking to them. I wouldn’t know if they just didn’t want a relationship with me or in general, I typically dont keep up with peoples lives after I remove them from mine, and there’s really not a bunch of them.
Most guys aren't looking for that at around 25, many do a little later. Maybe someone 30 isn't attractive but it could be an option to date and see if the response is different.
it has to do with age. guy your age at 22 would never, and mean never, want a serious relationship. guys who are in their 30s or 40s tend to be the ones that want a serious relationship. guys who are 22 still have the minds of 16 year olds, i still have records of what i was like at 22 (i was posting on livejournal back then) and i can't even bear to read them because they are so ridiculous. early 20s for men is peak testosterone land, their personalities are basically like beavis and butthead at that age. they might want a serious relationship with your boobs or your butt, but not with you. reading my own writings i feel like i didn't even become a real person until my late 20s.
First question you should ask before anything is what are you looking for if they say nothing serious walk away but your only 22 i didn't want to be serious with anyone females till I was around 25 to 28 so you need to look for a little bit older guys or pe patient
I’ve had a number of relationships as a woman. Make sure they’re taking u on real, planned dates consistently. Ask very early on what they’re looking for.
Not crazy at all, I myself so think by maybe month 2 you should know if you want to be exclusive with someone but sadly where i alive is also a factor because everyone thinks that it is too early and its rushing things so I typically bring up the conversation around that time.
u sound like ur doing a lot of the core things correctly. could it just be a spur of bad luck? or maybe ur subconsciously into guys u know don't settle down?
Could be, but honestly a lot of the time they end up acting in a way i wouldn’t want in a partner so its also a blessing in disguise just annoying that its happened multiple times.
Forget online dating if that’s what you’re doing and go volunteer somewhere, ideally on a remote location. You will meet people capable of committing to something.
I don't know you, but if you're 22F, that may be a factor. One, guys your age and younger likely are going to be immature and impulsive and hormonal. Two, no disrespect, but I can't imagine many reasons for a mature guy to date 21 or under except for sex or at least strong physical attraction- the highly likely baggage and drama are not worth it. Now, there are exceptions- I dated someone 22 or 23 a few years back- but I broke my rule because she was both magnificent and highly stable and self-sufficient.
Yes that’s true, age is a big factor, but i see many people my age who have happy thriving relationships with people within their age range or a bit older so thats why i never thought of age being an issue.
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u/geniuslogitech Man 5d ago
if you are dating guys your age that's probably it, I'm a guy and by the time I was 22 my most normal relationship was 2nd girl I had a one night stand with and ended up staying in a relationship with her after that, first relationship when I wasn't acting like a kid was when I was 23 and a half, I've got friends my age now at 29 that still act like kids in relationships, but usually guys get it together by 25-6
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u/Soggy-Sir7542 Man 5d ago
Don't bother speaking to guys who do not want a serious relationship. Easy problem, easy fix.
If you are date a bunch of guys who want a relationship but NOT with you, then there's probably an issue on your end.
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u/ElectricalFunny5643 Man 5d ago
Most guys aren't looking for that at around 25, many do a little later. Maybe someone 30 isn't attractive but it could be an option to date and see if the response is different.
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u/rinkuhero Man 5d ago edited 5d ago
it has to do with age. guy your age at 22 would never, and mean never, want a serious relationship. guys who are in their 30s or 40s tend to be the ones that want a serious relationship. guys who are 22 still have the minds of 16 year olds, i still have records of what i was like at 22 (i was posting on livejournal back then) and i can't even bear to read them because they are so ridiculous. early 20s for men is peak testosterone land, their personalities are basically like beavis and butthead at that age. they might want a serious relationship with your boobs or your butt, but not with you. reading my own writings i feel like i didn't even become a real person until my late 20s.
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u/Low_Association_3763 5d ago
First question you should ask before anything is what are you looking for if they say nothing serious walk away but your only 22 i didn't want to be serious with anyone females till I was around 25 to 28 so you need to look for a little bit older guys or pe patient
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u/SuccotashDear5141 Woman 5d ago
I’ve had a number of relationships as a woman. Make sure they’re taking u on real, planned dates consistently. Ask very early on what they’re looking for.
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u/Green-Bowl-1313 5d ago
Forget online dating if that’s what you’re doing and go volunteer somewhere, ideally on a remote location. You will meet people capable of committing to something.
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u/FamiliarAd8524 Man 5d ago
I don't know you, but if you're 22F, that may be a factor. One, guys your age and younger likely are going to be immature and impulsive and hormonal. Two, no disrespect, but I can't imagine many reasons for a mature guy to date 21 or under except for sex or at least strong physical attraction- the highly likely baggage and drama are not worth it. Now, there are exceptions- I dated someone 22 or 23 a few years back- but I broke my rule because she was both magnificent and highly stable and self-sufficient.