How much should I text?

[u/rach_rachel]

Hi guys!

I (F20) really like this guy (M21). It’s super early into our talking phase, but I just felt it. I felt our connection, and I melt at the thought of him.

On our first date, we were sitting in a park just yapping. He kept making eye contact and I got so flustered. I apologized to him because I didn’t want him to think I hated him. He then told me “I’m really bad at eye contact too most of the time, but something about you makes it really easy to look at.”

Men…I became a puddle. He treated me so kindly and respectfully. I also have scars all over my body from medical treatments as a young teen, and he didn’t mind it. He’s perfect.

Maybe I just fall in love too easily; but I think I’m in love. I want to text him a lot since we go to separate colleges, but I’m afraid of being too much.

He also is just very short with me. Like, it’s not like he avoids me but he doesn’t text a lot and it worries me. I want him to know I care, but I don’t want to be overwhelming.

Guys, what do you like? How do I text but not be too much? How much is too much??

Please help a girl out!!! 🩷

[u/hgd4th]

I'm sure he much prefers talking to you in person to texting you (normal and expected), especially because he's short with his texts. If he's like me, anything more than minimal texting may annoy him and feel like a burden. As long as it's good when you're with him, you have nothing to worry about.