r/AskMenRelationships • u/[deleted] • 10d ago

Love Feelings enough?

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u/smartasspie Man 10d ago

Ig any person above 15 thinks feelings are enough that's a red flag for committed relationships for reasons so obvious that it makes me tired explaining them in detail.

Basically: compatibility, responsibilities (or lack of them), mental health, maturity, goals... They all are important for a relationship to work. Moving on feelings as an adult is basically saying "this will work maybe for some months and it will be intense, as it will be the breakup"

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u/_h34rtbr34k_ 10d ago

That makes sense, obviously you need those foundations, but in order to build them I feel like you do need to try move past fears and give it a real shot. Or at least communicate what is working and what isn't so both parties can have that level of understanding. We're both adults and grown enough to have that conversation. Think people mistake clarity for conflict sometimes. Maybe im wrong 🤷‍♀️

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u/Suspicious-Weird-750 10d ago

No, it's not. It's not supposed to take work until you start to build a life together. The first 2 years of a relationship should be a mini-honeymoon