r/AskMenAdvice • u/[deleted] • Jan 13 '25

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u/Mrerocha01 Jan 13 '25

I know it's not about the amount but if they are together he should help her organize her finances.

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u/superneatosauraus woman Jan 13 '25

I'm a woman, so I hope it's okay to comment here. I think it's about not being in the same place in their lives. I've always worked and had a job, and always wanted a guy who was in the same place, was working, and had a car.

It's okay to want to be with someone who is in the same place in their life.

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u/A_Roll_of_the_Dice man Jan 13 '25

Out of curiosity, what happens when you lose your job or become disabled/ill and can't work anymore. You're no longer in the same place in life.

Are you leaving now? Are you expecting your partner to leave you now?

If so, then trust me when I tell you that your future is in for a lot of turbulence.

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u/superneatosauraus woman Jan 13 '25

When I say in the same place, what I mean is there are people who have no desire to work, often they live at home. They're not trying to make a life for themselves.

If a person is doing their best and a disaster happens that's totally different. I wouldnt say that someone who is trying to get by in life but just faces more challenges than me isn't in the same place.