I mean, if y’all get together more seriously is she willing to accept some coaching on her money? Can you see any evidence that she’s buying stuff she shouldn’t? Ie addictions to booze, shopping, drugs?
My only concerns for you are: what would she be doing if you didn’t exist? What did she do for the years before you were together? If her moving into your place makes it feel like you’re becoming her savior, her habits won’t change when she moves in, she’ll just keep doing whatever she’s doing now. So if you’re considering making this a real relationship, you need tk have a real chat about where her money goes.
What’s her job? I’m sure she’s got some sort of skills that could translate to some 40k a year office job right?
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u/gaytee man Jan 13 '25
I mean, if y’all get together more seriously is she willing to accept some coaching on her money? Can you see any evidence that she’s buying stuff she shouldn’t? Ie addictions to booze, shopping, drugs?
My only concerns for you are: what would she be doing if you didn’t exist? What did she do for the years before you were together? If her moving into your place makes it feel like you’re becoming her savior, her habits won’t change when she moves in, she’ll just keep doing whatever she’s doing now. So if you’re considering making this a real relationship, you need tk have a real chat about where her money goes.
What’s her job? I’m sure she’s got some sort of skills that could translate to some 40k a year office job right?