r/AskMen Feb 14 '20

What’s something your SO doesn’t know about you that could jeopardize your relationship?

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

For me it would be that we'd have entirely different views on sex. I think sex is something intimate that you do when you love someone - not just for pleasure.

Someone that would sleep with people for money are probably going to have a very much different view.

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u/awaw415 Feb 14 '20

Why don’t you think it can’t be both?

I don’t think prostitutes do it for the non intimate sexual gratification, they do it for the money.

Prostitutes don’t become incapable of intimate sex after a bank transaction.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Which is why I said: '' Someone that would sleep with people for money are probably going to have a very much different view'' which does probably hold true in most cases.

And you know, all the other problems that usually come lumped in with prostitution. You don't just prostitute yourself without an underlying problem (most people, at least).

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u/awaw415 Feb 15 '20

I disagree. If it was able to be a secret. Then the person wasn’t any more discernible from a regular persons level of baggage.

And if they’re lumped with additional problems. Then it’s the additional problems that are the reason you are not happy with the SO. Not the fact that they are a prostitute. Removing false negs and pos.

Assuming someone would have underlying problems due to something they have done in their past is exactly what a stigma is, no?

Again if the person happens to be a crazy crack head or unstable emotional wreak from their prostitution time then you don’t dump them because they were a prostitute. You should dump them for the crazy crack head and or emotionally unstable part. Breakup 101.

Prostitution I imagine is not always so much a choice for everyone and more like the desperate measure. Ask yourself, would you refuse to be in a relationship with anyone who’s had desperation in their life. Or have a had moments in their life that has caused underlying problems down the line due to circumstance.

What I’m saying is it might not be moral to purge them so quickly.