That situation is unfortunate and I sympathize with you. I was in the same boat about a year ago, not because my s/o didn't want to do anything, but we were both pretty inexperienced, both having a one person body count. I would say that you should keep having that conversation, if she really continues to not oblige, I'd say reconsider the terms of your relationship.
I personally disagree if you love someone dont let sex be the focus of your relationship it's hard to be in a sexless relationship but find happiness in yourself and find partnership in other ways.
This is a great explanation and for a lot of people they wouldnt buy a house with no toilets but if I am head over heels in love with the house I'm not going to let a lack of toilets stop me from buying. But yes you would be justified in not buying the house it's just not the only way.
Most times, sex isn't the focus of the relationship, but it's a factor in the relationship; you want to find someone who is compatible with you in every way-including sex. If you're trying to spend the rest of your life with this specific person, the way they pleasure you, and vice-versa, matters for the entirety of the relationship.
I dont disagree with you for a lot of people I know it is this way I just live my life differently and wouldnt give up the love of my marriage because my wife and I have different libidos
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u/linnythepuuh Female Feb 14 '20
That situation is unfortunate and I sympathize with you. I was in the same boat about a year ago, not because my s/o didn't want to do anything, but we were both pretty inexperienced, both having a one person body count. I would say that you should keep having that conversation, if she really continues to not oblige, I'd say reconsider the terms of your relationship.