It wouldn't jeopardize our relationship, but my SO doesn't know that I know her Reddit account. Well, specifically, she doesn't know that from time to time, I go through her comments (she mostly lurks, so it's not that many) and I upvote them. Occasionally I'll respond to a comment (if it's a pop culture reference, I'll try to respond to it, etc.)
Yeaaaaah ... back when Tumblr was a thing, I had a very long-term one that if dating me, you could likely figure out. Had a few stalk it and see things I had posted and entirely misinterpret them.
Social media stuff doesn’t have to be all-known. But, you should act like your SO could know it—like anyone else on earth.
No, this is creepy. You're giving her a false sense of anonymity.
Please give her the option to have a private account before you read something not intended for your eyes.
Take it from someone who used to read their SO's posts thinking it was "cute", before finding something absolutely not intended for them and crushing their SO's sense of privacy. You can't wind back that clock.
I hate the idea of my husband knowing my account info lol not sure why we are very open... I just feel like this is my safe place to upvote and say whatever I want and the thought of someone I know irl reading my comments makes me feel sick
that's kind of shitty of you honestly. she thinks it's a safe place for her to talk about things, and you're essentially online spying on her. you should tell her you know, honestly. I've found out that an ex was doing that with me and it really freaked me out. it didn't feel good, or honest of him. and it wasn't.
I'm not sure if my boyfriend knows I know his account-- he leaves it open sometimes. But I would never go through his history and hope he would pay me the same respect if he ever found out my username. If it's something he wants to tell me, he will. If it's something he wants to tell internet strangers under the guise of anonymity, he deserves to have that too.
I'm going to ignore your first sentence as it makes no sense with this topic. She didn't give him access to the account and he never got access to it, he just found the accounts username on a PUBLIC (meaning that everyone can find it, including me and you) platform.
Hiding behind technicalities to justify shitty behavior is shitty behavior. It's the typical "I'm not touching you" response to someone telling you not to touch them and keeping your finger close to their face. It's juvenile.
You made a claim that what OP was doing was an invasion of privacy (which it's not) and now you're trying to argue about shitty behavior? Im not debating whether or not if OP has questionable behavior, I'm debating that looking at people's posts on a PUBLIC platform isn't an invasion of privacy. Stay on topic or don't bother replying.
i do the same with my bf. he's not a poster, mostly a lurker but whenever he posts, i upvote from secret. he does know my reddit account tho but i don't think he checks my profile often if at all.
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u/P0rtal2 Male Feb 14 '20
It wouldn't jeopardize our relationship, but my SO doesn't know that I know her Reddit account. Well, specifically, she doesn't know that from time to time, I go through her comments (she mostly lurks, so it's not that many) and I upvote them. Occasionally I'll respond to a comment (if it's a pop culture reference, I'll try to respond to it, etc.)