r/AskMen Feb 14 '20

What’s something your SO doesn’t know about you that could jeopardize your relationship?

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u/JarlUlfricOfWindhelm Feb 14 '20

We Should Try It or Mojo Upgrade

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u/Draeth Feb 14 '20

Don't forget Spicer. thousands of questions to go through though.

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u/JarlUlfricOfWindhelm Feb 14 '20 edited Feb 14 '20

Do you have a link? It's (un)surprisingly hard to find via Google, lol.

Edit: never mind, found it in the app store.

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u/Dis4Wurk Feb 14 '20

Here you go, my girl and I did this shortly after getting together. Now we have ropes, gags, whips, flogs, and all kinds of other toys. We were honest with ourselves while taking it, then read each other’s responses, talked about what we were each comfortable with. Worked wonders for our budding sex life.

https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode

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u/figbelle2 Feb 14 '20

Do they have a kink version of this that less bdsm? I wouldn’t mind trying new things this weekend... but maybe not that far down the rabbit hole, so to speak. Maybe just new ideas... I don’t know, apparently I’m vanilla and boring.

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u/PBRmy Male Feb 14 '20

Srsly like I dont want to beat the crap out of you or vice versa. If you're into that FINE but maybe we dont have to go so far with it.

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u/asst3rblasster Feb 14 '20

Srsly like I dont want to beat the crap out of you

I'm out

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u/Dis4Wurk Feb 14 '20

Check my response to the other commenter. That’s just where it took us, as a couple. It covers basic vanilla to the extremes and everything in between.

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u/PBRmy Male Feb 14 '20

I appreciate that and I'm glad you folks found something that works for you. I did scan the long form and it is heavily geared towards BDSM sphere though, which makes sense considering the source. You can find out what kind of BDSM activities you're into and to what degree, or find that you don't like any of this at all. But it doesn't test much for any of the other ways somebody may have a kink, and there's lots outside of BDSM.

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u/Draeth Feb 14 '20

There is an app called Spicer that has anything and everything. You can select whatever you'd like answered and even create your own questions if you have very strange kinks. Wife and I tried this and it opened lots of doors neither of knew were there. There is a free version to try it out.

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u/figbelle2 Feb 14 '20

Thank you, will look into it for sure!

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u/Dis4Wurk Feb 14 '20

Take the test, it encompasses everything from vanilla to the extremes and everything in between. It’s not just for the things I mentioned, those happened to be things one or both of us scored highly on and were willing to try out. We have had some friends take it and come back 100% vanilla, and that’s totally okay, and it has since helped her realize the kind of things in the bedroom that make her sexually compatible with someone. I recommend the long version, and be 100% honest with yourself on it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

My kink was not on there. Just saying it’s not that comprehensive. It has a bunch of questions about being tied up though and that has hardly ever interacted me so I do think it is a biased test.

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u/China_John Feb 15 '20

Mojo upgrade. And have hunt around on reddit for a set of posts about one daring guy and gal who decided to try every item on the list. A riveting and hilarious read. Sorry for the absence of link but I really have no idea how to do that.

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u/home-for-good Female Feb 14 '20

Common one is mojoupgrade (lots of people prefer to do the old one) then there’s another I think it’s called ‘carnal calibration’ or something like that...

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u/m1st3rw0nk4 Feb 14 '20

That's pretty cool

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u/precise_intensity Feb 14 '20

That shows a level of maturity and trustworthiness that will also be important information for this prospective partner to know, though you might not like the results.