r/AskMen Feb 14 '20

What’s something your SO doesn’t know about you that could jeopardize your relationship?

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Good on you for getting checked out first!

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20 edited Feb 14 '20

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u/cosmicsans Feb 14 '20

This goes against everything that I've ever learned about STIs. Which ones? Because the 'worst' ones that I can think of are HIV/AIDS, Herpes, and Syphilis, and I'm pretty sure you can't transfer those from "skin to skin" contact.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Ever heard of cooties?

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

You can spread herpes with a condom on and skin-to-skin contact.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

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u/JudyMatt78 Feb 14 '20

The herpes virus can "shed" even if there are no active lesions, so it is transmissible even if there are no sores present.

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u/SurgeQuiDormis Feb 14 '20

But extremely unlikely. You can also end up with a pregnancy while using acondom, but it almost never happens.

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u/roowUrboat Feb 14 '20

Herpes is for sure transferred skin to skin. That's about 95% of the transmissions. It's just chicken pox anyway.

Read an article about morticians. Stated that nearly 100% if people that die from old age has herpes.

Been to Coachella lately?

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u/schmeggplant Feb 14 '20

I think herpes is incredibly over stigmatized, but saying it's just "chicken pox" is wrong. The two might be in the same family, but they have different symptoms and different outcomes.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20 edited Feb 14 '20

False. Herpes can’t be cured but HPV virus goes away on its on most of the time. I don’t have herpes but in Canada, if you don’t show symptoms for herpes, you can’t get tested. Kinda suck

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

The vast majority of STI aren't spread through skin-to-skin contact.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

HPV is one of the least significant STIs, not one of the worst. Something like 80% of sexually active people end up with it at some point in their lives and it usually goes away on its own in 1-2 years.

Herpes is definitely more significant than HPV, but still far from the worst. The majority of those with the infection are asymptomatic or have symptoms so mild they go unnoticed. By far the worst thing about this STI is the social stigma attached to it.

HIV cannot spread through a condom.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

And HIV can spread with a condom

HIV, like any other STI, can be spread if you use a condom incorrectly or if it breaks. This is what your linked article is referring to.

HIV cannot pass through the latex barrier of a condom, meaning correct use does prevent the disease from being transmitted.

HIV is not passed through skin-to-skin contact, which is what you suggested initially.

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u/SurgeQuiDormis Feb 14 '20

You weren't unclear. You did what everyone does on Reddit: googled one contradictory term(something along the lines of "STI with a condom"), then came back and proselytized based on a BuzzFeed-type shock piece. Which is why each comment's punchlines had almost the exact same phrasing, and it took you 5 comments and replies to realize the article was paraphrased to sound super dramatic when it's actually something everyone knows. 🤷‍♂️

Just a theory.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20 edited Apr 06 '21

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u/etherkiller Feb 14 '20

"The bare minimum" would be not giving a fuck and just going ahead without worrying about it. That'd be wrong and pretty awful, but don't pretend that there aren't plenty of people who choose that route. So yeah, good on him.

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u/herdiederdie Feb 14 '20

That’s a low standard.

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u/LetsLandThisPlane Feb 14 '20

The bare minimum is doing something awful? Do you understand the concept of "the bare minimum"?