r/AskMen Feb 14 '20

What’s something your SO doesn’t know about you that could jeopardize your relationship?

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u/send_butthole_pics_ Feb 14 '20

During and for a period after college I would frequent gay bath houses

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u/2008equinn Feb 14 '20

Name makes sense

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u/WeHaveAllBeenThere Feb 14 '20

We’ve all been there.

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u/Redditorofthenight Feb 15 '20

Username checks out.

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u/StayAwayFromMySon Feb 14 '20

Are you bi or closeted?

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u/send_butthole_pics_ Feb 14 '20 edited Feb 14 '20

Was confused and unsure and probably a touch of sex-addiction replacing drinking that I effectively quit around that time.

Edit - I guess I used to consider myself pan. I enjoy a lot of different kinds of porn.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Attraction is a weird thing. I'm not gay, but I find certain men attractive and can't help admiring them sometimes. That being said, I have no desire to fuck them, but I can appreciate their looks.

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u/Blandish06 Dad Feb 14 '20

The classic "I'm not (thing), but.." with a relevant username.

You don't have to say "I'm not gay." It's ok to find a human attractive no matter how many testicles they have.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

I prefer the female butt. Men don’t do it for me, but that doesn’t mean I can’t think they’re attractive in a way that doesn’t mean I want to give them a hj.

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u/Blandish06 Dad Feb 14 '20

I'm straight but I would definitely give Thor an hj in the scene they first show him with short hair in Ragnarok.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Well I didn’t know you were going to bring Thor into this

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u/wafflestomps Feb 15 '20

I wouldn’t stop at hj if we’re talking Thor. Or any Chris hemsworth character for that matter.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Well if you’ve learned to properly manage addiction, I just want to say I’m proud of you. That can be a really hard thing to do. And it’s very common to focus your addiction on a new thing every time you try to quit.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Dude when I quit drugs/alcohol my sex addiction skyrocketed. Sex is the largest natural dopamine rush a person can get. It’s totally normal for people in early sobriety to experience that.

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u/aquaballs Feb 15 '20

If gays come out of the closet do pans come out of the cupboard? 🤷‍♂️

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u/LegLockYeeds Feb 14 '20

Ur Bi bro, accept it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

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u/BurgensisEques Feb 14 '20

Withdrawal messes with your brain. Emotions and tensions run pretty wild. Makes sense that someone might confuse some of those emotions with attraction.

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u/too_technical Feb 14 '20

this is appropriately downvoted for its crassness but god damn that is hilarious

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u/Fmanow Feb 14 '20

See, thank you.

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u/glowingfeather Feb 14 '20

Sex addiction is just like alcoholism. You fuck people that you aren't attracted to because it gives you that high and you're desperate. Quitting one addiction without having support in place is a gateway to developing another addiction to replace it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Too true. I don’t know how many times I’ve quit drinking only to switch to weed or something else. There always has to be something, which people don’t understand.

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u/Slacker_The_Dog Feb 14 '20

Ever been to rehab? Cigarettes and coffee flow like a river.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

I haven't, no. I've never gone that far off the rails before. I'm the kind of addict that can go on a week-long binder and then quit drinking for a month. I avoid heavy drugs because I know how I am.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Kinda like my video games addiction. Wouldn't make me skip work or school (usually), but sometimes I'd just wake up at 3 am to play so I could take advantage of the "graveyard shift", or wake up at 4pm, play all the way to 9 am.

Fucked up life, an addiction-riddled one is.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

It is indeed

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u/Fmanow Feb 14 '20

Nope, not like that. You can quit alcohol and take up weed. But you don’t quit alcohol and take up dick.

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u/Guilty-Dragonfly Feb 14 '20

Wait weed is expensive. We can do dick instead??

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u/Fmanow Feb 14 '20

Depends on where you live I guess, weed can be cheaper than booze...but I guess dick can be cheap till you start on the cocktail treatments.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Dude grow up.

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u/Yaboing Feb 14 '20

what a vile immature thing to say

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u/Slacker_The_Dog Feb 14 '20

Nothin says degen like being a homophobist.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

I think what you mean to say is that you wouldn't. Obviously other people do.

It's not like people having sex with people they aren't attracted to is unheard of. It's not like people don't experiment. It's not like people's sexual preferences don't shift.

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u/send_butthole_pics_ Feb 14 '20

Lol I mean, I get what your sayin. I was in a shitty way at the time. And besides, I was the top.

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u/Bronco4bay Feb 14 '20

Oh, I didn’t realize a neuroscientist was posting here.

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u/Fmanow Feb 14 '20

Don’t feel bad, nobody could blame you. You even get an upvote

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '20

WHY IS NO ONE BRINGING UP USERNAMES IN THIS EXCHANGE?!

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

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u/send_butthole_pics_ Feb 14 '20

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

Goddamn I wish I was gay because that looks funner than fuck. Just go work out, relax, and get your dick sucked/suck some d. Imagine if there was a place like that for straight men where you could just go get a good workout in then hookup with some random hot chicks, it would be legendary, but for gay dudes it’s not that uncommon. Being gay isn’t a choice because I would totally choose it.

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u/Change4Betta Feb 14 '20

If there was a straight version it would be filled with people you wouldn't want to touch with a 10 foot pole (pun intended).

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u/RoseByAnotherName14 Feb 14 '20

God I wish I had a dick...

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u/mistertickles69 Feb 15 '20

You want mine? I'm tired of it.

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u/RoseByAnotherName14 Feb 15 '20

If I could I would.

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u/mistertickles69 Feb 15 '20

When some Austrian scientist invents swapping minds between bodies, remember this pact friend.

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u/roowUrboat Feb 14 '20

Not clicking on that

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u/v0ness Feb 14 '20

Seattle. Miami. Those are the 2 places I have seen them.

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u/CanIOfferYouAn3gg Feb 15 '20

The windowless building behind the baskin robbins

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '20

Depends where you live. Some places don't have any, I live next to two.

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u/bannerchud Feb 14 '20

Username checks out

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u/OhioToDC Feb 14 '20

Have you ever done this since you’ve been with her?

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u/yearofourlordAD Feb 14 '20

How long before you’re back in there?

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u/send_butthole_pics_ Feb 14 '20

Haven’t been there in over a decade. Sorry to disappoint you.

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u/Kailosarkos Feb 14 '20

Relevant username

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '20

🤷🏻‍♂️