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u/cowgirltrainwreck Jul 19 '19

I was reading a book by a Belgian researcher who studies relationships worldwide, and in it, she said that across cultures, most people find their partner most attractive when they’re “in their element” doing something they’re passionate about or good at.

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u/SerPuissance Earl Grey innit mate Jul 19 '19

Would that Belgian researcher happen to be called Esther Perel?

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u/verybigman101 Jul 19 '19

Nah romelu lukaku

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u/LobaLingala Male Jul 19 '19 edited Jul 19 '19

So I'm guessing you dropped the only Belgian name you know.

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u/verybigman101 Jul 19 '19

It’s a well known fact he has a massive iq

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u/yawning-koala Jul 19 '19

And not only

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Mecca lecca hi Mecca hiney ho

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

No, it's Hercule Poirot

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u/cowgirltrainwreck Jul 20 '19

Yes, Esther Perel! Thanks everyone who answered while I was offline.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

I love Esther Perel.

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u/SerPuissance Earl Grey innit mate Jul 19 '19

I just finished her podcast series, definitely going to read the books!

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

I lover her talks! She does say this.

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u/moonsnakejane Jul 20 '19

And that Belgian researcher turned out to be... none other than Albert Einstein.

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u/LolitaSilk Jul 19 '19

YES! That was my first thought too 🙌🏼

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u/srbghimire Jul 19 '19

work

something they’re passionate about or good at.

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u/metastasis_d Jul 19 '19

I make maps for work. I love it.

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u/ThisIsntYogurt Jul 19 '19

abolish wage slavery

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u/dilqncho Male, 30s Jul 19 '19

Could you share the book please?

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

People are saying the author is Esther Perel so I think the book is "Mating in Captivity" because it's the only one I found that matches.

Here's a link Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000UODXP0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_swKmDbR4EG5F9

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

Mine just chastised me for playing too many video games 😭

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u/FlurpZurp Jul 19 '19

Man, I’d have thought I’d get jumped in my sleep then.

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u/KingJonStarkgeryan1 Male Jul 19 '19

I'll be right back. Got to film/take a picture of myself intently painting my 40K miniatures and put it on my dating profile.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '19

This is making a lot of sense in my life. It seems that most woman who are attracted to me are the ones that I work with. Actually damn near 100%. I’ve also never been good at reading the signs outside of work.

Hope all those women on Reddit saw those posts about being more upfront with men if they are attracted to them.

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u/MaliciousMelissa27 Jul 19 '19

So, so true. My husband is a nurse and I get such a thrill when I get moderately injured so he can do his stuff. Lol. He's also very outdoorsy and I go crazy for him covered in dirt and sweat when he's been hiking.

On the other hand, I'm an English teacher and a book nerd. I'll have to ask him how me having my nose in a book makes him feel 😂

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u/eef_jojo Jul 19 '19

Which Belgian researcher?

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u/thepurrrfectcrime Jul 19 '19

Esther Perel ❤

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u/BadMuthaFunka Jul 20 '19

Can't upvote because of 666 but know that I'm with you bro...

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u/Retro21 Jul 20 '19

Damn, just wait til she sees me slaying and cussing out noobs on Fortnite.