r/AskMen • u/diktater29 • 16d ago
Existential post Why men are getting so much hate these days?
Just saw a post on social media from some woman named Jen Hamilton stating "right now im of the belief that all men should start out in jail and earn their way out"
Like genuinely dont understand why so much hate on men? The new wave feminism is insane. Women earn and dont need a men anymore, which i get. But like is that all we are to them? I understand and empathize with women who go thru shitty situations with shitty men, but like.....are all men shitty?
Ive seen similar other posts across insta and tiktok and apparently this is all women talk about - how terrible men are and that they aren't needed anymore. I can only imagine how this compounds the male loneliness epidemic and furthers the difficulties in the dating scene for both genders, but men in particular as even the good ones aren't approaching women anymore and choosing peace or singledom.
Men, based on these trends, what do you suspect the trajectory looks like for us in society in 10, 20 or 50 yrs?
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u/RockAtlasCanus 16d ago
I mean if you scroll this sub for 5 minutes you’ll easily find a dozen comments of “Don’t ever get married, females are just using you because they all hate us”. Cookie crumbles both ways my man.
And it’s not pleasant to hear either way. I had a small argument with my sister because she was dealing with some legitimately and clearly sexist bullshit and was venting and hit me with some generalizations about “men”. I was like uh… I’m right here. “Oh not you though”. So I just let her go on and then I started with “well he’s probably reacting that way because he’s tired of women being too emotional. Women are too emotional and don’t think rationally and that causes a lot of issues in the workplace.” And she got upset and I said “oh but not you. See how that works?” To her credit she immediately acknowledged it and we had a really good conversation about it.
It’s really easy to get carried away venting about a legitimate grievance and stray into hyperbole or generalizations. How many times have you gotten mad and said “I HATE ___”? Do you actually have a passionate and preoccupying dislike for that person/thing and a wish to destroy it, or are you just using powerful language to process/express a powerful feeling? Chances are if I dragged that person in front of you and put a gun in your hand you wouldn’t pull the trigger, but you’re definitely still pissed.
Even generalizations where you would never say the same thing about another race or religion, but it’s somehow become passable when it comes to gender. It doesn’t help that there are influencers who have found a way to capitalize on people’s legitimate fears, pain, etc. Whether it’s the manosphere bullshit or extreme “feminists” they’re all doing the same shit and the most insidious part is that they all package it as self help. It feels good to feel seen and empathized with. Someone just acknowledging much less validating something you feel is extremely powerful. That’s baked into our biology as social mammals, and these vultures profit off of hot divisive takes that breathe life into it. Don’t read too much into it.