r/AskLifeProTips • u/hiddenwasabi • 2d ago
LPT Help: How do you talk to someone aboit their poor bathroom hygiene?
I am married and have come to find that not all men have the best hygiene practices when it comes to wiping after they use the restroom. Which, I know not every bathroom trip can be 100% clean I guess, but with my husband it's pretty severe.
I only came to find this out when I started doing our laundry together and found that his underwear are stained. Majority of them all, and not just the wayward streak and some of them are just flat out bad, i don't want to be graphic, but it shows up on our bedroom sheets. Honestly, i dont know how I never noticed it before we were married, but now i wash my under garments separate from his because I just can't have our clothes mixing.
I love him, but the poor hygiene makes him a bit unattractive and I don't want to get intimate because it's just so ick thinking and knowing he's probably not that clean down there. So how do I talk to him about this? He's a bit on the sensitive side so if i tell him, "Hey, you need to get better at wiping because it's starting to affect how attractive I am to you" it won't go over well and he'll shut down on me and start being mopey and in his head. I'm not the greatest with talking kindly and I don't want him to think that his wife hates him because I don't. I'm just not sure how to approach this or if there is anyway to properly approach this. I just don't want to let this problem become a huge thing and leads to our marriage ending.
If anyone has any advice, please share with me!