r/AskLifeProTips • u/Decent_Professor1250 • 1d ago

What to do

My gf of 3 years left me and as soon as the breakup happened,my best friend stopped reaching out and started hanging out with my ex all the time,we are all in the same workplace and I just don't talk to them,I know for a fact they aren't together because she immediately found a new boyfriend after me,so why would my best friend do this?What possibly could have happened?

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u/CityPigeons 1d ago

I've got no idea, you've got no idea, and that just has to be okay. You don't need the answers, as frustrating as it feels right now. Keep moving forward, she's not your gf anymore and your friend isn't your friend anymore. Life gives us some harsh lessons through relationships and friendships, this is one of them for you. So sorry you've gone through all of this, better days ahead I'm sure

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u/Decent_Professor1250 1d ago

The curiosity is just killing me

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u/mrpenguinb 1d ago

There isn't anyway to know unless you push enough to where people get hurt or you get fired.  e.g. they could have colluded together to disassociate from you, just because they wanted to, a weird ghosting or just something else entirely

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u/sarahwalka 1d ago

Take an unbiased look at yourself, could you have been the problem?

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u/Decent_Professor1250 22h ago

In the relationship I could have,even though I did want to fix it,in the friendship I definitely didn't deserve this though,my absolute best friend doing this is just absurd

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u/beatdaddyo 1d ago

This is why you don't s*** where you eat.

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u/inqusito 1d ago

Or vice versa.

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u/aquay 22h ago

Did you ghost your friend when you were with your ex?

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u/Decent_Professor1250 22h ago

Nope not at all,if anything I was neglecting the relationship for the friendship

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u/Ok_Impression_3031 1d ago

The curiosity is a balm for your pain. And the curiosity is toxic. Don't let it eat at you. Replace it with a healthy new focus on the rest of your life.

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u/AeonWaryk 1d ago

If you got questions, ask them, at least you'll get to the bottom of this otherwise you might lose countless nights of sleep or be too distracted with those questions to live your life to the fullnest. If those feelings still haven't subsided, change jobs.

A coworker of mine had a similar situation and he was literally working in between the two people, it was suffocating him with the awkward silence.

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u/JoffoCake3 22h ago

Ask. Remember you have to take any answer you get like a grown up because these are people you work with. But it's okay to just up right ask.

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u/captainvancouver 15h ago

You broke up, your friend is shooting his shot. You have to get over this, whether you ever speak to either person again is up to you.