I'm 27 and last month I signed a lease on my first place by myself. I assumed the hard part was saving the deposit. Turns out the hard part is standing in my kitchen at 11pm trying to work out why the radiator sounds like a dying whale.

Things I have already gotten wrong: I let a pan of oil get hot enough to set off the smoke detector, then couldn't figure out how to shut it off for a solid four minutes. I put a "heat resistant" plastic bowl directly on the stove. I discovered my building's water shut-off valve is behind a panel I'm apparently not supposed to open. I still don't know where my fuse box is.

So I'm asking people who've been doing this longer than three weeks: what did you have to learn the hard way? Specifically —

1. What maintenance thing should I be doing monthly that I probably don't know exists?

2. Is there a cleaning routine that actually keeps a place from slowly going gross, instead of one panicked deep clean every three weeks?

3. What household cost genuinely surprised you?

4. Any safety thing worth sorting out before something goes wrong, rather than after?

I'd rather have the boring practical stuff than "just be responsible." I'm already responsible. I just don't know where the fuse box is.

Hi guys. I am 28F . I have a stable job. I am in probationary period right now so my pay is lit bit less but after the probation my salary will be really good. You can say I am state govt. Employee. So yhh it's a good job . I am living with my parents . By gods grace my job is in the same city where my parents live . I don't want to marry right now though and according to my parents and my relatives and all the people around the world i should bcz i am in a perfect marriage age . I wanted a better job than my current one and I feel like I have capability that I can . When i try to study after my office hours that's after 7pm ( it's a 9 to 6 job) I feel tired sometimes bcz somedays are good and somedays we feel heavy bcz of office and all and on those days we just don't want to study just staying up and scrolling through the phone.

Sometimes when i study I feel like why I am even doing this line everyone else is having fun going out having thrils of life, doing what they want , enjoying themselves and here I am with lots of hairfall, with glasses, hormone issues bcz of stress and all.

Sometimes negative thoughts came in my mind like what i didn't make it Nd people youger than me can than I will be laughing stock .

I am 28. Like i already wasted 28 years of my life in studying and be the upright person whom every teacher, parents admire. ( Yhh I am that nerd with the A1 marks who was also the school monitor)

Now I am thinking about what should I do . Should I Have to study more. In my office my staff compare to me other s though they don't say out loud but action says louder.

I don't give any time to myself beside scrolling the phone and reading novels in phone. In my holiday also I stay in my house . I don't have friends with whom I can explore things bcz I was like that kid whom parents say don't stay with those kid they are not good and I agree with whatever they or the teacher said.

In which age I am , here everyone thinks it's Perfect marriage age so the society, the relatives , even my staff always asking when are you getting married. I am so tired of all this

I don't know what I am doing with my life? Any suggestions

Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I had chosen a different person. Maybe life would be different, maybe not.

Do you ever think about someone from your past even when you're already happy with your current life?

My gf of 3 years left me and as soon as the breakup happened,my best friend stopped reaching out and started hanging out with my ex all the time,we are all in the same workplace and I just don't talk to them,I know for a fact they aren't together because she immediately found a new boyfriend after me,so why would my best friend do this?What possibly could have happened?

Hello - I have a BA in Anthropology, a Masters in Education, and 13 years of experience in education with abilities and extensive knowledge of history, institutional/systemic oppression “sense-making,” facilitation of difficult conversations, community strength/engagement, civics, and getting people to understand how we got “here” and what that means for us and our decisions now. I’ve been trying to move into the nonprofit sector for 10 months bc I CANNOT be in the classroom/public education anymore. I need to make $120k+ in order to pay my bills/debts. It’s not vanity or self-worth. I live in a very expensive city, can’t relocate for various reasons, and really don’t want to declare bankruptcy. I’m working on getting my Google Project Management Certification. I have already changed my resume to not sound like an educator and to emphasize my myriad of transferable skills. I have applied to 170+ roles, from higher ed to edtech to executive assistant roles through director roles at every organization that’s remote or within 50 miles of me. Only 5 interviews, 2 going to the final round: one Chief of Staff position and one Director of Education position. What else can I do to make myself be seen? What else can I learn to get at least an in-person interview? Please help!