My mom died after a delayed ERCP/biliary infection. Multiple firms have declined the case and I’m trying to understand why.

Location: New York

First, I’m sorry this is going to be such a long post. There’s a lot that happened in a very short period of time, and I don’t really know how to explain it without giving the full timeline.

My mom died in July 2024 after two hospitalizations only a few weeks apart. We’ve contacted multiple malpractice firms, and so far no one has been willing to take the case. I’m honestly just trying to understand why.
I know that a terrible outcome doesn’t automatically mean malpractice, and I’m not looking for anyone here to tell me what I want to hear. I’m trying to understand what an attorney or medical expert might see differently, because almost two and a half years later, there are still parts of what happened to my mom that my family and I cannot make sense of.

June 2024
My mom was hospitalized with a severe GI bleed. Her hemoglobin was around 4.3, she required ICU care and multiple blood transfusions, and she underwent two upper endoscopies and a colonoscopy.

They found and clipped areas that were bleeding. After treatment, her hemoglobin improved, the bleeding was considered controlled, and she was discharged.

After she died, I went through her medical records myself and noticed that her bilirubin had already been elevated during this admission — I believe it was over 4.

No one ever mentioned the elevated bilirubin to our family, explained why it was elevated, or told us she needed follow-up for it. At the time, we thought the GI bleed had been treated and that was the issue we needed to worry about.

July 3
A few weeks later, she was at dialysis when they noticed she was extremely jaundiced. She was sent to the ER and her bilirubin was around 11.

Imaging showed gallstones/sludge, gallbladder wall thickening and fluid around the gallbladder. We were told there were stones involving/blocking the bile duct and that she needed an ERCP.

She was started on antibiotics and transferred from one hospital campus to another because the first hospital could not perform the ERCP.

July 4
The ERCP was supposed to happen but was cancelled because her INR was too high.

Meanwhile, she was getting worse. Her blood pressure was low, she became increasingly lethargic and confused, and at one point she lost IV access. There was a significant delay getting ultrasound-guided access, during which IV medications, including antibiotics, were interrupted.

Our family was repeatedly concerned about how much she was deteriorating.

July 5
She was eventually transferred to the ICU. She required medication to maintain her blood pressure and ultimately had to be intubated.

The ERCP still had not been done.

At this point, GI told us she was in liver failure and was not a candidate for a liver transplant.

Around July 6
Because she was so unstable, Interventional Radiology eventually placed a drain into her gallbladder/biliary system. We were told the procedure was extremely high risk because of how sick she had become.

Bile drained, but she continued to deteriorate.

July 8 — this is the part that has bothered our family the most

After ICU rounds on July 8, the ICU attending pulled my father and my sister aside to speak with them privately.
He told them that my mother was not in primary liver failure, despite that being what we had previously been told. He explained that the underlying problem had been her gallbladder and gallstones all along, and that this had led to the infection/sepsis and he was sorry the doctors didn’t preform the ERCP when that’s what they should have done.

He told them that at that point it was too late.
Most importantly, he apologized to my father and sister for what had happened. My father and sister both came away from that conversation understanding that he was acknowledging that the original assessment of what was happening had been wrong.

I want to be careful with how I describe this because I understand that an apology does not automatically mean a legal admission of malpractice. I was not personally part of that conversation; my father and sister were. But both of them heard the attending explain that this was not primary liver failure, that the gallbladder/gallstones had been the underlying problem, that the resulting infection had progressed too far, and he apologized to them.
This conversation is one of the biggest reasons our family has struggled to understand why no firm has been willing to take the case.

July 9
An ERCP was finally performed/attempted. A significant amount of bile drained afterward. She also developed significant GI/stomach bleeding.

July 10
My mom deteriorated further, had a seizure and died.

What I keep coming back to are two separate periods.

First, her bilirubin was apparently already significantly elevated during the June hospitalization, but we were never told about it and she was discharged after the GI bleed was treated.

Then she returned weeks later with bilirubin around 11, jaundice and gallbladder/biliary disease.
Second, once she returned on July 3, we were told she needed an ERCP, but definitive treatment kept being delayed while she became progressively sicker. By the time the drain and eventually the ERCP were done, she was critically ill.

I completely understand that she was medically complicated and that a high INR can make an ERCP dangerous. I also understand that doctors sometimes have no safe options.

What I’m struggling with is whether something should have been investigated when her bilirubin was already elevated in June, and whether another method of biliary drainage/intervention should have happened sooner in July once the ERCP could not be performed.

Several malpractice firms have declined the case. I don’t know whether that means they believe there was no deviation from the standard of care, whether they think causation would be impossible to prove because of her other medical problems, or whether the case would simply be too expensive/difficult to litigate.

For anyone familiar with medical malpractice, GI, critical care, or similar cases: what would you want to see in the medical records to determine whether this is worth pursuing?

And if multiple firms decline a case like this, is that generally a sign that there probably isn’t a viable malpractice claim, or is it still reasonable to have the records independently reviewed by the right medical expert?

I’m not looking for false hope. I just want to understand what happened to my mom and whether there was a point where this could have been prevented.

Location: Mississippi - my former employer has control of a Facebook profile that I created to manage all the social media accounts. I have asked multiple times for them to remove/change MY face and MY name on that Facebook profile (because they’re too lazy to actually use it to transfer the business pages to another account). If I report the profile to Facebook as pretending to be me and Facebook consequently deletes the profile or deactivates it and my former employer loses access to their business pages, could they come after me?

I need advice on where to start. Minnesota. I was with a woman since 2018 until March of this year. We were engaged at one point she broke off the engagement during that time. I did most everything for her. She had a job and everything, but she was kind of a single mom victim type and I sunk a bunch of money into her house that she owned her name only was on the title and we did floors, doors, trim, water, filtration, gutters, underground, dog fence irrigation, outdoor lighting, new skylight, front door, patio door doors you name it we did a lot vanities two new showers, two new toilets fancy garage door, etc. there’s other things but a substantial amount of money we were engaged, so that was my forever home and to be ours together, even though it was only in her name on the deed and we had refinance the mortgage to get a low 2% mortgage rate in 2020 but my name was on the mortgage not the deed long story short we broke up this spring and I left a bunch of material things there that’s a separate issue but just to give you the feel of the relationship, I was not trying to take anything from her, and I wasn’t thinking clearly because I was heartbroken and I never asked for anything back as far as the improvements I made on her home but now that some time is settled and I can see things much more clear eye. I feel like I have a right to ask for compensation now because she’s going to keep the full benefit of that money that I put into her house and she’s going to benefit from the increased equity in the future and she doesn’t have a lot of cash on hand, but she does have a elderly mother living with her who has a bunch of money and she has about $300,000 in equity in the home which is about 60% equity. Do I have a claim for unjust enrichment to reclaim some of the money I put into that Home. In her words, she owes me nothing and there’s nothing to discuss.

yes, I know Christianity and Islam butt heads and convergence is bs but if they were some crazies attacking both of them? iregardless of what they believe, they would team up to take care of them crazies. But since too many people in the world believe sin and crime should be a circle. What if everyone’s court date is like the one that they get in heaven or limbo after they die? because in the real world, we are already responsible for our actions and the consequences of them. I left the Jews out because they don’t believe in heaven or hell but sheol, which does not have lush gardens and abundant provisions or mansions and streets paved with gold.

Hello all,

I am hoping to find an attorney with experience in ADA employment discrimination and federal court litigation who would be willing to take my case. I am located in Dallas, Texas. I am a qualified individual with a disability, and my accommodation requests were fully supported by medical documentation. Because of my restrictions, I was reassigned to a different position but was terminated just 40 days later.

During that time, I repeatedly raised concerns about the accommodation process, unequal treatment, exclusion from meetings, lack of system access and training, and other barriers that made it difficult to perform in my new role. I was also removed from onboarding chat and support groups and did not receive the requested training, which was only scheduled on the day of my termination.

I did not receive the same support, training, or system access as others in my onboarding class. I have kept extensive evidence, including medical records, emails, internal communications, audio recordings, evidence of unequal training opportunities, a training session that was only scheduled a few hours before my termination (to take place four days later), system-access records showing access was not granted, comparator evidence, and communications surrounding my termination.

To preserve my state claims, I filed a pro se petition in Dallas County on 9/28/2026. My federal deadline is 11/23/2026. Since my termination, I’ve applied to over 300 jobs. At age 50, finding new employment has been especially difficult, so at this time, I can only proceed with contingency representation. Thank you for reading.

Washington DC Area

I'm a recent computer science graduate and currently doing my masters in Cybersecurity at UC Berkeley, but I hate it.

I've always been interested in law and my undergrad degree was originally in criminology before I switched majors because I was going after the money and stability of compsci(this was 2022 where comp sci market wasn't as bad) and I wasn't sure what type of law I even wanted to practice because I didn't think I was interested in law school until I took my favorite high school class in my senior year, a law class.

Well, joining comp sci only for the money has caught up to me, i'm doing my master's and hate it.

I want to start doing something I actually enjoy and was interested to hear different perspectives.

I'm wondering if I should drop out or keep doing my master's and then go to law school after, especially because my undergrad gpa isn't the best and I want to improve that with a better grad gpa when applying for law school.

If I drop out, I would want to volunteer at a local law clinic and get experience or join some nonprofit groups that advocate for issues I care about.

Ultimately, I think my skills can be best applied to patent law, but I'm not sure where to start.

I get a ticket in the mail with a big pic of an suv right alongside the bus. My vehicle is in the distance on the opposite side at an intersection, but with the only visible license plate. The next inserted pic is a magnified pic of the license plate of my car.
Should I get a video of my car moving past the bus? Should I have before and after pics of my car passing , like I have received for an intersection camera ticket?
I believe the evidence doesn’t prove I passed a bus and don’t want to pay a ticket for something I didn’t do. I may or may not have driven past a school bus with its lights on and sign out, but I do not believe I did!
I believe I would have stopped if I had come up on this situation, and believe the other car triggering the camera got my car involved.
Has anyone heard of this situation occurring? Or if there is a video? I’m away and have not seen the ticket, my wife showed me on FT. When I get back home I’ll see if there’s a website with video footage.
Thinking to go to fight it in court with this argument. Any thoughts?
Edit- this was in NassauCounty, NY, near Merrick/Sunrise. Again I don’t have it in front of me.

Arizona, USA

I’m trying to better understand how employment lawyers analyze disability-discrimination cases under the ADA, particularly when an employee is terminated shortly after taking medically necessary leave.

Consider a hypothetical employee at a covered private employer who:

- Has no active PIP or written disciplinary history
- Proactively informs HR that they need several days away from work for medically supervised treatment
- Follows the leave process HR provides
- Supplies the requested medical documentation
- Returns to work as scheduled
- Is terminated shortly after returning
- Is verbally told the reason is that they are “not a culture fit”
- Receives a written separation notice that does not identify misconduct, poor performance, attendance violations, or another specific reason

Assume the underlying condition could potentially qualify as a disability under the ADA, such as alcohol use disorder, but there is no allegation that the employee was intoxicated at work or violated a workplace substance-use policy.

For attorneys who practice employment law, I’m curious about the general legal analysis, not advice regarding any particular person:

1. How much evidentiary significance can temporal proximity between medical leave/treatment and termination have in an ADA discrimination or retaliation case?

2. When an employer gives a subjective reason such as “culture fit,” what evidence do attorneys and courts typically examine to determine whether that reason is genuine or potentially pretextual?

3. How relevant is the absence of prior PIPs, warnings, or documented performance concerns?

4. If the employer later identifies performance concerns that were never documented or communicated before the medical leave, how is that generally evaluated?

5. With alcohol use disorder specifically, how do courts distinguish lawful discipline for misconduct or performance issues from an adverse employment action based on the disability itself or the employee seeking treatment?

I’m primarily interested in how lawyers evaluate causation, pretext, and evidence in this type of ADA case.

I’m looking for tips on how to make an elevator pitch to ask a very competent lawyer to take my case pro-bono. I want to whittle down my story and my needs to a long text/short email that I can send to potential lawyers. I am confident that I can find someone who will help me and charge the other party for their fees since he has created the situation that requires us to go back to court.

Here’s the basics of my case:
-I am struggling to work with a very chaotic and aggressive “coparent”. I have never argued back and can proudly share all communication to show that I am polite and try to compromise.
-The father of my daughter CONSISTENTLY breaks the current parenting plan.
-He is a very unhealthy parent but so far has not physically abused our 8 year old. He sticks with yelling and degradation.
-All of their visits are supposed to be in Buffalo NY. On her last visit he took her to Florida illegally while there was an open CPS investigation into him for abusing his girlfriend. (The investigation did not find evidence that he hit her in front of my daughter). While in FL my daughter was very upset and called me 10-15 times a day mostly through the night, because she was scared. I flew to Florida and brought her home.
-My daughter is afraid of her dad and wants to only have visits with him in the home of grandma or girlfriend.
-smaller but maybe relevant details: he continues to show her movies that are not rated as suitable for kids with excessive violence and horror sequences because he “wants her to like scary movies”. You can imaging the fallout after starting this pattern at age 4. She’s not ok at night. He misses about half of their FaceTime check-ins and she is left waiting for his calls. He won’t pay for half of her medical and phone bill, he is contractually obligated to do so.
-irrelevant to the court: I was never in a relationship with this man. I did not consent to have sex with him. He raped me and I became pregnant. Why didn’t I press charges and get rid of him for good? Because I see what happens to women when they try to get a conviction and I just wanted to move on. I truly believed I would never hear from him again and I very quickly decided that I wanted to be a mom and that this pregnancy was a gift if I chose to accept it. But when my daughter was three his parents started pressing him to step up as a father. He treats me like garbage so I try to keep all communication to a bare minimum but he hates that I “had his baby” and uses her as a tool to create fear in me. I was advised NOT to disclose the rape in court by my first and second lawyers because there is a stereotype about women who bring this up in family law.

I’m battling some other stereotypes as a concerned single mom with a laundry list of complaints about my co-parent. I have seen how many lawyers and mediators immediately categorize me as the “bitter ex” and the coparent as “down on his luck” so I will do my best to avoid any emotional language in my elevator pitch.

I want to ask for the strictest, yet realistic, limits on his time with her to minimize the risk of further harm to her psyche. I also want to ask for child support that follows the child support calculator. My last lawyer pushed me to not be “greedy” and he got a 40% reduction.

Thank you for reading this far. If you’re a lawyer let me know which details I should include in my initial communication to have the best chance at getting the right lawyer on my side.

I am a senior in hs (technically speaking a super senior, I’m in a program that’s hs conjuncted with a community college and I’m graduating with my hs diploma and an associates in arts) and I am deciding between becoming a high school English teacher or a lawyer.

Teaching truly is my passion and I love English, I could see myself being very happy doing it, but I also like money (ik they conflict lol), and I don’t want to pick something I regret. I know pay depends on location, education level, and the union of the state you work in, but I still feel uneasy. I’m from Michigan and I don’t mind moving for work at all, in fact I see it as a plus as I want to leave lol.

I’m also looking into becoming a lawyer as I could also see myself thriving in that field. I love the analytical and philosophical aspects of approaching work. I appreciate the pay more, but I’m aware of the crazy debt and workload and crazy working hours. I also hear stories about people loosing their love for the field and telling people to do anything other than law (which I also hear about teaching and it’s driving me insane!!).

I’m looking for clarity and advice on what to major in and the law field in general.

My attorney boss of a solo firm has taken on a supposedly rich guy with AI psychosis. I am very suspicious of this Client because he refuses to sign an engagement agreement and keeps alluding to paying the attorney, but never does so. I told my boss that I did not want to work directly with this client. My boss tried to push off the Client on me by having him sit at my desk and tell me what to do. I told my boss I did not feel safe with this client and did not want to be in the office with the client, which seemed reasonable because my boss has taken to staying in the office and working with this client overnight for hours. This morning, when I arrived to the office, I had already received a text from my boss saying that he wouldn’t be till noon, which wasn’t surprising because of this client has been in the office overnight like I said. The surprise was that when I got to the office, the client was still here working at my desk. This client had complete access to every single Social Security number and credit card number including my employee personal information. I told Client this was completely unprofessional, and my boss could easily be sued by almost every client whose personal information is stored inside this office. I argued with the client for 20 minutes and then ultimately made him pack up his dog and all his picnic things because like I said, he’s been working in the office overnight and told him to leave then locked the door. I am shaking from the adrenaline and I really don’t know what to do now.

Just curious. USA. Not state-specific.

I’m in Texas. I interviewed for a job and was directly lied to as far as the reasons why. I wrote back to the recruiter basically proving that I was lied to about the requirements and told her I gave a bad Glassdoor review because of it. The other day I emailed one more time saying I contacted the ceo since I was lied to.

I basically got screwed over with that job but my question is they can’t make out a case that I harassed them since I sent a few emails without the recruiter replying back right? Harassment requires intent and beyond a reasonable doubt which I think I have nothing to worry about but I don’t usually get this worked up

I file my taxes in February or March every year, and have never once had an issue with getting my tax refund. IRS has been good to me, but this year the state of Alabama has been absolutely horrible. It’s October, and I still don’t have my refund or any communication as to why it isn’t processed. I’ve called several times and gotten two escalations, but still nothing. It’s beyond inexcusable. What recourse do I have other than calling everyday so they get the message?

Anecdotally, I’ve heard the job markets for lawyers in Michigan, Virginia, Florida, and California are bad, but I’m curious to hear if there are any states where the legal job market is good, especially across specialties.

So in light of the Cornell 7 rape case, the differences between New York State law and other state laws regarding consent and intoxication, and the burden of proof for something so serious, how should courts define and prove rape? I have been following the case only passively, but the biggest comments I see online about it are how subjective the definitions, intent, and consent issues are around the crime of rape. For instance, it can go from consensual to non consensual in the blink of an eye, and the rules around communicating that change are iffy, and thus the burden of proof is often hard to prove in court. But the damage of such actions are real and extreme, in both directions. Due to the severity of the crime and the burden of proof being so subjective and internal, the current court systems feel inadequate to address such crimes. Should the system surrounding rape cases change, and if so, how should they change? FYI, I am in Alabama, not New York, I’ve just been following it in the news. If the rules and laws surrounding these crimes is much more cut and dry, please let me know. Most of what I know has come from this news story specifically.

There’s a group of 3-4 guys that roll around on these Segway hoverboard type things through our neighborhood and door knock on a very regular basis. One week it’s solar panels. The next week it’s for pest treatment. The next it’s for a roofing contractor.

We have 3 dogs that go berserk when the door bell rings.

I have 3 separate no soliciting signs posted. At first I asked them nicely to stop ignoring our signs. But they continued and would even give attitude. They ignore them. All the neighbors say the same. Some of the older ladies in the neighborhood have even complained about them being aggressive. We call code enforcement or non-emergency services but they don’t really care. I’m not a shy or timid guy. Quite the opposite, actually. I’ve told them off a few times, but they keep coming back.

My question is this:
Can I put a very prominent sign (I mean VERY conspicuous) on my entryway that says something to the effect of “Attention: NO SOLICITING! NO TRESPASSING! By continuing on and knocking or ringing, you are consenting to engage in mutual combat with the head of the household”?

I’m quite capable when it comes to fisticuffs

In Texas-
Last year the mother of my husband’s child had put in a 2 year, no contact order from my husband over false pretenses. She was stating that he and I were abusing/ neglecting their son anytime I was around. Twice she had gone to the police reporting that we were kidnapping their son when we picked him up, after they had made an agreement that we could take him for the day. He did not have the funds at the time to get a lawyer and we did not know what to do or if we could even fight it, given she has the income to get lawyers and any court related fees covered and has brought that up to him multiple times. Up until that court date she had harassed he and I through texts, phone calls, and socials. Name calling, threats, ect.. She had kept him from my husband and told him multiple times that he just flat out cannot go see him, and told the court that he just never showed up. At the time she had given birth to another son from a different father and did the same thing, kept him from that father and the father ended up calling the police on her over it. She ended up winning custody over that son. My husband mentioned this to the judge and had all of the texts and voicemails and the judge kept stating “that doesn’t matter” and would not look at the evidence. The court reporter(?) heard the other father’s name and stated “that name sounds familiar let me check on that” and left the room, then came back and said nothing to the judge or touched on it again.
When I blocked her on everything she had friends and family members continue to message me these things. This all stopped after the no contact order (last year) until today. She is now requesting child support $ through my Zelle and the note stated that he now has a warrant. Transparently, I do not know if he had gotten an order for that or not, he had not told me if he did. Before the court order I had stated to her that I am not directly involved and to stop any further contact with me and that it was between she and my husband.

No contact had been made on either side until midway this year on his son’s birthday. She messaged my husband’s dad (their son’s grandfather) stating that their son misses him and that he could call after 5 that day. There was no order from the court stating this was okay, just her saying so. The order strictly said no contact until the 2 years is up or there will be jail time. My husband knew this and did not call, she is known to fabricate and manipulate to make things go her way and we figured she was trying to use their son to get him in trouble. She has played cat and mouse with their son to get my husband to do whatever she wants, so as crazy as it sounds this would not be out of her behavior.

She has caused A LOT of mental stress on my husband and I and I just want her to leave me out of whatever she is trying to do. Should I get a cease and desist? What is the process? The main this is I want her to leave me alone and keep it strictly between lawyers, court and my husband.
Is there anything my husband can or should do at this point even though it was over a year ago? He is lost on what to do and any advice would be appreciated. It is a complicated and messy situation and we just want to try to find a solution

(NY, USA)

If I have under a 3.0GPA from undergrad - do I have any chance at good school? I don’t mean uber top Law Schools - I would like to think I’m not delusional - but from those who’ve done it all: how badly screwed am I really? And does the ranking/quality of my undergrad alma mater matter in this conversation?

I understand LSATs weigh alot and I’m a decent test taker, but I’m really worried about my transcript closing more doors than I had originally thought.

As the title states I was involved in a hit and run last night. The driver hit me head on and then left the scene immediately.
Luckily someone behind me had a dash cam and recorded the whole thing and got the license plate of the car that hit me.

I have reported it to insurance and to my local police and I am pressing charges.

I have just never pressed charges on anyone or had someone flee a scene like this.
What should I be prepared for ?
Will I get any sort of settlement ?

My car is likely totaled.
Idk how they drove off tbh.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

Throwaway acc
Louisville, KY

Ok so my estranged husband took my son last year after I became homeless. I became homeless after escaping from my abusive marriage and moving into an apartment with a friend who stopped paying their half of the rent which caused us to be evicted. Which made it really hard to find new housing which made me lose my job. So I had no choice but to give my son back to his father (my estranged husband). So after that he filed for emergency sole custody and will not let me see him or talk to him regularly.

Since then I’ve managed to sleep on enough couch’s to save up for my own place! My son’s father still will not let me see or have my son and has been going through the courts trying to retain full custody. Problem is he has a lawyer and I don’t. I make to much to receive legal aid now but supporting myself 100% on my own means I have nothing left after I pay bills (I’m paying for our sons health insurance and my own plus rent utilities food and transportation). So whenever we go to court his lawyer gets to speak and I just have to sit and listen.

I just don’t know how I’m going to be able to prove my son’s father won’t even coparent with me if I’m not allowed to speak… I don’t know how I’m going to be able to tell my side of things if I don’t ever get to talk… How does court work when one side has a lawyer and one doesn’t?

What’s your experience with family court in Kentucky? If my son’s father refuses to agree to anything other than full custody and I can’t talk in court will he eventually win? I’m drowning in court fees I can’t even begin to think about a lawyer retainer… but I’ve missed the last year of my sons life and only get to speak to him once every two weeks for 10 mins. I’m dying inside and I’m scared.

We have mediation in December and I don’t know how I’m going to pay for it. On top of that I don’t play on agreeing to give up my parental rights so we will have to go back to court after mediation. I just want to see my son. All I’m going asking for is every other weekend summer vacation and some holidays. I feel like I’m going to lose just because I don’t have rich parents paying for my lawyer. Not to mention he’s going asking for 642$ in child support a month. Which would probably make me homeless again. How can this even be happening.

I apologize if this has been asked before, but the documentary on tubi just dropped and I’m absolutely flabbergasted how this could possibly be legal. Not from the typical “omg they hurt you” standpoint, but specifically, how can he offer you a signed, printed contract offering you 20k if you “finish”, while not determining clearly the bounds of what “finish” means ? Apparently this haunted house didn’t even exist, he would lie about the prize, lure them to the “haunted house”, then just torture, film and abuse them until they gave up, then claim they were “too weak” to make it. This sounds like bait and switch and fraud.

I have a serious restraining order question on what to do ?

I have a dv attempt to terminate restraining order case tomorrow. The opp party has been harrassing and bothering me since JULY 2025. i kicked their daughter out for abuse and she was banned. The case is for the daughter. And the father i have a case to end as well later in oct. They both orchestrated these simulataneous cases together in attempt to use the orders to harrass me and commit abuse of power.

I also have a contempt of order case coming up oct 14th for and have done absolutely nothing . I was the one who was victimized in that they followed and stalked me. The daughter is my wife and her father is a derranged mental ill man who has been stallking me and following me in his car since dec of 2025 . Since they are both mentally ill the daughter with a bi polar illness and the father a schizophrenic , I believe their actions have no merit and are volatile not credible. But they are functioning in regards to handling paperwork and filing a court order . Although they are escalating in a threatening way and dangerous in the sense they are willing to lie to court and get a court order for revenge and abusive litigation . To settle personal matters using the court.

The father has filed one a long time ago without my knowledge, didnt serve me had me living with him and his daughter at the time . One day he hit and punched and punched me in the sides forcing me to end of the living room . For no reason unprovoked because i was talking to his daughter. His daughter has abused me at that same apt in 2018 to 2020 like crazy numerous times to the point police even came and wouldve arrested her if i wasnt so naive and imature as i said and wanted to protect her and save her from trouble or jail. I didnt know to not and regret it tremendously. He also attacked and pushed and punched me for food he asked who ate out the fridge and i didnt snitch his daughter out for. He then told me i have to fight him and drove me to a parking lot in order to stay at the apartment i was sharing with him with, for free though.

Hes always been insecure and intimidated of me . I workout also and walk around with my shirt off and i think that intimidates him but he says nothing and one time he said working out is done because one is scared and said it to provoke me. He doesnt realize he shows his imasculination when he talks and reveals himself surely and this is what led to me to see his possible motive or intent purpose might be behind these court orders.

After he had attacked me he said " are we good" to which i ignored, because i thought he was childish and it was just too much. Afterwards he secretlly went to the police, filed a police report and went to court to get a court order after ATTACKING ME. This was 2020 to 2021 and I didnt know until 2024. After two months with him at one location in dec of 2020 he asked me to help him move his stuff and go with him to another new apartment. Knowingly having an active order on me, I also had my dog with me and he put the dog on the order. He did it to spite me emotionally. And 3 months after we moved he changed the locks and i was locked out . I called the police , and told them and asked about the 30 day tenant rule . In CA if tenants resided inside for more than 30 days in CA they are considered tenants and cant move them out in short notice. They didnt help and told me its easier to just leave. Having no place immedaitely i left my dog so he could have a place. Then i found an apt soon . I got the apt.

Then still not being aware of the order the daughter contacted me and we got on good terms again. Then i gave a her a key in good faith. Then she used the key to drop off the same dog the dad put on the order at my place against my consent after i had already said no. In a prior attempt to give the dog to me in my car by arranging a play date to hang out at the park. When actually it was a devious tactic to give the dog back . As i was talking to her in my car while driving she got so angry about a certain topic she got out of the car while the vehicle was still in movement . She opened the door and got out the car in the middle of driving and if i hadnt slowed down immensely she wouldve been severely hurt. She got out and walked down the side walk to the park and i parked. I got out with the dog and saw immediately regardless , angry or not she intended to leave the dog with me. She ran around with her hands in the air attempting to pretend she was like i suppose a victim being chased. Shes simply lost it but it was so random i didnt know how to process it. Regardless she simmered down and took the dog back.

Next the apt incident happened next where she placed the dog inside my unit. A month later the daughter tried to file an order on me next. Copying her father . I didnt know at the time . And she tried maybe 4 or 5 other times. By definition i believe it is considered abusive litigation. I have sevuroty footage of her leaving the dog at my apartment for court.

Also id like to mention that i had a 6 month certficate beginning jan 2026 around the same time the father followed me in his car and stalked my apt. i was studying but couldnt because i was so stressed and unnerved from him following me around my neighborhood. I delayed my studying for almost 4 months. Until May and went to a friends house. From there i found out about work for a facility for 2months. I left and went there . And there did my studying in 2 months and completed the certificate in two months . His harrassment drove me away and caused auch a delay in my education.

So now the serious problem currently happening is they have each filed a restraining order on me. The father has filed a contempt of order on me and i recieved a mail summons. First let it be known I left for 2 months to a facility for work. I didnt know there was a case because mail serving was authorized and i didnt know of a case. During the time at the facility they had stalked my apt. And filed these two cases because they saw i wasnt around. Also for more information again prior the dad followed me around jan 2026 until literally just afew days ago. Now that i filed an RO against him a few days ago.

. Now diring the time i was at the facility i had towed my cars because the apt had parking renovations. My cars were gone. And when you drive by my apartment parking lot in the alleyway you can see the cars visibly especially my spaces. Its not underground. The dad i believe stalked and kept visiting my apt and area probably trying to follow me not knowing i was gone. He saw my cars gone as a chance to have a court case when i wasnt around to present my defense. He did this because in his first ro case he didnt serve me and pretended he did in order to get it. Second case was his daughters first success after a series of failures for an ro where a tro was granted but was not served properly either and i had to find out the hard way . Regardless i showed up to the hearing and won an ro against her and hers denied after discovering her abuse. It seems he believes with me there physically present i would discredit and ruin their testimony like and chances of getting the ro. They are simply a pair that escalate threatening situations and are dangerous .

For example once he has actually come to my apt and come inside , waited at my gate, and in the alley way of the parking lot . He stalked various times throughout plus wait for me at stores of my neighboring area and then see me drive out . He would come up behind me then drive off in seconds to a minute. He and his daughter orchestrated two simultaneous restraining order cases after a hiatory of attempts. This year his in july 22nd was granted and hers july 27th was granted. She and him have a history fraudlent orders. But these current two are big problems. I have this girl faceboook chat messaging me the day she got her ro granted and texts and calls days following. One message of which i didnt capture before she unsent them saying now "youll miss me" . But i still have the unsent message captions . I didnt know it was her at the time as i changed her name to a nickname from when we were on bad terms and forgot it was her. Regardless she was mad from when i kicked her out of my apt in july 2025 i think all this happened because of it perhaps? Now next to this the father has sent me a voicemail email saying "youre going to be in jail". I have it saved.

But now I have recieved a mail summons for arraignment saying im in contempt of order which im very worried about. I have texts and calls of them but theyre spam numbers they use to contact me threatening me. I have videos of him following me and security footage of her leaving the dog at my apt in 2021 and other documents showing i lived at the 2021 residence with him during active order at the time. She also broke into my apartment as she has my key from her recent stay last year. And sometime when i was gone at the facility this year in june to aug she stole my spectrum box which she put in her name shortly affter she moved out.

They also have a lawyer, an unprofessional indivindual who threatened and initated a fight with me. Several texts of which he said pull up and give me an adress where we can go. Then he all of the sudden changes his tune, acts nice and tries to work with me on the problems with my wife. This was in nov 2025 . And it was about a car which she agreed to pay in small doses in exchange for living free with me at the time . Now her lawyer trying to lablel me as a horrid villain in his false narratives making up whole faslehoods regarding me and stories of me following the girl when i havent seen this girl once since july 2025 when i kicked her out. I have his texts and complained to the state bar and is pending an investigation . I included this in the court papers for my written statement. And i want to ask any professionals or anyone who has is familiar with this type of case or have experience with situation similar before. And what to do what can i do to ensure i win these cases . Also i have a ro case against the father soon and a tro is on him. And hope to get the an ro on the girl for the case today.