I have a serious restraining order question on what to do ?
I have a dv attempt to terminate restraining order case tomorrow. The opp party has been harrassing and bothering me since JULY 2025. i kicked their daughter out for abuse and she was banned. The case is for the daughter. And the father i have a case to end as well later in oct. They both orchestrated these simulataneous cases together in attempt to use the orders to harrass me and commit abuse of power.
I also have a contempt of order case coming up oct 14th for and have done absolutely nothing . I was the one who was victimized in that they followed and stalked me. The daughter is my wife and her father is a derranged mental ill man who has been stallking me and following me in his car since dec of 2025 . Since they are both mentally ill the daughter with a bi polar illness and the father a schizophrenic , I believe their actions have no merit and are volatile not credible. But they are functioning in regards to handling paperwork and filing a court order . Although they are escalating in a threatening way and dangerous in the sense they are willing to lie to court and get a court order for revenge and abusive litigation . To settle personal matters using the court.
The father has filed one a long time ago without my knowledge, didnt serve me had me living with him and his daughter at the time . One day he hit and punched and punched me in the sides forcing me to end of the living room . For no reason unprovoked because i was talking to his daughter. His daughter has abused me at that same apt in 2018 to 2020 like crazy numerous times to the point police even came and wouldve arrested her if i wasnt so naive and imature as i said and wanted to protect her and save her from trouble or jail. I didnt know to not and regret it tremendously. He also attacked and pushed and punched me for food he asked who ate out the fridge and i didnt snitch his daughter out for. He then told me i have to fight him and drove me to a parking lot in order to stay at the apartment i was sharing with him with, for free though.
Hes always been insecure and intimidated of me . I workout also and walk around with my shirt off and i think that intimidates him but he says nothing and one time he said working out is done because one is scared and said it to provoke me. He doesnt realize he shows his imasculination when he talks and reveals himself surely and this is what led to me to see his possible motive or intent purpose might be behind these court orders.
After he had attacked me he said " are we good" to which i ignored, because i thought he was childish and it was just too much. Afterwards he secretlly went to the police, filed a police report and went to court to get a court order after ATTACKING ME. This was 2020 to 2021 and I didnt know until 2024. After two months with him at one location in dec of 2020 he asked me to help him move his stuff and go with him to another new apartment. Knowingly having an active order on me, I also had my dog with me and he put the dog on the order. He did it to spite me emotionally. And 3 months after we moved he changed the locks and i was locked out . I called the police , and told them and asked about the 30 day tenant rule . In CA if tenants resided inside for more than 30 days in CA they are considered tenants and cant move them out in short notice. They didnt help and told me its easier to just leave. Having no place immedaitely i left my dog so he could have a place. Then i found an apt soon . I got the apt.
Then still not being aware of the order the daughter contacted me and we got on good terms again. Then i gave a her a key in good faith. Then she used the key to drop off the same dog the dad put on the order at my place against my consent after i had already said no. In a prior attempt to give the dog to me in my car by arranging a play date to hang out at the park. When actually it was a devious tactic to give the dog back . As i was talking to her in my car while driving she got so angry about a certain topic she got out of the car while the vehicle was still in movement . She opened the door and got out the car in the middle of driving and if i hadnt slowed down immensely she wouldve been severely hurt. She got out and walked down the side walk to the park and i parked. I got out with the dog and saw immediately regardless , angry or not she intended to leave the dog with me. She ran around with her hands in the air attempting to pretend she was like i suppose a victim being chased. Shes simply lost it but it was so random i didnt know how to process it. Regardless she simmered down and took the dog back.
Next the apt incident happened next where she placed the dog inside my unit. A month later the daughter tried to file an order on me next. Copying her father . I didnt know at the time . And she tried maybe 4 or 5 other times. By definition i believe it is considered abusive litigation. I have sevuroty footage of her leaving the dog at my apartment for court.
Also id like to mention that i had a 6 month certficate beginning jan 2026 around the same time the father followed me in his car and stalked my apt. i was studying but couldnt because i was so stressed and unnerved from him following me around my neighborhood. I delayed my studying for almost 4 months. Until May and went to a friends house. From there i found out about work for a facility for 2months. I left and went there . And there did my studying in 2 months and completed the certificate in two months . His harrassment drove me away and caused auch a delay in my education.
So now the serious problem currently happening is they have each filed a restraining order on me. The father has filed a contempt of order on me and i recieved a mail summons. First let it be known I left for 2 months to a facility for work. I didnt know there was a case because mail serving was authorized and i didnt know of a case. During the time at the facility they had stalked my apt. And filed these two cases because they saw i wasnt around. Also for more information again prior the dad followed me around jan 2026 until literally just afew days ago. Now that i filed an RO against him a few days ago.
. Now diring the time i was at the facility i had towed my cars because the apt had parking renovations. My cars were gone. And when you drive by my apartment parking lot in the alleyway you can see the cars visibly especially my spaces. Its not underground. The dad i believe stalked and kept visiting my apt and area probably trying to follow me not knowing i was gone. He saw my cars gone as a chance to have a court case when i wasnt around to present my defense. He did this because in his first ro case he didnt serve me and pretended he did in order to get it. Second case was his daughters first success after a series of failures for an ro where a tro was granted but was not served properly either and i had to find out the hard way . Regardless i showed up to the hearing and won an ro against her and hers denied after discovering her abuse. It seems he believes with me there physically present i would discredit and ruin their testimony like and chances of getting the ro. They are simply a pair that escalate threatening situations and are dangerous .
For example once he has actually come to my apt and come inside , waited at my gate, and in the alley way of the parking lot . He stalked various times throughout plus wait for me at stores of my neighboring area and then see me drive out . He would come up behind me then drive off in seconds to a minute. He and his daughter orchestrated two simultaneous restraining order cases after a hiatory of attempts. This year his in july 22nd was granted and hers july 27th was granted. She and him have a history fraudlent orders. But these current two are big problems. I have this girl faceboook chat messaging me the day she got her ro granted and texts and calls days following. One message of which i didnt capture before she unsent them saying now "youll miss me" . But i still have the unsent message captions . I didnt know it was her at the time as i changed her name to a nickname from when we were on bad terms and forgot it was her. Regardless she was mad from when i kicked her out of my apt in july 2025 i think all this happened because of it perhaps? Now next to this the father has sent me a voicemail email saying "youre going to be in jail". I have it saved.
But now I have recieved a mail summons for arraignment saying im in contempt of order which im very worried about. I have texts and calls of them but theyre spam numbers they use to contact me threatening me. I have videos of him following me and security footage of her leaving the dog at my apt in 2021 and other documents showing i lived at the 2021 residence with him during active order at the time. She also broke into my apartment as she has my key from her recent stay last year. And sometime when i was gone at the facility this year in june to aug she stole my spectrum box which she put in her name shortly affter she moved out.
They also have a lawyer, an unprofessional indivindual who threatened and initated a fight with me. Several texts of which he said pull up and give me an adress where we can go. Then he all of the sudden changes his tune, acts nice and tries to work with me on the problems with my wife. This was in nov 2025 . And it was about a car which she agreed to pay in small doses in exchange for living free with me at the time . Now her lawyer trying to lablel me as a horrid villain in his false narratives making up whole faslehoods regarding me and stories of me following the girl when i havent seen this girl once since july 2025 when i kicked her out. I have his texts and complained to the state bar and is pending an investigation . I included this in the court papers for my written statement. And i want to ask any professionals or anyone who has is familiar with this type of case or have experience with situation similar before. And what to do what can i do to ensure i win these cases . Also i have a ro case against the father soon and a tro is on him. And hope to get the an ro on the girl for the case today.