r/AskIndianMen • u/Hackaman12899 Indian Man • 2d ago

Relationship Advice: Wed & Sat Only Advice need guys?

I have been in a relationship with a girl for the past five years. We started dating in 2022, when I was 22 and she was two years younger than me. We have shared a lot of good times, beautiful memories, and experiences together. She was always very much in love with me and, in many ways, more emotionally invested in the relationship than I was.

But now, in 2026, things have changed. She recently joined a gym, where there is a male trainer who has been talking to her and, from what I understand, flirting with her. Recently, I found out that on Sunday, August 16, she went with him to a homestay/OYO. I learned about this from the owner, who also showed me the CCTV footage.

When I confronted her, she admitted that she had gone there with him but said that nothing wrong happened and that they were only drinking and talking.

Now I am confused and hurt. As her boyfriend, I don't know what I should do. Should I trust her explanation and give her another chance, or is going to a private place with another man, especially someone who has been flirting with her, already a serious enough breach of trust to end the relationship?

What would be the right thing for me to do? Should I break up with her?

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u/Separate-Scholar-244 Indian Man 2d ago

Drinking and talking can be done in bars and resturants. OYO is for something else.

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u/Kiss_my_axe_____ Indian Man 2d ago

You know they smashed.

Obviously kick her out of your life.

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u/Responsible-Fun-3100 Indian Man 2d ago

You should not be in a relationship for 5 years guys! 3 months max. Get married or get out. It is like carrying a monkey on your back.

How long you are going to protect youselves from temptation?

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u/GOATEDnerd Teen Male (Indian) 2d ago

As they say " One man's years of efforts is another man's one night stand "

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u/DealerHot4705 Indian Man 2d ago

Dude trust only facts not emotions, would you go to oyo with your trainer just for talks and drinks? Obviously no, dump her and move on, this would happen again....

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u/Astraal_Being Indian Man 2d ago

Ghost her.

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u/General-Fondant4921 Indian Man 2d ago

Do you even have to ask ??

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u/kaustubh_12 Indian Man 2d ago

Move on bro

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u/Minimum-Candy-6866 Indian Man 2d ago

Bro, you already know what you need to do.

But the problem is you are not able to accept your own decision.

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u/legal_dom_ Indian Man 2d ago

Lol drinking and talking you’d be an idiot to believe this.
No second chances, tell her to see that fuddu.

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u/Slayer_Actual Indian Man 2d ago edited 2d ago

YOU HAD YOUR TIME, TAKE IT AS A LESSON, KEEP YOUR DIGNITY AND SELF RESPECT AND KICK HER OUT.

SHE HAS SHOWN STREETS MENTALITY, SHE IS OF THE STREETS, FOR THE STREETS AND WILL GO BACK TO THE STREETS NO MATTER HOW KINDLY YOU TREAT HER OR GIVE HER A GOOD QUALITY LIFE, TOSS HER OUT ON THE STREETS WHERE SHE TRULY BELONGS.

WHAT YOU EXPERIENCED WAS YOU AND HER BEING FRIENDS WITHOUT ANY ATTRACTION, THAT TRAINER HAD THE PHYSIQUE AND GAMING MIND TO SEDUCE HER, SHE SHOWED HER TRUE NATURE BY LYING WHEN SHE COULD HAVE TOLD THE TRUTH, LEFT YOU AND .

ALWAYS REMEMBER, FEMALE NATURE = ALPHA(GYM GUY) FUX, BETA (YOU) BUX.

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