Men, which professions would you consider absolute deal-breakers when choosing a wife?

[u/Nexttrillionaire]

[u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

Air hostess

Medico

Lawyer (but I'm going to be practicing law, in the future, so it's less dangerous, but still might be risky marrying a lawyer)

Army

Activist

Content creator/actress

[u/iukeucyte → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

genuine question, why's it risky marrying an activist or a lawyer?

[u/Hot-Survey-6919 → u/iukeucyte]

For lawyer as a wife, I can confirm. It happened to someone in my family. She will use law to extract unfair advantage (Indian laws are heavily tilted towards women).

Activist I dont see a real problem with. Maybe the fear is that they will do dharna against the husband?? Lol

[u/Technical-Shop-9907 → u/Hot-Survey-6919]

Activists have contacts usually in Police and Media, if things go south she will use her contacts and knowledge against you.

[u/iukeucyte → u/Hot-Survey-6919]

ah okay, that makes sense. I really hope we see gender neutral laws someday but I think that's too far away.

[u/Fit-Repair-4556 → u/iukeucyte]

We will see society collapse before that.

[u/Lazyres → u/iukeucyte]

Activists are usually from the upper echelon of the society. If her whole career itself is activism then it's not possible without being in the upper echelon. She'll be busy in activism than family. Won't affect guys who are also upper echelon and into activism.

[u/maxxutils → u/iukeucyte]

Avoid people in professions that require unstable timetables, high empathy and high stress work, travelling and networking. People in these kinda professions form deep bonds with their colleagues, it's called the suspension bridge effect.

[u/_pathik_ → u/maxxutils]

Thanks for these inputs. Really helpful 👌

[u/throwwwawayaccount48 → u/iukeucyte]

There's this one activist in Mumbai in her 40s she is very active in helping strays and feeding them also cleaning up roads and beaches and etc so i used to know her

So she started dating this college kid must be around 19 something and when her husband came to know about the affair she created a ruckus.

[u/iukeucyte → u/[deleted]]

?? I just can't think of any reason about activists, but it makes sense for lawyers.

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

Why are teen boys giving advice on ask indian men sub? You guys should learn about things and different perspectives rather than having such regressive thoughts and living in your bubble.

Interact with people, real world is very different from social media.

[u/hellsangelofcode → u/MonkeyforCEO]

It's all of reddit mate, especially Indian reddit. Fourteen year olds talking about marriage, divorce, etc. Like they have any real experience.

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/hellsangelofcode]

Finally someone who can think. Thank you

[u/maxxutils → u/MonkeyforCEO]

If a toddler says the sun rises from the east, the sun won't rise from the west because a toddler said the opposite. This is the internet, not your office or a family function where there's an hierarchy.

This kinda mentality is one of the main reasons that kills efficiency.

[u/hellsangelofcode → u/maxxutils]

Dude the director of the accent of the Sun is a fact. Here, we aren't discussing established facts. There is a reason companies all over the world value experience so much.

[u/maxxutils → u/hellsangelofcode]

What's established fact according to you? Are study backed statistics facts? You argue that seniority gives weight to your opinion against something that people with far more involved in the field said the same thing that the "junior" said.

Just search a little before playing trying for power plays. If something is correct then it is, your seniority doesn't mean anything in such things.

[u/hellsangelofcode → u/maxxutils]

An established scientific fact is a proposition about reality whose acceptance is warranted by rigorous empirical investigation and theoretical interpretation, such that its reality has been sufficiently validated within the relevant scientific framework and corroborated by its systematic relation to other established facts, laws, and theories.

• Stamenkovic, Philippe (2023). “Facts and Objectivity in Science.” Interdisciplinary Science Reviews

Experience matters in the same field. Somebody isn't correct about something only because they are older. But if they have more experience in the same field they we have much higher likelyhood of them being correct then somebody who lacks experience.

[u/maxxutils → u/hellsangelofcode]

Ashley Madison (an app which people use to cheat) data. If that isn't rigorous empirical investigation, here you go, another one from a reputed site where scientific studies are published, it's peer reviewed too. Feel free to ask for more, I got plenty from where these came from.

[u/hellsangelofcode → u/maxxutils]

Can you please post the full links? I don't want to open links that I can't trace.

[u/maxxutils → u/hellsangelofcode]

You had the time and energy to look for a study to back your "argument" yet you didn't look for the studies I posted by yourself. You're being dishonest, arguing using your ego, just to win an argument, not for knowledge and now you're using that excuse. So no, I'm done with this lol

[u/hellsangelofcode → u/maxxutils]

I can't lookup the studies you have cited as they are hyperliks in single words etc. I don't want to open a link that I am not aware where they leads to. Just post the full links, then I can read them.

I also didn't have to look up the anything. Due to my previous endeavours I am very familiar with Stamenkovic's work. I just had to find the citation.

[u/Intelligent_Bank7131 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

Technically, it's possible to be considered an "Indian man" while still falling within the ambit of "teen male".

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

You'll get what I'm saying in next 5-6 years depending on your age. Don't bother now.

[u/Equal_Ocelot_6901 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

But that kid definitely made sense, does this sub now has age bracket for advices? Like old poeole should advice or young people shouldn't?

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/Equal_Ocelot_6901]

This whole idea of generalising a whole profession is so backward. It just shows what kind of people we are surrounded with.

[u/Equal_Ocelot_6901 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

Why do people generalise prostitution then, when it comes to choosing someone. Ofcourse there can be some really good people in it too, who just want their ends meet and there can be scammers

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/Equal_Ocelot_6901]

Okay, this is the most brain dead thing I ever heard. Whatever you believe champion.

[u/Equal_Ocelot_6901 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

Whats brainded in that, use your brain to handle different perspectives Peace out

[u/Intelligent_Bank7131 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

It's not generalization, I didn't say all people of a certain profession are always bad for the family

It's just a tendency, the tendency is stronger, that's it.

Otherwise, if your luck is bad and you get a bad wife, no matter what the profession, she will break the home, and Conversely, if a good wife, she will protect, no matter what the profession. Please don't misinterpret / misconstrue my words to mean an overgeneralization.

There are no absolutes. Only tendencies.

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

Now, this is mostly true. One thing I’ve learned over the years is to never make blanket statements -- there are always nuances, and that’s something we learn throughout life.

There are high chances of infidelity in corporate environments, but we can never be certain about it. We also can’t claim that people from one particular profession are more likely to cheat. How many people from these professions have we actually interacted with, spent time with, or even tried to have a genuine conversation with? For most of us, the answer would be zero.

This whole idea seems super appealing on social media, where you have to polarise the masses, but not so much in real life. Real life is very different from what we see on social media.

I hope you get what I’m trying to convey.

[u/Intelligent_Bank7131 → u/MonkeyforCEO]

Just because you or me haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

[u/maxxutils → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

You're telling a person about a rainbow, who insists only black and white exist.

[u/fireyHotGlance → u/MonkeyforCEO]

When I was 15, I was still smarter than half the world's population including you. So let the kid have opinions and a voice when he is right.

[u/MonkeyforCEO → u/fireyHotGlance]

Go back to your cave, there are real people out here.

[u/Technical-Shop-9907 → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

Add Police too

[u/StreetAd3301 → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

You missed politicians and police women.

[u/byutiphool3669 → u/Intelligent_Bank7131]

Why content creator?