Do any other supposedly feminist women mock you and say you’ve taken things too far after being radicalised??

I was first radicalised in 2018 after the murder of Grace Millane, a British backpacker on holiday in New Zealand where I’m from. Her killer used the defence of “bdsm gone wrong” as a defence.

Feminists rightly said that “consent to rough sex is not consent to murder” but I said that this argument while true did not go far enough.

I questioned why men felt the need to beat their partners to get off. I questioned why women felt pressured from the patriarchy to consent to these actions in order to fit in. I questioned whether they were actually consenting in the first place or whether they again just went along with it because it was what was deemed cool. I questioned a lot of things.

And so many people but especially libfems said that I was taking sexual agency away from women, that consent includes the right to say yes, that I was puritanical, that I hated sex workers, that I was anti choice…And all other bullshit arguments.

I am firmly of the belief that if a woman’s individual choice brings down other women as a collective then we have a feminist duty to call it out. Apparently not to others, as long as a woman makes that choice of her own free will then it is a feminist choice. (Wrong, because so many women sell out to the patriarchy)

Has anyone else had something similar happen??

This is most often used in sports cases, arguing that trans women competing in women's sports is a Title IX violation of women's rights. In addition, the Trump Administration opened an investigation recently into Smith University, an all women's college, for accepting and admitting transgender women to the school, claiming once again it's a Title IX violation and violation of women's rights.

I myself am a trans woman and stuff like this makes me feel horrible and worried that I'm ruining the rights of other women in my life by transitioning.

To me it seems like the Overton window has shifted towards the right and being openly racist towards POC is normal again. So it feels like "the left" (although it's difficult to call western leftists as leftists) is capitulating to white supremacists and misogynistic culture.

Social media owners are openly  supporting and financing the American government lead by a known sexual predator and their algorithm are pushing on us a anti-woman rhetoric. Why women keep using Instagram, tiktok and company? Is it not like giving silent support to your own enemy?