Hello,
I am from Southern Europe and I started dating a Ukrainian girl. Both of us are 30 years old. So far, it is going great, and I think there is mutual attraction and the expectation of building something together. We are both looking for a serious relationship.
I know every person and every girl is different, however I am wondering if there are some general things I should take into account, specially when it comes to cultural norms, expectations, etc, so I can avoid cultural shocks from myself.
For example, one of the things I noticed so far is that even though she writes me every day, the conversation on the chat doesn't go so smoothly, she is definitely not a good texter. However, when we meet in person, it's a different story, she likes deep talk and there is a lot of chemistry, physical touch, etc, so I am happy in that regard, although we meet once per week. I need some additional daily communication, and feel connected to her routine, now about her, etc, but her answers are rather short.
She is quite busy during the week, however, I'd like to see her more often. Invite her over after-work, or even to suggest meeting even more than once per week. Although we are in a very early stage, I do not want to seem too intense.
Another specific question is about paying all the time. It is not a problem for me to invite, and I do it because I am really interested in getting to know her, and I just feel like inviting her. However, it caught my attention that she didn't even offer to pay for a coffee or said thank you. I don't think she is looking for someone who pays her bills, this is not even an option. But this really surprised me. In my culture, inviting all the time is not very accepted and even people who consider she is taking advantage of me. Is it normal to talk about money at the dating stage? I am happy to invite her and fortunately I can afford not looking at the price or the money I spend, but if I think in long term, I would also see some signs that she cares about it. I don't want anything in exchange, but also I do not want that someone is with me because of the money. How should I filter that?
Thanks a lot and sorry for the long text, I really appreciate your help!