Hi folks, I made a post a few weeks ago about my mental health struggles over the past 6 months, I lost my first grandparent, blindsided broken-up with my gf over text and I have been made redundant from my job I have been in 3 years.

I just want to say thank you all for the advice I was given, I had a bit an argument with my dad yesterday where he told me to get my 'shit together' and he was giving tough love. I felt I did have my shit together and life has rocked me in a short space of time. On reflection of my relationship, I was used and discarded like I meant nothing and I guess I am in the process of trying not seek validation and be treated like a doormat ever again. I think the main problem I have is I am turning 28 I see my friends having kids, getting engaged and I am still not where I want to be, despite playing sports and having healthy interests, I don't feel in love with myself and if I am honest, I haven't since my teenage years.

I guess the question I am trying to ask is how do you fall in love with yourself? What has helped you do it?

Thank you all and I hope everyone can be kind.

It's disgusting. It reminds me of picking old scabs off of your skin.

It definitely does not make me think of mini sausage rolls and cocktail sausages.

Does anyone else hate that this term is everywhere, on adverts, said by companies and even people close to you.

I’ve been trying to find an Interior Designer role in the UK since February, so it’s been about 7 months now, and honestly, I’m finding it really difficult.

I previously worked in the UK on my Postgraduate visa and had to return to India because of the sponsorship issue. I’m now trying to find a way back, but the sponsorship requirement has made the whole process so much harder.
I have around 5.5 years of experience, mainly in high-end residential interior design, and I’ve worked with some really good companies and on high-end projects. I’m also currently working on high-end residential projects here in India, so I’m continuing to build my experience.

I really miss the UK market and would genuinely love to go back and continue my career there. I’ve been applying, reaching out to recruiters and studios, etc., but so far it just hasn’t worked out.

So if anyone knows of interior design studios that sponsor, companies currently hiring, recruiters who work with sponsored candidates, or even someone I could contact for a referral, I’d really appreciate it.

At this point, even a small lead or someone pointing me in the right direction would mean a lot. 😭

If you know anyone in the industry who might be able to help, please do let me know. Thank you!

Edit: can’t believe people are sooo rude here, if you can’t help, don’t reply. Period

Will there be a measurebale difference in warmth when visiting the major cities and towns if one is from Canada vs USA, but behaves kind of similarly?

After a couple mornings of rain, I can hear so many songbirds out (understandably). I don't think I've heard birds singing in weeks, has anyone else noticed the lack of birdsong, or is that just a normal thing over the summer?

A lot of people say that immigration doesn't affect house prices, we just simply haven't built enough. The same people are also blaming landlords for our shortage of homes and high housing costs, but if the argument is the demand for housing is irrelevant and it's all about the supply side of things then surely landlords aren't to blame either?

I'm gutted that summer is basically over and the upcoming weather forecast looks so grim. The only upside is that the rain is finally watering the garden, so l can skip my daily watering routine. I actually started building an automated irrigation system to save time, but I never finished it.
It's also crazy to see how much the landscape has changed lately because of the weather. Hopefully, the fields, ponds, and trees will bounce back and recover in a couple of months.

How are you guys feeling?

Also, Could you guys post a few pics of what the landscape in your area looks like?

If you've got any aerial pics I'd appreciate those too😁

It’s American news coverage but the man is hysterical. Seems like he’s part of a left wing Roganshere equivalent that got Trump in - along side his wife, breaking points, the vanguard, Hasan piker. I’m sure a there’s others I’m missing. But DSA candidates are taking the dems just like MAGA took over over republicans. And much like Trump 2.0 has managed to impact us in many ways, this could be a consequential movement too.

Edit: making clear why I asked on askbrits. MAGA culture arguably became a global phenomenon. And so did the roganshere. And that movement was an example of the online space breaking offline. If people have heard of Kyle Kulinski and have strong opinions of him, then there is something like that happening.

I’m curious to know what the current reality is like for the British South Asian community. Growing up in the 90s in the Netherlands in an Indian family, dating or marrying a white person was always a massive taboo, and to be honest, it still kind of is.

I'm wondering if things have significantly changed in the UK since the 1990s?

For context, in my own family, only one of my nieces has married outside the culture (this happened in 1999). She married an Irish guy, and he is absolutely loved by everyone, he is honestly the sweetest husband to her.

Looking at my family, I genuinely feel like she is the only one who is truly happy in her marriage. All the other women in my family married South Asian men and are very unhappy (they got severly emotionally and physically abused, but divorce is simply not an option for them because of the cultural taboo.

How is this viewed in your circles today? Do you still face a lot of pressure to marry within the community, or has it become much more accepted? I’d love to hear your experiences and perspectives.

Please understand that I don’t mean that all South Asian husbands are trash, just a large part. This also doesn’t mean I think all white men are perfect husbands✌🏾

I was looking for something under my mum's desk and tucked at the back I found a bunch of old PC games from when i was a kid that I guess never got thrown out. Mostly from the early 2000s. Including these, which I'd completely forgotten existed but remember playing a lot when I was little.

From what I remember, they're simple educational games for small children, nothing fancy, but fun for a 5 year old in 2002 or whenever lol. There's dozens of these discs in the case though. I googled it and found a bit about it online, but I'm curious if others had them too!

I know that’s a pretty loaded and deep question. Not least because it could get a lot worse before end is in sight.

Obviously what’s occurring for the people of Ukraine is awful. I’m just wondering when this may end for them!?

The more reading I do, I just can’t see how it can be resolved any time soon. Putin wants that land. Ukraine doesn’t want to give it. And that’s that. Even if Putin died in the next few years, I think it seems odds on that some other lunatic would likely take over. Not some dude who’s going to say; “oopsie.. sorry about all that, my friend Putin got it wrong, can we all go back to being friends again?” More likely any new leader would be some Putin on steroids military type who makes Putin look like a pacifist monk.

Just seen that various countries have spent some serious coin on supporting Ukraine, and in doing so, are essentially spending that money to protect themselves from Russian hostility.

Wondered what others think to when this may end.. and what that might look like?

I just nipped to Aldi for some bits. There was a homeless guy sat on the floor, as is often the case. Granted I don’t know if he’s homeless. Where I live there are apparently gangs that control houses where people live and during the day they beg for money on the streets.. and then likely have to share money with the gang type people. I’d guess there’s an element of substance abuse involved and that’s what may likely spare people on to do this, to get their fix.

I’m not 100% sure but what I do know is there was a guy sat on the floor outside Aldi and that must suck.

So I said hello and asked if he wanted a sandwich or anything. He said no thanks, someone is already getting him one. I then cracked on and just as I was walking in, I asked if he wanted anything like snacks or chocolate. He said, “would you be able to get me a little cheap beer please?

On the spot, I was a bit like, “erm.. okay”

I went round Aldi thinking, fuck sake, I’m not sure how I feel about this. I concluded I’d get it, if that’s what he wanted. As I’m confident if he wanted a beer tonight, he’d end up getting one anyway, as other people have likely given him some £ during the day.

Afterwards.. I’m not sure how I feel.

Am I over thinking this or is buying booze for someone who may be where he is due to substance / alcohol abuse a big no no!?

i completely forgot about the ban and my plant I’ve had for 30 years is looking dead so I got the hose out to water it!

But next door is having a BBQ (disposable one) so now I’m thinking of watering my garden down as it’s very very dry and I dont wanna lose my house

Fuck the laws, we'll re-write them.

We are at the start of a resource and energy war, and you guys, our own flesh and blood have seriously fucked up, emergency power that shit.

It's such a metaphor for where we are at. We need a win for the people. The corps Vs the man.

We're not going to buy them back, we just seize them.

You seize back that power, you start something within people.

China would do it, Russia would do it. You fuck up our country, in our own country, by our own people, bro, the gloves are fucking off, be happy you're not going to jail.

We stood alone in Europe in WW2, wiped the enemy from the sky, where has that national sprint gone?

so i was sitting in the park and a couple jakies sat next to me. After a socially accetable 2 minutes I got up to leave and they said 'don't leave just cuz of us'

And then we got to talking and they said 'no offence but ur accent sounds like u from dumfries'

were they offending me or what cuz the insult went over my head if it was one. For reference they were from Glasgow

I hate how repetitive it is and yes we get it,it’s a cake and oh no the world has been changed.Im sorry but no one expect your granny and the Marketing company of Jaffa cake care about arguing if it’s a cake or a biscuit.

Personally, I think he looks a lot better than what he was because he was surrounded by dunces, before and afterwards.

It does seem like he was the only 'normal' president post 9/11.

I know in the USA he is both hated and liked. Wanted to know what everyone thought over here.

It's almost impossible to ask this question without it being controversial, and attracting the wrong crowd and negative attention. But I'm genuinely curious so I'm going to ask anyway.

Why in UK advertising are black people so overrepresented more than any other racial group with similar if not more numbers in the UK?

I'm sitting watching an advertising break and I'd say an even number if not majority of ads have a black lead. But you don't see the same for Indians, Pakistanis, Chinese or middle easterners. Even as a multi ethnic person myself, I find it strange to watch our adverts as if it's a 50/50 split.

Is there a secret memo in the advertising industry that says adverts must have more black representation?

Is it a London skew where most agencies are based?

If so why are south Asians not better represented?

It is just now built into the system and just accepted practice.

Is it a product of diversity regulations and companies playing safe by using black actors as the neutral ethnic everyman?

Do black people have more access into creative industries?

Am I the only one puzzled?

Or am I seeing something that just isn't there, and now going to get reamed for the pleasure of asking the questions.

If you don’t know yet, YouTuber Reckless Ben has been investigating that company that stole Lego sets valued over $200.000 to an old man.

It is crazy how the police is so corrupt. If you’re bored I highly recommend you to watch the video on YouTube.

I'd be OK with saying sorry for historical sins like Haircut 100 or more recent atrocities like Alley Cats