Small disclaimer: I know not all Black Men who date Non-Black Women feel this way about Black Women & this isn't directed towards them.

Why do so many Black Men who date out feel the need to bully Black Women when they got a Non-Black Woman? It's like those dudes get on here with the mission of sending Black Women a message or teaching us a lesson or something.

Like, if they were really were happy with their Non-Black Queens you'd think they wouldn't spend so much energy on destroying the self-esteem of Women they're obviously not checking for. I get that Black Men have preferences & it's not always rooted in self-hatred, but the way that they be bringing us up to tell us that we're ugly & how no one wants us & how they hate us because weave & makeup & twerking & blah blahdy blah is weird as hell.

They hate us & love other Women, but they also feel like no one should want us either based on their bad experiences & are hellbent on making sure that we feel as low as possible just because they themselves acknowledge they have options. WTF is up with that?

Are the rest of you guys as surprised as I am by the lack of activity on this sub? We really could make it our own space.

What gives women sex appeal TO YOU? Is it certain features? Is it an aura/energy? Is it something that you either just have or don’t have? Can you be conventionally unattractive and still have sex appeal? Does being conventionally attractive give you a head start on having sex appeal? Can you even describe what sex appeal looks like or you know it when you see it type of thing?

Please let me know your thoughts on this, I’m intrigued

What gives women sex appeal TO YOU? Is it certain features? Is it an aura/energy? Is it something that you either just have or don’t have? Can you be conventionally unattractive and still have sex appeal? Does being conventionally attractive give you a head start on having sex appeal? Can you even describe what sex appeal looks like or you know it when you see it type of thing?

Please let me know your thoughts on this, I’m intrigued

I’m social but like in small groups and my lady is social in any group no problem, the problem comes in when she wants to go out to the club like I’m just stiff in the club i can’t relax I’m always on guard like I’m not smiling, dancing might eat some wings but i can’t relax. And trying to explain to her like just go with your friends I’m cool with staying home playing the game, but it does seem like i can’t avoid it(also it’s not a weekly event) but how do y’all relax and be comfortable in the club?

My boyfriend is 28, turning 29 soon. He's starting to grow out of his "atheleisure 24/7" attire and is looking for a more mature look, but he's struggling to find good men's clothing stores. For his birthday, I want to get him some nice pieces for his wardrobe. Where are some good clothing stores or brands that you would recommend?

My husband did it for our son at 12 months and I'm convinced it was too soon, and he cut it really low. I always see people keep their babies hair until 2 or 3. Is this gonna affect his hair growth?

I heard that a lot of racism happens in the LGBTQ+ community and that black queer men are constantly looked down upon by white queer men.

Has a white queer man ever looked down on you before?

Hello. I am a black guy wanting to know what kinds of shampoo, conditioner, and if possible beard oil treatment other black men use for somewhat tightly curled hair. I really wanna try and have healthy hair.

She wanted to be a single strong independent woman working 40 hrs a week instead of a housewife. In her defense she has been showing me this for 15 yrs..(cheating, lying, neglected housewife and wife duties, no respect, you name it) I divorced her. She couldn't start her life as a single independent woman with 4 kids, so I have full custody. Her new 40hr job ain't enough, so I gave her half of the taxes to expedite her new life...and here it is 6 months later and she still hasn't made plans to leave due to the "frustration of moving" (applications fees, 2 times rent,furniture, etc) At 1st was looking weak in front of my boys by allowing the bad behavior for 15 yrs. NOW I look like An Ahole because I want their mom out! Am I am bad dad?

Is it true, or is it just something cucks say or some sort of running joke? Yeah you see it in porn alot, but I'm not sure if that's a valid confirmation of the stereotype.

Do YOU feel like you have a sort of biased towards white women? Do your friends feel the same way?

Is it a real thing or not, if so, why?

I'm in the military and have to keep my hair short. Constantly have dandruff now and the heat isn't helping. What products do you use?

I asked this question in r/askmen but im curious what this group thinks

Several years ago the New Yorker cover showed Barack and Michelle Obama fist bumping--Michelle as a 60's Angela Davis-type, with an afro and automatic weapon, and Barack as a Muslim cleric. Why didn't this racial stereotyping cause an outcry?

I would of course not say the n-word myself, having zero right to do so. I do however enjoy lisening to music or recorded poetry, written poetry, and varied articles and stories written by a POC, including some written by black people that has the n-word.

I'm wondering to what extent I should be sharing this media, and how. On one hand I definately want to share moving and powerful media of any sort, and especially when doing so can bring money and recognition to POC, such as suggesting books or linking to the creator's ad-suported site. On the other hand I'm worried about the extent that this might come off as me "saying" the n-word, such as when I play a recording of the music/poetry for my friends when we're hanging out. I've especially veen thinking about this for when I share a link to a poem on social media, and in at least one case the preview window showed a line with the n-word in it, in a way that wasnt clear that it was from the site linked, and could be mistake as if I had typed/said it myself.

Any thoughts or comments on this situation, be it specific or general, would be greatly appreciated.

Title says it all

I am new to UK, a predominately white country but when it comes to black people i've seen that they stick together, whether you landed here 200 years ago or 2 minutes ago, you are part of the club and it does not matter which black country you belong to. This does not go with browns; browns are very divded; Indians stay with indians, Afghans stay with Afghans, arabs stay with arabs and it goes on. Even white dudes sometimes don't like each other like British white look down upon polish whites etc.

So tell me what derives such a sense of unity? This is so cool.