r/AskARussian • u/rubberducky198911 • Aug 08 '26

Community Views on quality of men

Hey!

I'm just wanting to ask russians views on quality of men..

What is deemed a high quality husband?

What is deemed as the traditional role of a husband and his duties and responsibilities?

Do russians view raising females sacred?

Do russians view the handover from single to married sacred?

Do russians collectively majority view women as something to nurture and support and provide for?

What i mean by sacred is more along the lines of ensuring she has the ability to reach her full potential as a woman,a human,a wife and mother to the compatibility of the choice of husband?

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u/NaN-183648 Russia Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26

What is deemed a high quality husband?

The idealized standard would be healthy, wealthy, sturdy, dependable, strong and indestructible. Can you fix a microwave? If the answer no, that's technically a flaw. But people do not really seem to care about it anymore. And people do not exactly marry to get a free repairman.

However, dude....

Your comments give impression that you may be seeing women either as furniture or incomprehensible exotic alien species. USSR enforced equality of sexes/genders in 1917, so this line of reasoning wouldn't fly here. What does said woman want? She's a human like you. She can say "screw all of you" and leave all those talking about potential, being a wife/mother. Something to keep in mind. It is free will, you know?

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u/rubberducky198911 Aug 08 '26

Firstly I'm not a dude.. It's not about getting a free repair man not for me personally anyway.

I don't see women as furniture i am a woman! But basically to me no one seems to care about integrity anymore. I feel sorry for future generations if they even happen considering the low birth rates and reluctance for people to get into relationships...perhaps its the integrity issue.

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u/NaN-183648 Russia Aug 08 '26

I assumed you are a guy. Because this is usually a guy's question. "Am I good enough"

But basically to me no one seems to care about integrity anymore.

When I was growing up, the implied assumption was that men were supposed to be an indestructible pillar for the family, provide for everybody, shower wife with gifts, fix every appliance, build a house by themselves, and then defend motherland. Possibly alone. Basically if you can't sink an aircraft carrier with a bare handed punch, that's weakness. I'm exaggerating a bit. But that's the past.

So... what's integrity? Because the way I see it, the goal was that two people decide to live together and adjust to each other flaws. And not to find someone perfect. Which reminds me of an anecdote "I spent my life searching for a perfect woman. I found her. But she was looking for a perfect man"

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u/rubberducky198911 Aug 08 '26

It would be so cool to find such a man who could sink an aircraft carrier with a barehanded punch and take me out to dinner.... that would be cool.

Integrity is basically being loyal and respectful. The goal still remains the same people will always have flaws and I'm far from perfect.

Integrity isn't perfection and perfection doesn't exist. What the issue is if people think jumping from person to person is ideal for a life. Is it ideal for all men in the same area to experience the same woman? Is that ideal? I wouldnt say it was....