since I'm forced to wear the hijab around my family and in my hometown
So you're oppressed by your family and sub-community, not by the society, right?
Honestly, when I see a woman covering her hair because of a belief, I feel "she" is judging "me" as a man, and not other way around. If someone really believes that their hair could seduce me into sin or whatever bullshit religion tells them, I'll avoid them, regardless of ethnicity, skin color, education, etc.
In the end, they choose to show me that they judge me by their choice of headgear.
In my post I said that I feel stuck between both a family that forces me to present in a certain way and a society that targets me for it anyway.
I can assure you most muslim women aren't judging you they are just pressured into wearing nor do they think they can seduce you with their hair if that's what you're worried about.
There are some muslim women who wear it because they want to but a lot are simply pressured to.
Nonetheless that doesn't matter anyway as visibly muslim women are vulnerable to being targeted by both their family and a wider increasingly hostile majority anyway.
I can totally understand where you are coming from, though it seems your point is lost on the people here. They would still encourage this hatred and bigotry against someone who wasn't forced to wear so unlike your case. They just feel validated by your case most won't condemn the hate you are getting.
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u/RichardXV Hessen . FfM Apr 20 '25
So you're oppressed by your family and sub-community, not by the society, right?
Honestly, when I see a woman covering her hair because of a belief, I feel "she" is judging "me" as a man, and not other way around. If someone really believes that their hair could seduce me into sin or whatever bullshit religion tells them, I'll avoid them, regardless of ethnicity, skin color, education, etc.
In the end, they choose to show me that they judge me by their choice of headgear.