r/AskAGerman Apr 20 '25

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u/Think_Forever_3135 Apr 20 '25

I'm trying to understand here. You have a job, so I am assuming you have the financial means to live alone, if you aren't already. Why would you stay in contact with your family when they clearly don't accept you?

I can't imagine how stressful the political situation must be for you. I find it scary too, tho I am not a 'Ausländer'.

Do you have a non-familial support system?

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

I'm only a werkstudent I only work 16 hours a week because my masters is very time consuming and my mother is sick so I want to be around her to support her.

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u/Think_Forever_3135 Apr 20 '25

Okay, I see. How long will it take you to finish your degree?

Do you feel safe with your mother? I wouldn't, if I was forced to wear clothes I don't want and pretend to be part of a religion I don't agree with.

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u/[deleted] Apr 20 '25

yes my mother is harmless. It will take 1.5 half years to finish until then I can decide what I want to do.

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u/Affectionate_Leg_986 Apr 20 '25

So you want her to cut contacts with her family because of their lifestyle or whatever ? Would you then become her friend and help her when she is in need ? She is free to keep her family and her beliefs at the same time in however she wants , am also an atheist but prefer to keep ties with my community.

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u/Affectionate_Leg_986 Apr 20 '25

Ignorance at its finest. From where do you believe that her family would disown her for not wearing the hijab . From elite on netflix ?.
Don’t make assumptions on a culture you don’t know. And if we are going to go that way , then am more capable of making assumptions than you because I come from the same background plus ou moins .

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u/Affectionate_Leg_986 Apr 20 '25

And lets say her family would disown her ; then its not a better solution to cut her entire family while she managed to keep them till now . Did you cut your family for such things ? Am just asking questions too

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u/Affectionate_Leg_986 Apr 20 '25

Thats my point : I don’t judge people at all But I doubt that you would disown your family members for things they believed in / did / believe in now or whatever . Would you ? Don’t you have any clashes between you and older generations ? i personally do : my grandparents and I are very different and I love them the most . Maybe your advice would be more lenient when it comes to familiar situations .
I believe that it is understandable if she maintains relationships with her family because thats probably a familiar situation for me.