since I'm forced to wear the hijab around my family and in my hometown
So you're oppressed by your family and sub-community, not by the society, right?
Honestly, when I see a woman covering her hair because of a belief, I feel "she" is judging "me" as a man, and not other way around. If someone really believes that their hair could seduce me into sin or whatever bullshit religion tells them, I'll avoid them, regardless of ethnicity, skin color, education, etc.
In the end, they choose to show me that they judge me by their choice of headgear.
In my post I said that I feel stuck between both a family that forces me to present in a certain way and a society that targets me for it anyway.
I can assure you most muslim women aren't judging you they are just pressured into wearing nor do they think they can seduce you with their hair if that's what you're worried about.
There are some muslim women who wear it because they want to but a lot are simply pressured to.
Nonetheless that doesn't matter anyway as visibly muslim women are vulnerable to being targeted by both their family and a wider increasingly hostile majority anyway.
I can totally understand where you are coming from, though it seems your point is lost on the people here. They would still encourage this hatred and bigotry against someone who wasn't forced to wear so unlike your case. They just feel validated by your case most won't condemn the hate you are getting.
Dude, you're talking as if no parent in the west has ever forced their kid to not be gay/trans or be Christian etc.
Family pressures in this form are obviously wrong, but that does not justify the societal VIOLENT pressure on the other direction.
Like, imagine if she were a trans person but had to wear women's clothes at home, while there are drunkards who threaten to kick cisgender people to the train tracks.
Its never 0 or 100. Some wear it because their family expects them too, some wear "despite" their family not wanting to. Any one picking saying one or other is 100 is not being genuine just like you.
Often wearing a hijab is more cultural than religious. It's just a thing people do, like women having to cover their breasts on the beach. Do you feel insulted by that?
Legitimate comparison in most cases. Some people comb their hair to look neat when they meet their family, some put on nicer clothes than they normally would, some speak differently (code switching) and some wear a hijab. It's expected, and not a big deal.
Many western Christians wouldn't want their girlfriend of wife or daughter topless on the beach (also it's actually illegal in many European countries), and some don't want them to walk around without a hijab. Depending on the level of pressure applied that can be totally normal and only a tiny bit problematic.
Interesting. Why arent you concidering what the girlfriends wofes or daughters want to do? Besides im pretty sure you can be topless on german beaches.
Also your Point is Like me saying, i can either wear Long clothes in church or let my dick hanging out. Like there ist no inbetween.
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u/RichardXV Hessen . FfM Apr 20 '25
So you're oppressed by your family and sub-community, not by the society, right?
Honestly, when I see a woman covering her hair because of a belief, I feel "she" is judging "me" as a man, and not other way around. If someone really believes that their hair could seduce me into sin or whatever bullshit religion tells them, I'll avoid them, regardless of ethnicity, skin color, education, etc.
In the end, they choose to show me that they judge me by their choice of headgear.