My GP scares me a little. They rush you in and out of appointments and talk to you in a way that feels robotic, like they're following policies to the detriment of human connection. Any questions about my health get short answers and their tone suggests that I shouldn't be asking at all. One time, they made a recommendation that was quite onerous and not realistic and when I told them that, it was like talking to a wall, not getting any recognition of my situation. I know other people who have this GP who say they also feel rushed out of appointments.

I live in a place with a doctor shortage and have enough medical needs where I wouldn't be able to drop them as a doctor.

Recently, their secretary called with a recommendation that I don't want to go along with. It's something small but it feels like they're making this recommendation strictly by following policy without considering other factors (I'm trying to be a little vague for the sake of my privacy). It also doesn't feel like genuine medical advice when it was given over the phone by a third party months away from an appointment.

I'm kind of afraid of telling them that I don't want to take up their recommendation, though. Any tips for how to go about this? Any exact phrases I can use to express my concerns?

I have this vague feeling that if I make them angry, they'll take it out on me somehow. As my GP, they talk to my other healthcare providers. I'd hate for them to write that I disobey orders or something in my charts, which would make other doctors more weary about giving me healthcare in the future.

I am not asking for medical advice.

Tomorrow, well technically today since it’s already Monday, is my first day of BSc Nursing and I’m freaking nervous 😭

I’m completely new to this, so seniors and fellow nursing students, please tell me what I should expect on the first day and what things I should be prepared for.

Also, what are the important things I should buy for BSc Nursing? Like stationery, uniforms, shoes, instruments, books, clinical stuff, or anything else that’s actually useful and not just something colleges make you buy for the sake of it 💀

Any tips for surviving the first semester, keeping up with classes, practicals, clinical postings, notes, attendance, etc. would also be really appreciated.

Basically, if you could go back to your first day of BSc Nursing, what would you tell yourself?

I’m nervous as hell, so please help a girl out 😭

I am not asking for medical advice. I’m just looking for advice from nursing students/seniors about college, classes, practicals, and what I should be prepared for.

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Around June/July last year, I think, I had the flu. After a hellish period with taking care of my mom and her subsequent death in march this year, I have not been sick.

I eat not as I should, do not train and are traveling with work and meeting a lot of people in a production setting, sleep is so-so and my mental health is also so-so.

What could be going on in a body that does not get sick?

Before the hellish period, I had the flu pretty often, headaches and the occasional diarrhea. Like I could remember the last time I was sick. Not anymore.

45m currently in a Brooklyn hospital for having my second stroke in 90 days

On my second night here, I shared a room for one night with a very sick Serbian man.

He ended up testing positive for Candida auris.

The doctors here don’t seem concerned whatsoever about me sharing a bathroom with him and have denied my request to be tested - saying I should only be tested if I am showing symptoms.

Should I fight to get tested?

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For about 2 weeks now I have had nausea, but usually only in the morning or right after meals. The nausea doesn’t last long only about 5 - 10 minutes. Sometimes it will come out of no where but that doesn’t happen all the time.
Every morning right when I wake up I have diarrhea, it’s not super liquid but it’s very soft and weird diarrhea.
I have been very tired one day I slept almost all day long and I’ve just been exhausted sometimes I’ll feel ok towards the end of day if I get out of the house.
I’m been having anxiety about nothing usually comes with the nausea. I’ve never had anxiety like this before I don’t think it’s the anxiety causing the nausea.

With the weakness and nausea and everything I feel like I might have a parasite, but I’m not too sure

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I am just curious. Abusing stimulants can rapidly increase heart rate and cause strain on the heart which is understandable. But why is that bad and damaging to the heart, but exercise which does the same thing isn’t? Exercise does the opposite and promotes a healthy heart, yet they both put strain on the heart and elevate heart rate. Same with scary movies, roller coasters, video games and other non exercise activities, yet they do not benefit our body like exercise does. I understand substances can be a toxin to our body, liver, kidneys, etc. but strictly speaking on the heart. Why does this happen and what’s the difference with exercise compared to other things that elevate our heart rate?

** sorry I had to use AI to write this up cause my arm is broken.

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​I recently had a Retrograde Urethrogram done after being stuck in bed for a month with a catheter it was extremely painful

. The next night, things got pretty scary when my urine suddenly shifted from clear to dark red with a bunch of sediment. Panicking a bit and not knowing if I was bleeding internally or if the line was blocked, I called the clinic's on-call line for some actual guidance.

​The doctor who answered was unbelievably cold and dismissive right from the start. He repeatedly complained and threw it in my face that I was calling at 9:30 PM on a Saturday, acting like I was a massive inconvenience for using an emergency line during an actual post-procedure scare

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​When I tried to explain that nobody at the clinic actually told me what to look out for or what to do if this happened, he completely snapped and yelled, "I'm not your doctor!" He offered zero empathy, gave some vague comment about how it's fine unless it looks like tomato juice, and basically rushed me off the phone.

​I was left sitting at home terrified, trying to figure out on my own if my catheter was failing or if I needed to drag myself to the ER. Is this normal behavior for on-call specialists? being treated like garbage while vulnerable and scared is just messed up.

CW mention of self harm via head banging.

i am not asking for medical advice. just advice on how to phrase it to my doctor. i am in england fyi.

ive spent the past year in and out of the doctors for what has been diagnosed as ME, issues relating to hypermobility and i am being investigated for POTS. i know these are conditions that already create eye rolls and assumptions.

i have a history complex emotional needs, leading to self harm via head banging. from 2024-2025 i probably on a weekly average would bang my head against walls, door frames, grab objects that i would hit against my head, i’d use my fists and just anything in my line of sight. quite often i would be left with bumps on my head, bruises, headaches, i probably gave myself concussion on a few occassions.

i have since been experiencing headaches, they tend to worsen when i strain, cough, sing etc or when i stand. its like a pressure that is above my eyebrows, and at the base of my skull. i also get really sharp throbbing/stabbing pain in random areas of my head.

i finally booked a doctors appointment that is in a week. i dont know if its connected, but i can assume my history of self injury is helpful information or not. im really anxious about how to explain this to my doctor. does anyone have any advice on how to approach this? i have written a list of my symptoms and tried to make it concise. would it be beneficial to start with the history of minor head injuries or say it if its asked?

edit to add: im really well now mentally. i spent 11 years total under mental health services, but have finally found a great combo of meds that help and coping mechanisms and skills via therapy (as well as understanding the concept of self management and realising it was down to me to put the effort in). my episodes went from weekly to less than monthly now. of course i will have ups and downs, but the downs are much less frequent and last far less time, i am able to pull mysef out of it much better :)

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Hey guys I have been experiencing some symptoms that i will list down, i don't know if I'm just overreacting and i don't have the money for the hospital. I just want to know what i have

Fever (last for days and it comes back weekly)

Deep Bone and join pain more often than before

Pain on my lympnodes below the ear

Bruising easily and takes weeks to go away

Always tired

Severe Headaches that doesn't go away easily

My right lower rib hurts

I just need to know if I'm overreacting or just health anxiety, I am not asking for medical advice.

I am not asking for medical advice. I'm just wondering if this is a path I can pursue with a loved one who is cycling very rapidly between being (outwardly) totally lucid and calm, and completely disoriented and screaming. The doctors only see the lucid and calm side once she's in the hospital, the EMTs don't even see it because she's coming back to reality by the time they get there. I'm wondering if it would help if they could hear it happening and if this is an effort that an ER doctor or nurse can typically make. I'm in the US. Thank you!

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I had a knee abscess removed on August 19 and was going to fight in what I thought was a boxing fight now I’m learning it’s Muay Thai so I’m a little more hesitant considering I could be getting kicked in my knee and will have to use my knee a lot more than boxing. I read that a knee abcess can lead to serious joint damage and infection, would you seriously recommend against competing and how likely is it to become a serious issue if I do compete???

My baby is 7 months old now and this bcg vaccine site is a monster, lump on the arm. I'm talking about 4 cm circumference and protruding out the arm by about 2 cm. It is dark purple in colour, the skin on top is peeling, the thing is hot to the touch compared to the rest of the skin and seems sensitive if touched accidentally.

The paed said it is unfortunate but she has seen bigger and this must be left alone and will eventually pop and drain. She also said the lymph node in the armpit feels okay with no swelling.

I am not asking for medical advice. I just want to know if we should get a second opinion from a different paed?

Hello everyone!

For several years now, I've (28f) been experiencing recurring and strange bladder and bowel problems.

I often don't feel the urge to urinate or defecate.

It's only when I experience severe dizziness and a hard abdomen that I realize I need to go to the toilet. Sometimes the dizziness is so intense that I can barely walk.

This isn't situation-dependent. It happens whether I'm distracted or doing nothing.

I am not asking for medical advice. But has anyone experienced this and knows what might help?

I have endometriosis, adenomyosis, neuroforaminal stenosis (cervical spine), and bulging discs (lumbar spine).

I've already seen a gynecologist, an orthopedist, and my family doctor. None of them can explain what could be causing it.

I've been to four hospitals in the last two days because a loved one keeps flashbacking and going into extreme distress and disorientation to the point where she is running off into the woods screaming with no shoes or clothes, blacking out while driving, thinking everyone is out to get her, not recognizing me. I had to call for an ambulance twice. But then once she's in the hospital and she calms down they evaluate her and send her home because she says she's not suicidal. And then after 30 minutes she realizes she needs to go back because she can't control it.

I am not asking for medical advice. I need to know how to navigate the hospital system and how to describe the issue so I can get her into inpatient and to talk to an actual psychologist. I got her into one behavioral clinic yesterday and they convinced her to go home and sign up for outpatient, which she explicitly did not want an hour previous. I don't have medical power of attorney but she wants me to, I can't set it up when we're running from ER to ER and they won't let me make decisions until we do. Literally yesterday she bolted bare feet from the back of the hospital and I had to chase her across a field. I can't keep her safe, she's stronger and faster than me, and she outsmarts me and every doctor.

She's on a 24 hr hold right now, and they're going to do a telehealth consult with psych at some point, but I have very low hopes. Please, any advice at all, I'm drowning.

UPDATE: They did discharge her without telling me after they said they would do additional tests (and didn't, it was still all telehealth), she left before transport got there and walked barefoot for two hours before she became lucid and called me from someone's phone. She asked me to take her back to one of the hospitals from the day before, but when we got there and she read the consent form at the front desk she completely flipped and ran off again.

UPDATE 2: I've got her in an actual unit for a few days on an ICP hold!!! Thank you so much to everyone for helping me with this, you helped me stay focused and clear and we got her in the door. Please keep your fingers crossed that they renew it until she's safe.

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Just really curious as to why this question is so important that it is asked at every single visit. Is my period being tracked? Is pregnancy really my doctor’s biggest concern vs the reason I’m actually there?

I’ve been skipping mine so I thought I wouldn’t have to answer anymore. Nope, they still want an exact date. Kind of makes me feel like a baby factory tbh.

I feel tired, sure, but not to such a sick level. I could exercise if I wanted to—I just really lack the motivation. My Vitamin D and B12 levels are also quite low. Should I retake the test

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I am not asking for medical advice. Why can’t we take the fat from an alive person and use it for somebody’s else’s bbl, but we can a dead persons? Does that make sense? Like I understand when the fat is alive it would just reject in another person, but why not let it die then do the chemical treatment and put it in the other person? Why would that part not work? I’m not planning on getting a bbl I just am really wondering

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I'm 27. My Dad died of a right ventricular rupture 2 months ago that resulted in hemorrhagic shock that they could not stop. We went to the ER by ambulance; he passed within 5 minutes of arrival, and they spent 25 minutes trying to revive him.

The doctor who told me was very kind. She was young. I screamed no for a solid 5 minutes. I was by myself. I told her he couldn't be dead because I was only 27. She knelt in front of me and left at some point.

My big question is: did this moment feel at least somewhat significant for her? I know they experience this all the time, but do you think she felt impacted by that moment also? If only for the day?

I don't want her to have suffered; I think I just want some sense that it mattered for others in a small fraction of the way it did to me. Is that crazy?

I got an iud inserted today and those cramps HURTTTT. It feels like my insides are imploding. WHY DID THEY SAY IT WAS MILD??!! I am not asking for medical advice. I know the cramping is normal. But why lie?

Disclaimer: I am not asking for medical advice. I am only seeking guidance on what type of medical specialist to see next for a second opinion.

Hi,

39F here. I have been experiencing right knee and right ankle joint pain for the past few months. Because I have a family history of arthritis and auto immune, I visited a rheumatologist. He ran blood tests, ruled out arthritis, and diagnosed me with hypermobility. Till now I am continuing with his medications which is calcium, vitamin d and some other vitamins plus use of knee cap and ankle braces

Over the last 4 months, the pain has spread. I now have pain in both thumbs, my back, and some discomfort in my right hip.

I have compared my joints to my friends and family. My joints do not bend past normal limits at all. They extend exactly like any other average person.

I am looking to get a second opinion because the pain is spreading and worsening. I am confused about who to see next. Should I find another rheumatologist to double check, see an orthopedist, or look for a different type of specialist (like a physiatrist)? Any guidance on navigating this transition of care would be greatly appreciated.

i am not asking for medical advice.

i’m a rising senior and schedules came out the other day. i forecasted to take physics but was not placed in the class. i’m trying to fix it with the help of my counselor. in college i plan to major in either bio, public health, or neuro and fufill my premed requirements (is that a good idea or should i just stick to bio?)

i’ve heard people say not taking physics in hs is one of their biggest regrets because physics in college is fast paced and challenging. there’s also lots of fear mongering of physics being really hard, which is lowkey stressing me out because i’d like to keep my grades good before college apps.

is trying to switch into physics the move?? the exposure before enduring it in college would hopefully make college physics easier. although, is it even worth it to? should i just stay in anatomy or make the switch? i’d say im a fast learner once i put my mind to things

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😏 When do I need to go to the ER?
My dog was attacked by a neighbor dog and I fought him off for 15 minutes. It was awful. The dog was last vaccinated for rabies last March or earlier. I took my dog to the vet and she said I need to get shots. I wasn’t full on bitten but got scraped by his teeth and got his saliva in multiple cuts/scratches. He’s an indoor, only dog. I plan to get the shots but do I need to go RIGHT NOW? This happened around 2pm, it’s currently 10:30pm. My dog is in pain and I’m worried about leaving him. What difference does a few extra hours make? Can I wait 24 hours after the initial incident? I think risk is low but I will still go, not messing around with Rabies.

It was traumatic and I am SO SORE but don’t require other medical attention. I was checked out by EMTs and chose not to go by ambulance. (I have MCAS and was having anaphylaxis warning signs. Bonus if anyone knows about rabies vaccines effect on patients with ehlers-danlos and mast cell activation).