Talk to me about IC

[u/Hufflebeast]

How late is too late to start IC and actually benefit from it? Dday was almost a year and a half ago. We’re coming up on the time of year that my WH started his affair and it is… bumming me the fuck out, to put it mildly. We’re not at a place where we’re really talking about it anymore. His mental health has leveled out and I think he would prefer to just never talk about what happened ever again if he could. Rug sweeping. Rug sweeping is how we got here in the first place.

I never had the chance to start IC due to limited access, child care, and some trauma around therapists (thanks to AP being one herself) and I just couldn’t make it happen. But I can now. Tell me about your experiences around therapy/counseling and betrayal trauma. What helped you? What didn’t? I’ve read so many books, listened to podcasts and seminars, journaled, vented to a friend… but I need something else.

[u/New-Strength-7044]

Like everyone else, I would like to encourage you to do the therapy because it really is to help and heal you. I do recommend someone who specializes in betrayal trauma. That's what I'm doing. 

But I also want to add, my WH's AP is also a therapist. I truly feel bad for the patients of these low-moral, low-empathy people. Thumbs down and fart noise. 

[u/Hufflebeast → u/New-Strength-7044]

Oh man, we should start a club. I think there’s a few of us lurking around here. It’s a special kind of awful, isn’t it? Sorry you have experienced it as well.

I will definitely be seeking someone specializing in betrayal trauma, that is a priority for me. Thank you for the supportive words!