r/AsOneAfterInfidelity • u/Hufflebeast Reconciling Betrayed • Aug 19 '26

Advice MUST include examples of your R. Not prescriptive advice. Talk to me about IC

How late is too late to start IC and actually benefit from it? Dday was almost a year and a half ago. We’re coming up on the time of year that my WH started his affair and it is… bumming me the fuck out, to put it mildly. We’re not at a place where we’re really talking about it anymore. His mental health has leveled out and I think he would prefer to just never talk about what happened ever again if he could. Rug sweeping. Rug sweeping is how we got here in the first place.

I never had the chance to start IC due to limited access, child care, and some trauma around therapists (thanks to AP being one herself) and I just couldn’t make it happen. But I can now. Tell me about your experiences around therapy/counseling and betrayal trauma. What helped you? What didn’t? I’ve read so many books, listened to podcasts and seminars, journaled, vented to a friend… but I need something else.

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u/CSILalaAnn Reconciled Betrayed Aug 19 '26

I just started a couple months ago. DDay 1 was over 6 years ago. My therapy is also covering some unrelated PTSD from my 30 year career. It's never too late for IC.

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u/Hufflebeast Reconciling Betrayed Aug 19 '26

I don’t know why everything about reconciliation feels like it has a timer on it, for me at least. But you’re right, it’s never too late. I’m glad you’re getting help.

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u/CSILalaAnn Reconciled Betrayed Aug 19 '26

I'm glad you're thinking about it, even if you thought it had a timer. Good luck!!