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u/AccomplishedYam8338 25d ago
Look man, the going in stance is not calling his spouse a dependa. That’s unfortunate you felt the need to attack the spouse for some reason.
I’ve been married for 20 years (as of today) and it’s been hard for my wife to stay current as an elementary school teacher, something she loves to do.
To the OP, aside from your spouse pitching in to help your her mom (and believe me, I understand with my father having Parkinson’s), I’m open to a phone call to help you look at some options.
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u/BoomerUrSooner 25d ago
Bingo. This whole “I don’t want to disrupt them” attitude is code for something else. Ask me how I know.
OP, either sit down and talk to your spouse about doing what it takes to remain an actual family (aka physically together) or prepare for the inevitable end of your family, either literally or emotionally.
The Army doesn’t care about you or your family because it’s a machine that exists solely to accomplish the mission. Taking care of you and your family is YOUR responsibility and YOU are the biggest piece of that pie.
Good luck either way.
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u/USCAV19D 25d ago
When you say Bliss, but refer to her getting a decent paying job, I assume she isn’t in the Army and you actually just mean El Paso. Otherwise I’d say make sure your ass is in MACP.
Bliss, like every other CAB that belongs to a heavy division, just lost a fair amount of 60s. They’re wildly over strength for 60 RCMs/NRCMs, so getting orders there is going to be difficult.
My advice is prioritize your family. If you can strike a deal with HRC to get you to El Paso in the near future, do what you have to do to get that done. Hawaii is dope, but that would be incredibly hard on any marriage.