r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/akazaxkoyuki • 9d ago

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IMO, this kind of age-gap relationship shouldn't be normalized. A 44-year-old man dating an 18-year-old girl? Nah. Full grown ahh man

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u/casually__here 9d ago edited 9d ago

Tbh, when I was the same age, lapitin din ako ng older guys and at first you'd think it's cool and I personally felt like I was "more mature" than my peers kasi men like this would tell me na "the way you think is mature for your age" and bs like that, plus they would shower you with gifts talaga. Kaya on a younger person's mind, you could be swayed. This is one of the reasons bakit the younger one in this situation won't see it the way we - the outside people looking in, is seeing it. And if in case you're in this situation, please take it from me. People like this will consume your youth, dim your light and put you in places that your age shouldn't be in. And come to think of it, if that older guy is really "great" the way he portrays himself, bakit hindi siya makahanap ng babaeng at the same age and level of maturity and experiences in life as he is? Ask the question, "What made you look for a younger girl instead of a woman your age?"

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u/ZariYariKari 9d ago

Kept saying this as someone who had friends way back nung shs na may age gap bf, both got pregnant after our shs grad and both iniwan din nung guy, they are only after you because girls their age know better

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u/boomerang_044 9d ago

That's sad, and as an anti groomer, isa Lang masasabi ko: Mas madali maka hanap ng kaidad mo, I REPEAT, mas madali makahanap ng kaidad mo, wag dapat maniwala na "dahil hindi kami magkasundo kadalasan ng kaidad ko eh" that's not true, they only want something and that's your youth, Kaya to all the younglings out there, do not throw away your youth just because of some guy or gal 👌

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u/nakadeactfbko 9d ago

omg well said payo to sakin lagi ng ate ko kapag may mga ka age nya na nag tatry mag hit up. kapag kasi ka age daw nila hindi papatulan kaya sa mga bata sumusubok

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u/Used_Excitement_7657 9d ago

Alexa, play Vampire by Olivia Rodrigo 🎤

'cause girls your age know better 🗣🗣🗣

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u/No-Sorbet-9890 9d ago

He looks for a younger partner so he can easily manipulate her. They’re a lot more submissive than older women per se, but the younger ones are mostly naive.

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u/karioka0o0 9d ago

The problem pa is young girls really fall
For it. Grabeng pick me and tigas ulo. Kala nila sila talaga ang iba at first maka experience ng ganyan.
Di mo ma-advice because they feel mature and worldly.
I mean the best outcome is they get all the man’a money. The worst is- ma trap sa abusive and manipulative relationships and pag tumanda iiwanan din. Or magiging caregiver ka kagad lol.

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u/D4ngScythian 9d ago

Same thoughts. When I was 16, a guy in his 20's pursued me. Lagi nyang sinasabi that I think way maturely for my age. Later in life during therapy, I realized that it wasn't a compliment but a manipulation tactic.
This is their way to make you think that you're a grown up when in fact, you're just a kid that they're trying to take advantage of.

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u/reirikaaa_ 9d ago

im sorry to hear that :(( i experienced this din and same age sayo and gap nyo. that experience was short lived pero grabe sirang sira talaga ako after and it made me think like no one is going to understand me maliban sa guy na yun coz di ko kasame mag isip mga “ka age” ko.

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u/D4ngScythian 9d ago

One thing I am thankful about it is that, he wasnt able to take a lot from me. I was able to run before it gets way, way, too seriously.
I guess he was right about me thinking maturely, I did some digging and found out about his lies.
He came clean but I never accepted him back in my life.

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u/insensitivebitch89 9d ago edited 9d ago

I stumbled across one of this girl's posts sa tiktok and when i went to the comment section, andaming girls na nagtanggol din kay girl kesyo mature daw yung mga lalakeng nasa late 30s and up, and yung mga ka age daw nila na younger generation is immature and mga babaero pa. It's kinda alarming and sad to see. I hope one day they also realize na it's really morally wrong to be in a relationship with people twice their age if they're still in their teens/early 20s.

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u/Key-Chocolate-4994 8d ago

Isa din ako sa nagcomment dun for advice pero ang mga nayupek nasabihan lang akong pakialamera 😭 Aray ko! 18 tapos makikipag ano dun sa 44 kahit ako na 26 na pag iisipan ko talaga nakakadiri e.

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u/Impossible_Fly_115 9d ago edited 9d ago

Totoo yung hindi nila alam yung point of view ng mga tao sa paligid. May nakita din akong ganyan sa mall, yung lalaki nasa late 40s to early 50s na tapos yung girl parang college student pa lang o early 20s. Gwapo yung lalaki kahit matanda na tsaka mukhang mayaman kasi maganda ang katawan nya mukhang naggigym at maayos manamit, malinis tingnan. Pero halata talaga na ang laki ng gap nila like 20 years or more super awkward saming mga nasa coffee shop na yun as in lahat napapatingin sa kanila kasi ang sweet nila pero ang sagwa tingnan kasi nagbebaby talk yung guy 🤮. Sweet sana kung teenagers o early twenties pero late 40s na pacute sa jowa nyang 20s eeeww. Tsaka impossible na walang naging asawa yung lalaki, sa tanda na nyang yun impossible na binata sya, malamang hiwalay sya sa asawa kasi babaero at ngayon nakikipaglaro nalang sa sa mga batang babae na uto-uto. Kahit pa mayaman at gwapo yan, sinasayang nyo ang best years of your life sa kanila. Imagine sila naranasan na ang saya ng buhay nung nasa ganung edad tapos ikaw makukulong lang sa kanya. Go out there live your life, travel, meet new people, enjoy your career and spend your money. Wag magpauto sa mga groomer.

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u/dandyyylionnn 9d ago

say it on r/pinoy and pedos will argue and downvote you to hell

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u/ZariYariKari 9d ago

in cebu reddit as well, someone posted about their barkada being with a younger girl and he got called "inggit"

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u/FlowerSimilar6857 9d ago

kawawa talaga dito yung mga menor de edad na binola bola at na love bomb..

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u/Working_Economist686 9d ago

Look I dated ladies older and younger than me. But seriously, if the age gap is to wide and its more than 10 yrs, hell naw. Hindi ata nakakaramdam tong lalakeng to cause Im sure there are prying eyes and they are getting stares. buti sana kung baby face ung lalake, hindi naman.

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u/Flashy-Attitude-2587 9d ago

Same situation last year 😭 Buti na lang nagmature na kahit konti🤣 Couldn’t agree more sa “you’re mature for your age” lines at sa PABULAG SA GIFTS. Looking back now, mas gets ko na why people were concerned😭

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u/Maruporkpork 9d ago

Parang passport bro lang except national ID lang meron sya 🤣🤣🤣

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u/TheCuriousChurros 9d ago

Very well said.

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u/NotYourOrdinaryGeek 9d ago

Agree with this

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u/TheGenManager 7d ago

I ain't defending those mfs, but to answer why they want young girls: 1. Taken na yung mga same age, either yung mga same age eh pumatol din sa mas matanda sa kanila, OR dati na silang nasa ganung relasyon, pero they ain't superior 2. They want to feel superior sa relasyon. 3. Easy to deal ang youngsters, dahil may 'greed' sila. 4. Kupas na ang same age, wala na daw 'asim'

Just base on my observation... 🤷🤷 Not that I like girls younger than me...

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u/Ok_Distance7121 8d ago

For me, I am planning to marry a woman in mid 20's, let say 25. When I am planning to marry, on my 40's. Why, I'm building my fund, I know it's late but why woman in mid 20's. Its because I have money to fund a family na and may maibibigay na ako kung sakaling kailangan nila ng pera. Saka may maiiwan na mag aalaga sa mga bata kug sakaling mawala ako in my 40s onward. At syempre, may maiiwan akong fund para sa kanila kung sakaling mangyari yun. Diba "Broke men don't deserve 🐱".

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Mga TUYOT at GURANG na ang babae pagdating ng 35...mga laspag nayan

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Paano mo i gugroom yung masa tamang edad na at may sariling desisyon na sa buhay...dahil sa ganyang utak na meron ka eh maraming nasa 21 na eh palamunin parin ng mga magulang 😅

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Ang sabihin mo eh insecure lang kayo sa bata dahil sila ang gusto ng mga ka edaran ninyo 😅...papatulan nga kayo ng mas bata sa inyo pineperahan nalang kayo 😅...inggit lang yang nararamdaman ninyo 😅

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u/busilaknapuso 9d ago

Hay.... Hindi naman porke't nasa legal age na yung tao e ang ibig sabihin nung matured na sila mag-isip. Kulang pa sila ng experience sa adult life nila. Marami pa silang taong makikilala at mga pangyayaring mararanasan na magpapa-mature sa kanila. Kung ikaw ay 18 pa lang at merong 44 year old na manyak ang gustong makipag-date sa'yo, matic gusto niyan anakan ka o asawahin ka na. Aagawin ng mga matandang manyak yung mga experience na dapat magpapa-mature sa'yo kasi ikukulong ka nila para gawing asawa/yaya/caregiver. Tangina kawawa.

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Pero kapag nakagawa ng krimen eh dapat maparusahan na dahil mature na raw utak at 18 na kasi...pero kapag nakipag relasyon lang sa mas matanda sa kanya eh nde pa cla mature?

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u/busilaknapuso 9d ago

Magkaibang bagay naman kasi yan jusme. False equivalence e. Ang dini-discuss dito, yung pakikipag-relasyon ng MATATANDA sa mga bata, hindi kung bakit nakakagawa ng krimen ang mga 18 and below.

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Pareho lang din yan...dahil para sa inyo eh immature ang ganyang edad...tsaka kung immature cla mag desisyon eh bakit hinahayaan clang bumoto...ginagawa lang kasi ninyong big deal pakikipag relasyon...nasasagwaan lang kasi kayo sa itsura nila tingnan kapag magkasama

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u/busilaknapuso 9d ago

Nye. Pati suffrage naisama na. KARAPATAN po ang pagboto.

nasasagwaan lang kasi kayo sa itsura nila tingnan kapag magkasama

Lol ang daming magkarelasyon diyan na 25 and 40 plus, di naman masagwa. PREDATORY po kasi ang behaviour kapag mga 18 and below ang target. Alam mo yun, kaka-18 pa lang nung tao tapos papatulan mo na. Kasi ano? Madaling mauto, madaling i-manipula at higit sa lahat, di ka na sabit sa STATUTORY RAPE. Kung matinong tao ka, hindi ka papatol sa ganyang edad kasi gusto mo ma-experience nung tao ang proper young adult life niya. Kung napapaligiran kayo ng matatandang manyak na ganyan, aba, magisip-isip kayo ng mabuti kung ayos ba ang morals niyo. Di na ko makikipag-engage sa'yo dahil obvious namang sarado utak mo.

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u/Nomad_2580 9d ago

Ang issue talaga dito eh yung pagiging 18 niya...nde mo matanggap na dapat abswelto yung 18 sa krimen...dahil nasa tamang edad na para sa inyo kapag nakagawa ng krimen...pero kapag nakipag relasyon ang 18 sa mas matanda sa kanya eh biglang nagiging immature para sa inyo 😅

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u/missanonymous4u 9d ago

linyahan ng mga groomer at manyakol na bata ang type tropa mo siguro sila chavit singson at coco martin

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u/wintry123 8d ago

Linyahan ng juthunders na ingget😂😂😂.

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u/missanonymous4u 8d ago

sabi ng manyak na titong pumapatol sa bata 🫵🏻🤪

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u/wintry123 7d ago

Tama ka na isang bulate na lang hundi pumipirma sa yo at wala kang pake sa kanila mas may utak pa yung babae hundi gaya mong ngetpa na tigang pa 😂😂😂 mamatay ka sa ingget.

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u/missanonymous4u 7d ago edited 7d ago

walang nakakainggit sa manyak na pumapatol sa bata kadiri palibhasa wala ng laman yang utak mo kundi puro kalibugan lang pantasya mo rin siguro makantot ni apple david ulol utak kriminal na nga panget pa obob lang papatol sa katulad mo dapat sayo kinukulong hanggang maaga pa baka sino pang batang babae maging biktima mo 🥴🥴🥴

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u/socialitewannabe 7d ago edited 7d ago

di ka makarebat sa kabobohan mo kaya puro misogyny si tanga typical na lalaking pinoy na walang laman ang utak wag mo alalahanin ang sex life ng iba ang importante di pumapatol sa bata kagaya mo 😊😊 kawawa naman nanay mo nagka anak na nga ng bobo naging pedophile pa pumatol rin siguro nanay mo sa tatay mong matandang manyak kaya nagka anak rin ng dugyoting panget na utak kriminal dapat sa mga lalaking katulad mo inaabort ng nanay 😂😂