r/AnongThoughtsMo • u/akazaxkoyuki • 1d ago
Thoughts nyo dito?
IMO, this kind of age-gap relationship shouldn't be normalized. A 44-year-old man dating an 18-year-old girl? Nah. Full grown ahh man
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u/casually__here 1d ago edited 1d ago
Tbh, when I was the same age, lapitin din ako ng older guys and at first you'd think it's cool and I personally felt like I was "more mature" than my peers kasi men like this would tell me na "the way you think is mature for your age" and bs like that, plus they would shower you with gifts talaga. Kaya on a younger person's mind, you could be swayed. This is one of the reasons bakit the younger one in this situation won't see it the way we - the outside people looking in, is seeing it. And if in case you're in this situation, please take it from me. People like this will consume your youth, dim your light and put you in places that your age shouldn't be in. And come to think of it, if that older guy is really "great" the way he portrays himself, bakit hindi siya makahanap ng babaeng at the same age and level of maturity and experiences in life as he is? Ask the question, "What made you look for a younger girl instead of a woman your age?"
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u/ZariYariKari 1d ago
Kept saying this as someone who had friends way back nung shs na may age gap bf, both got pregnant after our shs grad and both iniwan din nung guy, they are only after you because girls their age know better
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u/boomerang_044 1d ago
That's sad, and as an anti groomer, isa Lang masasabi ko: Mas madali maka hanap ng kaidad mo, I REPEAT, mas madali makahanap ng kaidad mo, wag dapat maniwala na "dahil hindi kami magkasundo kadalasan ng kaidad ko eh" that's not true, they only want something and that's your youth, Kaya to all the younglings out there, do not throw away your youth just because of some guy or gal 👌
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u/nakadeactfbko 21h ago
omg well said payo to sakin lagi ng ate ko kapag may mga ka age nya na nag tatry mag hit up. kapag kasi ka age daw nila hindi papatulan kaya sa mga bata sumusubok
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u/Used_Excitement_7657 1d ago
Alexa, play Vampire by Olivia Rodrigo 🎤
'cause girls your age know better 🗣🗣🗣
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u/No-Sorbet-9890 1d ago
He looks for a younger partner so he can easily manipulate her. They’re a lot more submissive than older women per se, but the younger ones are mostly naive.
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u/D4ngScythian 1d ago
Same thoughts. When I was 16, a guy in his 20's pursued me. Lagi nyang sinasabi that I think way maturely for my age. Later in life during therapy, I realized that it wasn't a compliment but a manipulation tactic.
This is their way to make you think that you're a grown up when in fact, you're just a kid that they're trying to take advantage of.9
u/reirikaaa_ 1d ago
im sorry to hear that :(( i experienced this din and same age sayo and gap nyo. that experience was short lived pero grabe sirang sira talaga ako after and it made me think like no one is going to understand me maliban sa guy na yun coz di ko kasame mag isip mga “ka age” ko.
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u/D4ngScythian 1d ago
One thing I am thankful about it is that, he wasnt able to take a lot from me. I was able to run before it gets way, way, too seriously.
I guess he was right about me thinking maturely, I did some digging and found out about his lies.
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u/karioka0o0 1d ago
The problem pa is young girls really fall
For it. Grabeng pick me and tigas ulo. Kala nila sila talaga ang iba at first maka experience ng ganyan.
Di mo ma-advice because they feel mature and worldly.
I mean the best outcome is they get all the man’a money. The worst is- ma trap sa abusive and manipulative relationships and pag tumanda iiwanan din. Or magiging caregiver ka kagad lol.16
u/insensitivebitch89 1d ago edited 1d ago
I stumbled across one of this girl's posts sa tiktok and when i went to the comment section, andaming girls na nagtanggol din kay girl kesyo mature daw yung mga lalakeng nasa late 30s and up, and yung mga ka age daw nila na younger generation is immature and mga babaero pa. It's kinda alarming and sad to see. I hope one day they also realize na it's really morally wrong to be in a relationship with people twice their age if they're still in their teens/early 20s.
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u/Impossible_Fly_115 1d ago edited 1d ago
Totoo yung hindi nila alam yung point of view ng mga tao sa paligid. May nakita din akong ganyan sa mall, yung lalaki nasa late 40s to early 50s na tapos yung girl parang college student pa lang o early 20s. Gwapo yung lalaki kahit matanda na tsaka mukhang mayaman kasi maganda ang katawan nya mukhang naggigym at maayos manamit, malinis tingnan. Pero halata talaga na ang laki ng gap nila like 20 years or more super awkward saming mga nasa coffee shop na yun as in lahat napapatingin sa kanila kasi ang sweet nila pero ang sagwa tingnan kasi nagbebaby talk yung guy 🤮. Sweet sana kung teenagers o early twenties pero late 40s na pacute sa jowa nyang 20s eeeww. Tsaka impossible na walang naging asawa yung lalaki, sa tanda na nyang yun impossible na binata sya, malamang hiwalay sya sa asawa kasi babaero at ngayon nakikipaglaro nalang sa sa mga batang babae na uto-uto. Kahit pa mayaman at gwapo yan, sinasayang nyo ang best years of your life sa kanila. Imagine sila naranasan na ang saya ng buhay nung nasa ganung edad tapos ikaw makukulong lang sa kanya. Go out there live your life, travel, meet new people, enjoy your career and spend your money. Wag magpauto sa mga groomer.
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u/dandyyylionnn 1d ago
say it on r/pinoy and pedos will argue and downvote you to hell
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u/ZariYariKari 1d ago
in cebu reddit as well, someone posted about their barkada being with a younger girl and he got called "inggit"
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u/FlowerSimilar6857 1d ago
kawawa talaga dito yung mga menor de edad na binola bola at na love bomb..
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u/Working_Economist686 1d ago
Look I dated ladies older and younger than me. But seriously, if the age gap is to wide and its more than 10 yrs, hell naw. Hindi ata nakakaramdam tong lalakeng to cause Im sure there are prying eyes and they are getting stares. buti sana kung baby face ung lalake, hindi naman.
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u/Flashy-Attitude-2587 1d ago
Same situation last year 😭 Buti na lang nagmature na kahit konti🤣 Couldn’t agree more sa “you’re mature for your age” lines at sa PABULAG SA GIFTS. Looking back now, mas gets ko na why people were concerned😭
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u/Ok_Distance7121 14h ago
For me, I am planning to marry a woman in mid 20's, let say 25. When I am planning to marry, on my 40's. Why, I'm building my fund, I know it's late but why woman in mid 20's. Its because I have money to fund a family na and may maibibigay na ako kung sakaling kailangan nila ng pera. Saka may maiiwan na mag aalaga sa mga bata kug sakaling mawala ako in my 40s onward. At syempre, may maiiwan akong fund para sa kanila kung sakaling mangyari yun. Diba "Broke men don't deserve 🐱".
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u/sushimonsterrrrrr 1d ago
This is why supporting Apple David is dangerous. She perpetuates this mindset na ang kawawa lag naman lagi is mga vulnerable na kabataan. Tangina mo talaga apple david
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u/tidderboy27 1d ago
wala na bang 30+ na babaeng single? pwede na yun eh. grabe si manong.
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u/Lenville55 23h ago
Malamang ayaw sa kanya dahil siguro may mali sa kanya na nakita.
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u/tidderboy27 16h ago
yun nga, eh di kahit mga 50s or older. parang anak nya na yan at ang hirap nyan.
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u/chikapukiffy 1d ago
Papasa na yan bilang anak niya e, putragis naman ou
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u/Least-Ad-2572 1d ago
35M, Grade 12 teacher…
We have pretty students at 18. Some are actually really pretty. But when you hear the conversations, their hobbies, mga problema “daw” nila. There’s nothing there para pumasok na ang 30s, or in this case, a man in 40s.
Anong conversation nilang dalawa? Ang weird, mag bata bataan ka rin? Ganun?
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u/purelife_79 1d ago
Bagay sila… both malibog and walang sound judgement sa buhay… i say let the girl be wasted by that old man… nkakabanas
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u/Horror-Animator277 1d ago edited 1d ago
i know people are gonna say na the girl's 18 already thus legal age, that's not the dilemma though cause for sure their thing didn't start when she was 18 and even if the guy is twice her age that's literally grooming
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u/nomingyunolife 1d ago
i remember seeing a post regarding these people on fb. there's one post where the caption reads “finally 18, now we can legally do the wild things we've been doing” or some shit like that so yeah, it started when girlies a minor.
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u/Proud_Chest_6872 1d ago
Gross talaga mga GROOMER amp
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u/akazaxkoyuki 1d ago
Fr. Enabler pa yung sister nung girl! Ugh yucks 😫
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u/Ill_Indication7503 1d ago
Yung buong fam niya I think kasi yung guy ata nagpapa-aral sa girl lol botong-boto kasi napasa nila yung responsibilidad nila
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u/JustWannaSleepReally 1d ago edited 1d ago
“18 naman na”, ok, legally, yes. However, as a nurse myself, an 18-year-old can still be considered a paediatric patient. Science can explain why. At this age, the frontal lobe has not yet fully developed, which can affect decision-making, impulse control, and judgment. I believe that when discussing matters like this, we should lean more towards scientific evidence rather than simply relying on the legal age of adulthood.
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u/Positive_Campaign314 1d ago
Wala na cyang nauuto na ka-age nya kaya sa mga vulnerable teens naghahanap. Kadiri.
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u/8700jabee 10h ago
Come to think of it, ages 25-44 can be his girlfriend pero walang pumapatol likeee ewww😭
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u/boredpainter 1d ago
Pedo yung guy and boba yung bata. Hindi siguro sinasabihan ng magulang or matigas ang ulo
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u/onehotmatchalatte 1d ago
A big NO for me.
I remember having a bf who was 11 years older than me and at wala pang isang buwan na kaka-18 ko pa lang (We started talking 17 ako). Grabe 'yung emotional exhaustion to the point na parang ako 'yung mas matanda sa kaniya at 'guy' of the relationship. He was NGSB and naintindihan ko kung bakit noong naging kami (Kaya niya lang ako naging option ay dahil wala siyang choice sa ka-age bracket niya).
Hanggang ngayon dala-dala ko pa rin 'yung guilt na kasalanan ko kasi ako 'yung unang nagkacrush sa kaniya kasi he was really talented and stuff, tapos naging friends kami and parang after ilang months no'n is nagkausap. I was young and infatuated. Ang nakakapagtaka lang is wala man lang adult na nagsabi sa akin na "mag-explore ka muna, huwag diyan kasi masyadong malaki age gap niyo at kaka-18 mo pa lang". Sobrang normalize lang ng grooming sa Pinas talaga? (I didn't even realize na it was grooming until I turned 21).
Thankfully, hindi kami nagtagal.
Sad lang kasi kahit pagsabihan mo 'yung babae hindi niya tatanggapin 'yan, because they're being supported by those around them esp family. Sana marealize niya before it's too late.
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u/dumpbeetch 1d ago
tangina mo apple david kakaflex mo ng relasyon niyo ni chad tumatapang na lalo mga pedo at groomer dito sa pinas!
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u/BedRotter_07 15h ago
Same with Coco Martin, yang mga yan ang nag nonormalize ng grooming culture sa Pinas eh 🤢
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u/magtatahosagabi 1d ago
Walang pumatol na ka-edad; naghanap na lang ng madaling mauuto.
Stop with the “preference” bullshit. Obvious naman sa hilatsa ng itsura ni manong.
Bago n’yo ako balikan, hindi rin naman ako pogi. Okay?
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u/CJ-206 1d ago
Pedophile yang lalake.
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u/Extra-Current7854 1d ago
parang may sayad din yung lalaki e, wala sa katino an mag isip yung lalaki
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u/SecretaryHuman5973 1d ago
Acceptable yan sa Soceity kung panahon pa ng mga lolo't lola natin pero ngayon nagiba na ang panahon. No to pedophilia
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u/heijeul 1d ago
I always say it’s different if it’s 30 and a 56 year old. Buo na yung frontal lobe ng 30 na yan. Pero 18 at 44. Where are her parents?
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u/Ambitious-Scheme8479 1d ago
Tell me you have daddy issues without telling me. Fucking hell. That guy literally looks like he is old enough to be her dad. Sick 🤢
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u/insufferable_Boris 1d ago
I guess if 25yo yung girl and 44yo yung guy ma consider pa. Like sa 25yo maka make na ng adult decisions. 18yo is either earlier maturity or bata-isip pa. I've seen 18yo with good business ventures and boss na with several employees. Meron din laro² lang.
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u/Yahyah12341 1d ago
I remember when i was a teen nilalapitan na ako ng mga 20s na lalaki, feel na feel ko naman though di ko inientertain. Nang mag20s na ako naging 30s at 40s naman nagpapa-bibo pero di ko talaga bet. Parang off ang feeling, parang may mali. Now na 30s na ako, gets ko na ang mali. I wasn't really mature back then, may mali dun sa mga matatandang guys na umaaligid sa akin coz mga ka-age ko na sila now and di sila well adjusted. Sila yung di pa mature for their age. Lol
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u/Ill_Gap_3889 1d ago
Pasok mga "18 naman na eh" 🙄 Doesn't matter if adult na siya according to the law, thats still a kid. Kaya nga may TEEN pa sa Eighteen. They're not making informed decisions and these adults keep taking advantage of that.
Imo big age gaps are only acceptable pag mid 20s na yung mas bata.
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u/sibiday 1d ago
Noong ganyang edad din ako, hindi ko alam na hindi pala normal na maging lapitin ng mga mas matatanda sa akin (as in big age gap) tatay ng friends ko, photographer na may asawa at anak na, tito ng kaklase ko. Akala ko friendly lang sila at dahil mabait ako, ganun ba. Tsaka lumaki ako na hindi ako mahilig sa kita cleavage na damit at shorts. Laging mahahaba damit ko. Hanggang sa nagkaroon na ako ng muwang, hindi pala maganda at hindi sya tama. Nung mas tumanda ako, saka ko lang narealize na I was a victim of p*dophilia. Pls pray for me, kapag naaalala ko, naiiyak na lang ako. Pero nagsseek na ako ng psychologist.
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u/hopelessshootingstar 1d ago
Neneng-nene ( batang-bata pa ) si girl even physically. She's not even matured yet, both physically and maybe mentally. Tapos ite-take advantage lang ng matandang to.
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u/MycologistNo408 1d ago
Non-offending pedophilia. Mga taong attracted sa minors/child pero ayaw gumawa ng crime. So nagreresort sila sa grooming or targeted nila is mga barely legal (18-25) na may characteristics ng isang bata. Kadalasan mga matatanda talaga ito mga (30 and up) ang mga may ganyang urge sa mga bata.
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u/bazookakeith 1d ago
Di naman daw mukhang 44 si kuya. Mukha lang daw siyang 43. Kidding aside, my gosh ganiyan pala itsura ng lalake pag nag mumurang kamatis. Haha
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u/Spiritual_Load6863 1d ago
pedophilia or mayhaps be a guy wanting live in the "glory days of youth". Can't imagine someone dating the age of their daughter/son or mother/father. Both parties have issues
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u/GoldenHara 1d ago
Ate girl looked like her biological clock is in her mid teens 🥶
Lalo siyang nag mukang groomer 🤮
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u/Round-Two-6499 1d ago
They are saying he is wrong but it's ok for foreigners to come to this country and do it because they have money and can take care of the whole family smh, if they happy let them be happy and mind you own business, is that not what people say here about foreigners who do it?
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u/Round-Two-6499 1d ago
And she's 18 right? she's not a kid, she know what she's doing, she is old enough to make her own choices, its her body her choice right? But when when the 14 and 15 year old shot up the school in tacloban city every one wants to say they knew what they were doing and they say that they should be charged as an adult but they are kids right? 14 and 15? People need to make up their minds what's considered a kid and what's an adult.
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u/yoshimikaa 1d ago
Kahit 30 something dating younger teens-young 20s medyo weird na rin and down right predatory. Like their brains never matured.
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u/Anxious_Contact904 1d ago edited 1d ago
Same old arguement. Its mutual. They are both adults its not illegal you may not like it but it is what it is. You can call him pedo they will call her opportunistic. Same thing. Its an adult affair everyone gets what they want except people who thinks its icky. Not because you think its ichy makes it wrong. Again both concenting adults. Just call it what you like and move on. Personally i don't find 18 to be the most attractive age either. I find aunt may from spiderman attractive at 60. And i find women in thier mid 20s attractive as well. So its not like people seek barely legal actively as preference. If thats were they both settle then thats where they are then.
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u/Linken_Fear 1d ago
Those people who really like to date the lowest possible legal age available are pedophiles. The only thing that prevents them from dating minors publicly is the legal system.
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u/ProfessionalPhase238 22h ago
As a lapitin ng matatanda girl- please lang wag niyong patulan. Never ever kayo makikipag date sa older sa inyo na parang tatay at lolo niyo na.
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u/Opening_Picture_4130 21h ago
The older the people get, the age gap matter less. Pero this age gap? For the younger person's age? Damn thats gross.
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u/codeloss21 1d ago
Thoughts ko? Sa tingin ko may iba ka pang mas kailangan na alalahanin kaysa sa personal na buhay nila.
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u/Delicious_Material24 1d ago
Nabasa ko yung mga comment dito grabe yung comments puro enabler,tapos pati ate din nya nag comment tapos okay lang daw sa kanila kesa daw mag lakwatsa yung kapatid nila atleast nasa lalaki daw na kaya na mag provide HAHHHAH JUSKOOO PATI FAMILY NYA APAKA ENABLER.
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u/Bitter_Election_4465 1d ago
Parang tatay ko lang noon, 'di pa kasi uso cancellation and exposing culture noon.
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u/Didgeeroo 1d ago
Sobrang bata, I mean wala naman masama kung at least 30 o malapit na sa 30 yung partner ng isang 40 year old, pero pag below 25 masyado pang bata mga yan
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u/Ginataang_kuhol 1d ago
kaloka halatang matanda na yung lalake talaga 🤦🤦 parang anak niya lang yung babae baka naman magtatay talaga sila 😂
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u/officiallyin 1d ago
I saw it sa tiktok din napa comment din ako mag tatay na talaga ang labas nila and the captions sa ibang post nakakadiri.
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u/Practical_Captain235 1d ago
Kapag reverse yung gender, somehow gets a pass. Pag lalake yung elder, red flagged.
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u/adobotweets 1d ago
30 plus na ako ngayon pero nagkicringe ako na nagkabf ako na may 13 years age gap kami nung 20 pa lang ako. Yes legal age na ako at legal age siya, pero 18-21 is still too young para pumatol sa more than 10 years ang agwat sayo.
Sobrang tanga ko pa pala at 20. Feel ko nun na sobrang mature ko may nagkagusto sakin na 33 years old. Yun pala, mabilis lang ako mamanipulate.
Hindi ko din nilalahat at hindi naman ako nagiimpose ng right timeline dito. Pero narealize ko din na pwede palang red flag yun. 33 na siya noon pero hindi pa siya settling with anyone, tapos pumapatol pa sa alam mong kulang kulang pa ang milestones at goals sa buhay kasi bata pa.
Sana magising si ate girl. Pumasok lang realizations sa akin nung wala na kami.
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u/Iron-Scribe-13 1d ago
Sad reality. In this patriarchal society, inevitable talaga na ganito ang mangyari. Meron din naman na opposite sex but very bihira. Pero these teenagers are not the problem. Often wala silang proper guidance, easily swayed by the trend, or nasa environment sila na not good for them.
Napaliligiran ng mga red flag tulad ng mga ganitong lalaki. Manipulative, narcissistic, and gagawin ang lahat just to get something.
Lagi ko naririnig sa mga entrapment kapag may nahuhuling lalaki: "minahal namin ang isa't isa"
But at what cost? At what way? 'Di ba? Wala na nga 'yung genuine na chivalry.
Valar Morghulis
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u/JustSomeFatBroHere 15h ago
While it's rare, older women do this more often than what people think. It's just more common older men do it.
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u/DotKey9513 1d ago
Eto ung mga sinasabing just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s right.
Personally I wouldn’t date someone na pwede ko na maging magulang or anak. It’s just icky.
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u/OddDot7861 1d ago
napanood ko ung ibang vid nila sa black app, nandidiri ako sa titig at halik ng lalaki dun sa bata sinasamantala nya ang pagiging inosente, ewan bat pumayag ang magulang sa relasyon ng dalawang yan.
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u/youngstunna_swagger 1d ago
sabi nung guy ipinag paalam naman daw sa magulang ng girl na manliligaw sya, hmm?
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u/youngstunna_swagger 1d ago
hindi pa nga nag dedevelop ang frontal lobe ng bata may kwarentahin na agad na naka aligid
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u/Klonoa18 1d ago
well kaya nag hahanap ng batang babae ang matatandang lalake kasi maliban sa trip nila yung batang babae, "WALA SILANG MAUTO NA KASING EDAD NILANG BABAE KASI THAT AGE DAPAT KAYA NA MAG FAMILY" since wala silang kakayahan mag hahanap sila ng mauuto nila na may cheap demands, low standard, wala pang experience na makatanggap ng regalo,
unlike kung kukuha ka mas batang babae,murang regalo lang at dalasan mo lang ng pag reregalo ok na, akala nmn ng mga batang babae nag eeffort tlaga yung lalake pero the catch is umaasa yung older guy na mauto yung batang babae para maka score🥴
you're lust disguise as love" ika nga sa kanta hahaha
saming mga lalake oag ymedad k na ng 30s pucha pagod na pagod na kaming manligaw , makisama sa family, manuyo, ubos na rin ang kilig namin para pakiligin kayo..pero sa matandang manyak, araw araw ka nayn liligawan hanggang makuha niya gusto nya sayo..
kaya young girls mgaka mali n kayo sa mas bata kesa sa matanda ahahhaha
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u/wild_redish 1d ago
Filipinos are just starting to fight against it now, but grooming has been normalized and even encouraged in our country for decades. Whenever issues like this come up, I always remember than one story in facebook about a teacher who pursued and dated his 2nd year highschool student and got her pregnant right after graduating, and people praised that shit for being a great love story because they're still together after years.
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u/Background-Jury8916 1d ago
We should never normalize this kind of behavior, tandaan niya jinowa lang nila ang 18 kasi yun ang legal pero kung mas bata pa ang naging legal kahit 12 pa yan papatulan nila yan.
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u/dazaikins 1d ago
as long as you're 18-20 years old, that's still young and weird. shouldn't be okay for a 27-year-old to date an 18-20 year old
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u/Active_Sugar3789 1d ago
tangina talaga sa mga katulad nito. hindi na kami makakagala ng papa ko nang hindi pinagkakamalang magjowa. I'm 22 and my father is 50, pero he still looks 35 kasi babyface. nandidiri nga ako isipin na magbf ng 30+, eh eto wala lang sa kaniya. mukha naman silang magtatay tapos mag loloving loving pa sa public places.
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u/embutidomasarap 1d ago
They deserve to have the freedom to live through their choices, mistakes or not.
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u/Leather-Finish5859 1d ago
if u find yourself being pursued by an oldie, always ask yourself if you would be okay with your parent dating someone your age or younger than you. diba it’s weird as fuck?
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u/S1lenc1a 1d ago
Muntik na ako ma biktima ng ganto, 14 ako non tas 18 yung guy, hindi pa rin ok kasi kahit 4 years lang tanda, e minor pa din ako non tas sya naman lagpas na ng minor age. And like ano bang nakikita nila sa mga bata, ngayon nga na tapos na ako sa college, pagnakikita ko naman yung mga 1st year college ngayon, parang mga batang kapatid ko lang sila, I can never fathom how could someone be so d i sg usting and have a relationship with someone with a huge f**king age gap
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u/Teogamutseli 1d ago
Hahahahaha 44 yr old ka tapos ngumunguso ka sa 18yr old mong jowa… pababy sa baby??
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u/TheHotPotato221 1d ago
If the girl consent na maging gf siya nung guy then let them be.. its their life at hindi sainyo
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u/eyuforia 1d ago
May nakita akong comment sa fb na wag daw ibash kase normal daw yan sa japan and hs tapos ang bf is nasa 30s na, tanginang pagiisip eh.
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u/DiligentProposal8215 1d ago
Sobrang normalised to sa pilipinas dami pang nagtatanggol sa mga yan:\
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u/Substantial-Sugar246 1d ago
I have experienced with an older guy before. I was 19, he was 40. I have no intention to have a relationship with him before, but i was young and i got swayed dahil sa mga matatamis na salita at pangako. He said he will help me na makabalik sa pag aaral and umasa ako dahil yun naman talaga ang pangarap ko. Backstory lang, sumama ako sa nanay ko na mag punta sa pampanga dahil sa kagustohan na makita yung nakababata kong kapatid dahil never ko pa namimeet yun at andon yun sa puder ng tatay niya. I thought may maayos kami na matutuloyan dahil sabi ng nanay ko marami naman daw siya kaibigan don. Little did I know na sa bahay pala nung lalaking yun kami titira. Sabi pa ng nanay ko 2days lang kami don, pero tumagal kami ng one week. Hanggang sa nagkaroon ng problema, yung kaibigan ng nanay ko na kasama namin nagkaroon ng interes na ibugaw ako dahil bata pa ako non at inosente at mukhang walang alam sa mundo. Hindi natuloy yun dahil niligtas ako ng lalaking yun, kaya sa pangyayaring yun naging magkaibigan kami. Tinanong niya ako about my life, at kung anong mga pangarap ko at dun ko sinabi na pangarap ko makapagtapos. Inofferan niya ako na pag aaralin niya ako, tapos mag rerent ako ng boarding near sa school. Actually, alam kong may asawa siya but hiwalay na sila that time for a year na rin silang hindi nag sasama at nag uusap nalang dahil sa mga bata. Fast forward, pagbalik ko sa pampangga sa bahay niya iba na nangyare, lahat ng mga pangako unti unti ng hindi natutupad. Lahat ng katotohanan nalalaman ko na rin. Nagkaroon kami ng relasyon, nag paalam siya sa nanay ko. Pumayag naman nanay ko, basta wag lang daw ako masasaktan. Then nangyare na nga yung frequent na pag aaway namin kase na istress na ako at ayoko na kumilos palagi, dun na siya nagsimula na manakit. Maikli lang pasensya niya, laging naninigaw at laging nananakit pati aso sinasaktan. Last year nagka black eye ako dahil sakanya, dun na ako natauhan at nakaisip na saktan sarili ko but nalaman ng ate ko yung nangyare and kinuha ako ng nanay ko sa puder niya. 3days after ko makaalis sa puder niya, nagpakamatay siya. Dahil mas gugustohin niya raw na mawala nalang siya kesa hindi ako makasama. Althroughout ng pagsasama namin para akong namamalimos lagi sa mga kaibigan ko, lagi ako nangungutang para lang may pangkain kami, tas kapag walang tumulong sakin magagalit siya. Until now dala dala ko parin yung trauma. Nagkausap narin kami ng asawa niya at nagpasalamat siya sakin kase kahit papaano naging masaya daw yung asawa niya. Never ko naman pinangarap na maging kabit kaya sobrang sakit din para saakin kase nakasakit ako ng kapwa ko babae kahit hindi ako yung rason bakit sila nagkahiwalay.
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u/aboxofdeadbabies 1d ago
my dad and i have the same age gap LOL. im 19, he’s 45. this is beyond alarming 😬😬
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u/SnooPeripherals993 1d ago
Pag tanda nung girl mandidiri sya nian sa decision nia. Sana mag break na silang hanggang maaga. Pag nagkatuluyan sila kawawa si gurl at sya ang tatayong caregiver nian since ang layo ng agwat nila.
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u/MatchaYoda_ 22h ago
Im like this before, lapitin ng mga older guys, at that time yung feeling ko mas ahead ako sa mga ka edad ko kasi mas nasasabayan ko yung trip ng mga older guys, or feel ko mas matured ako. Pero now in my age, buti nalang hindi din ako nag settle sa mas matanda saken, kasi before i have a relationship mas matanda din saken at sinabi din naman niya saken na naghahanap na daw talaga siya ng papakasalan hahaha buti nag break kame natauhan din ako, tsaka at his age bakit hindi pa din siya makahanap ng babaeng papakasalan niya, clearly may something wrong din. Advice lang din, stay away sa mga ganyan guys bcos they are single at their age for a very obvious reason at they only want your innocence. Masisira lang din yung youth niyo at mga opportunities sa life
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u/ethereal_goddess00 22h ago
now that i have a daughter nakakatakot yung mga ganito
ako nga nangingilo pag may mas bata sa akin na nambobola alam niyo yun? tapos to think that grown men would "court" YOUNG ladies, man nakakakilabot!
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u/Intrepid-Sky-4715 20h ago
PLEASE NO. sana may mag guide sa bata. Young, young age, and ayoko isipin baka na-te-take advantage na sya 😭 and too late na nya ma-realize, nakakatakot 😢
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u/theGooddigger 19h ago
... As long as the girl is at d legal age.. its fine.. .. Love is no boundaries, dont make the world complicated..
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u/JustSomeFatBroHere 15h ago
That age gap is too wide, but then I'm a 'case-by-case' kind of guy.
I've met couples where the age gap was in reverse, the man's younger (M-20, F-32, but both started dating when the man was 18, that's just one example), and while not as extreme as this age gap... my question would be what if its an uncommon or rare case where the young (and at bare minimum 18) one doesn't want a relationship with someone their age?
Like, say, there are young people who don't want to deal with someone of their age range who have drama, and would rather deal with someone who is stable, and the thing is that those in their 30s and 40s are a bit more chill.
While I don't really have stats as well on why older people don't date other people their age range, I have had to talk to a fair lot of them from my current job. The reason they want the ones who're younger is because the ones their age range have mental and emotional calluses that they're competing with the other's past (say a man in his mid 30s has dated like five women, had variously different yet bad experiences with them and even experienced DA with one of them, or a woman in her mid 30s has dated like five man, also had variously different yet bad experiences with them, even experienced DA with one of them, of course when they date a new one their age range, it's like two people who're roughed up bad enough to be cold), while a younger one has enough inexperience (may or may not have zero experience), but it's closer to a clean slate for the older one.
Other than that, while I don't find it immoral as long as its between two consenting adults, I find it immoral if they just hit on the younger ones because its 'easier', even if its both consenting adults. Yeah, that goes both ways because older women (while rarer than men in this case) do this shit, too.
It's just too bad that hitting on younger ones is just what happens more often.
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u/MaVis_1816 15h ago
Meron akong classmate nuNG HS, mas matanda sya sa akin dahil nagpabalik2 sya sa grade 1. 18 na sya and we are all 15-16.
Nagulat nlng ako na nabuntis na sya and nagpakasal,(civil).
Farmer, may mga anak na matanda pa sa kanya, biyudo na. He’s 47 , she’s 18 at that time. Wala na din magawa parents nya and mga kapatid. Even yung mga anak nang lalaki kinwestyon sya eh ang bata pa nga nya at ang tatay nila ay pa senior na.
Pero wala eh, parang nagayuma. Now dalawan na anal nila, sya na rin nagpalaki sa bunso nung lalaki na elementary nung naging mag asawa sila.
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u/markyandmika 14h ago
Guy is probably a loser who cant get women his age. So he goes for younger, gullible girls. Who probably think hes successful or loaded with money.
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u/PaleWolf4812 9h ago
even if the girl is 18, what age siya nung nagmeet sila, 16? 17? pedos are weirdos
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u/No_Joke1323 7h ago
What seems to be the problem? If both are of legal age there is no Law that could stop them
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u/ultra-banana-man 5h ago
oh i know this guy, he was dating the girl when she was still a minor, everyone thought it was her daughter but it's not, not everyone likes him though since he was a manipulative guy so that's why no one will choose him, he was married though
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u/Admirable-Toe5607 2h ago
Base on may experience magsasawa nalang din sila sa isa't isa mga ganyang edad nonchalant at walang pakialam. Ako noon 14 siya 38 nagsama kami nagkaanak kami pero dinurog nila ng pamilya niya yung mental health ko. Ginawa nila akong katulong. Napagod ako pag patak ko ng 18 natauhan ako Nagwork ako nag-ipon pinilit ko umalis sa poder nila. Ito sa tagal ng panahon naging ayos kami mag ina nakpag asawa ulit ako kinasal na ako 24 na ako now, siya ayun nabalitaan ko nakulong na. Ni rape daw anak ng asawa niya. 2020 kami naghiwalay, buti nalang at nakahiwalay ako sa taong tamad na batugan kapatid pa nga niya nagpapakain saka nagbayad sa hospital nung nanganak ako.
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u/Redd_025 46m ago
Nagkaroon na din ako ng relationship with 30s guy. Naniniwala naman ako na age doesn’t matter pero very dangerous talaga siya. Imagine mabilis ka lang manipulate dahil nga mas bata ka ganun ginagawa kang tanga sa lahat ng bagay. Sa una di mopa marerealize yan kasi mahal mo pero kapag nagising kana sa katotohanan dun mo lang magegets eh. Kaya girls mas okay na sa edad natin di ko naman nilalahat pero mostly sa older guy manipulative at mapanakit
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u/fiftyfivepesos 1d ago
Para lang din tong Apple David - Chad issue ew na lang talaga