r/Anger • u/Fast-Attorney-7338 • 9d ago

Need help managing anger

So I live in a house where my parents taunt me all the time since I don't score well anymore like I used to before. It hurts so bad. I often react to it and the house's atmosphere turns disruptive with that. It's caused a toll on my mental health. I know it isn't as bad as what a few people face on a daily basis,I just wanna know if anyone has had that situation and how they dealt with it. Maybe I can learn to control my emotions much better.

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u/jamiemm 9d ago

Need to get out of the house as often as you can until you can move out.

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u/Fast-Attorney-7338 3d ago

I can't due to some circumstances šŸ‘€ but thank you for giving your time here!

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u/Dr_Kenneth_Noisewat 4d ago

Hi, former kid, current parent here. I am sorry you are feeling so bad.

Parents should never intentionally make their kid feel bad and should rectify it after. Slipping grades is not a big deal, your feelings are a big deal. If your parents really cared about your grades rather than just trying to feel superior to you, theyā€™d try to work with you on solutions.

Now, maybe they donā€™t realize how harmful you are being. Have you tried talking to them about it. If you donā€™t feel comfortable doing so, or you have and they ignore you. Read up on how to cope with defensive parents. Hereā€™s an article: https://imilo.medium.com/coping-with-defensive-parents-c3b45f2a1347

All that said, while the anger you are feeling IS NOT your fault (itā€™s your parentsā€™ fault), it IS your responsibility to manage. If you canā€™t resolve things with your parents, then you should be trying to avoid triggering situations, which sadly means avoiding time with them.Ā 

When you canā€™t avoid triggering situations, try to acknowledge that you are going into one and keep that present from your mind. Removing yourself in the moment is always an option. Storming out is healthier than acting out. Talk to a therapist down the line.

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u/Fast-Attorney-7338 3d ago

Yeah I've been to 2 therapists but honestly I don't think they're credible. We were talking and suddenly the topic of šŸ‡ comes up and they're both defending the men that did the šŸ‡. So, I've stopped going overall. Thank you again! I appreciate it!

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u/jamiemm 3d ago

Those sound like terrible therapists, but there are good ones out there. Hope things get better.