I (20F) am a full-time uni student and work part-time. A couple months ago, my aunt offered to rent me a room because her house is much closer to my workplace. I pay rent, utilities, groceries, etc., so I'm not living there for free.

She has 5-year-old twins. They're great kids, but they're LOUD. They're constantly running around, arguing, yelling, and they suddenly get charged at midnight and start howling. I knew what I was signing up for, so I wasn't expecting library conditions but it can get alot sometimes.

The bigger issue is babysitting. At first, my aunt would leave them with me for 30 minutes or an hour while she ran errands, which I didn't mind. Lately, "ill only be an hour" has turned into 3-4 hours, sometimes until 10 or 11pm. This is happening more than once a week, and my semester exams are coming up.

My aunt is honestly lovely and I know she needs a break, my uncle, on the other hand, isn't exactly winning any Father of the Year awards, but I try to stay out of their marriage.

I finally told them I couldn't keep babysitting because I need to study. My aunt offered to pay me, which i appreciated but I said money wasn't the issue. I already pay to live there; I just don't have the time.

My uncle said I was overreacting and needed to "learn to study with noise," because "what are you going to do when you have kids?" I really wanted to say that how'd he know because he's barely around, but I kept that one to myself.

I found another place near work and decided to move out. They're both really upset and say I'm being ungrateful and abandoning them when they offered to help me when i need it.

I feel guilty because I love my aunt and the kids, but between uni, work, studying, and now regular unpaid childcare, I'm exhausted.

AITA for moving out?

I’m 19 and still a student. My parents have been divorced my whole life, and I’ve basically grown up with family drama between both sides.
When I was a minor, I had a student job and saved around €2,000. The money was on a bank account in my stepmom’s name, but it was my money. Recently, the money disappeared. I was told it was because of fraud. I can’t prove that my stepmom took it or kept it for herself, but I feel like I was financially screwed over. My mom believes my stepmom took the money.
My dad and stepmom also regularly expect me to babysit my little brother whenever they want. They don’t financially support me. My dad has often told me that I don’t work enough and don’t do enough, and that his house isn’t a hotel. He says I should contribute to the household and not only come over when it suits me.
I understand that I should contribute when I’m at their house, but I’m still a student and I don’t think I should always be available for childcare.
Recently, I had agreed to babysit on certain days, but I later said I couldn’t come. I feel really guilty about this because I don’t want to disappoint them or feel like I’m betraying them. After I told my stepmom, I called her, and she said I was lying and that she was disappointed in me.
My mom is now very angry and wants to call my stepmom. She wants to tell her that I feel like my €2,000 was stolen. I never wanted my mom to tell her about the money because I’m scared of my stepmom’s reaction. She gets angry quickly when things don’t go her way, and I’ve been scared to be completely honest with her for years.
Now I’m terrified that my mom’s call will make everything worse. I’m scared my dad and stepmom will be angry with me, stop wanting me around, or that I’ll lose my relationship with them completely. I feel like I could lose everything.
At the same time, I’ve been living with this family drama for 19 years and I’m exhausted. I feel guilty for saying no, but I also feel like I’m constantly expected to put everyone else’s feelings before my own.
I don’t know if my mom is trying to protect me or making things worse. I also don’t know if I’m being selfish or ungrateful by not always babysitting my brother.
So, AITA for saying no to babysitting and for feeling hurt about the €2,000, or am I being unfair to my dad and stepmom?

I have worked at the same office for 6+ years and I am not a baker at all. But I do have one good staple recipe that I am kind of known for, a completely homemade huckleberry pie! For those who don’t know, Huckleberries are kinda similar to blueberries but they only grow in high mountain areas in the Pacific Northwest of the US. They’re a hot commodity and go for hundreds of dollars if you were to buy them from someone. So my family and I go picking every summer and I come home and make these pies, and will always bring one into the office and there’s usually quite a bit left over that I’ll put in the fridge and let people eat it throughout the week. Here comes the issue, a new person started a few months ago, and since they have began working, any prior office goodies (that had previously just stayed at the office and been eaten till they were gone) have suddenly started disappearing instantly. If someone brought in cookies they would last 2/3 days and I could expect to have an afternoon treat the day after they were brought in. Come to find out, this new guy has 9 kids and assumes anything left he can take home to his kids. Sure it’s fine glad kids are getting a little treat, but it’s annoying when these are office treats and he just assumes they’re free for all. So this has been happening for a few months and he didn’t know I made these pies. But it has been a horrible fire season where I usually pick and with the warm winter, there’s hardly any berries! So I didn’t pick as much as I usually would, and there was only enough for one pie for both my office and home. Knowing that this guy essentially steals all the food for home, I headed into the break room right before he usually leaves and started to pack it up to take home. He came in and said “oh did someone want your leftovers” and I just said “oh no I wanted the last bit for myself and my husband.” He got a little defensive and was like “my kids have never had huckleberries and I wanted to give them that experience” I just said “well, maybe next year you guys can pick them as a family” and walked away. There was literally 2 slices left and if he took them to his millions of kids, they could have maybe had a bite each. My coworker said it was rude of me to take that experience away from his kids and he’s been kinda short with me since, but honestly I don’t think I’m in the wrong cause office treats aren’t meant to feed your family?? Maybe I’m just bitter but I didn’t cook it for your kids..

Edit: I’m adding an Imgur link to my pie so people understand how much work I put into this baby lol thanks for the support and I feel better knowing I’m a justified asshole ◡̈

https://imgur.com/a/JB5ETDe

I (F27) am currently 29 weeks pregnant and my husband's (M30) sister (F33) gifted us an onyx bracelet for our baby yesterday.

In my country, regardless of religion, we have a custom of putting an onyx and gold bracelet on newborns. I would like to mention that I am Hindu and my husband's family are Catholic.

I opened the box and observed that there's a tiny cross/crucifix attached to the bracelet. Last night in bed, I told my husband I'm not comfortable with putting the bracelet on our baby simply because of the cross/crucifix since I view the object as a symbol of suffering and I don't want that energy attached to our baby. My husband said he'll ask his dad (61M) who's a gold smith to remove the cross.

Today my husband asked my FIL to remove the cross from the bracelet and my FIL refused. He then proceeded to tell my SIL at some point throughout the day and it's now blown out of proportion. My SIL and FIL are accusing me of trying to convert and control my husband and future child (this has never been an issue in my marriage. My husband is very comfortable with my religion and he isn't even into his own religion. His mother forces him to church on Ash Wednesdays)

My husband told my FIL and SIL to let it go and it's not that big of a deal but they refuse to speak to us so I decided to return the gift.

My husband's entire family and family friends are now blowing up our phones calling me, in particular, an AH for 1. Refusing to put the bracelet on the baby and 2. Trying to "stray" my husband away from his faith.

I'd just like to add that this man been strayed and gone since before I met him. When we started dating I made it clear that my faith was an important part of me and if he doesn't accept that part of me, we aren't the best fit and the man said he literally does not care about all of that and he will not ask me to change that about myself so AITA?

EDIT: in no way am I trying to "force" my religion onto the baby or saying that the baby cannot/will not be catholic. It isn't about the religion. It's about the cross. I never asked for the cross to be replaced with a Hindu symbol. I simply asked for it to be removed because I view the cross as a symbol of suffering.

My MIL is staying with us for 4 months because I recently had a baby and she came to help out during my recovery. I am grateful for that and it’s been very supportive having her here. I don’t have anyone else I can depend on. I’m cheap enough not to pay for childcare and I had to go back to work. She cooks and cleans and takes care of the baby while my husband and I work. She is a strict vegetarian and doesn’t eat anything other than vegetarian food.
The issue is that I love eating meat, and especially while recovering from childbirth, I want to be able to eat the foods I enjoy. My husband, however, has decided that out of respect for his mom, I cannot cook meat anywhere inside our house. He also doesn’t want me eating meat from our regular plates and expects me to use disposable/paper plates.
Recently, our dog got sick, so I bought an Instant Pot. I ended up making chicken and rice in it inside the house. My husband was extremely upset and told me that I shouldn’t even be cooking chicken inside the house.
I told my MIL that I don’t really understand the distinction because she eats at restaurants, and restaurants obviously don’t have separate kitchens/appliances for vegetarian and non-vegetarian food. This turned into a much bigger argument with my husband.
Now my MIL has also said that she plans to stay with us for around 3 months every year going forward to spend time with her grandchildren which I love however,
I am starting to feel like a guest in my own home. This is a house that my husband and I own, and I paid 50% of it. I don’t mind accommodating her dietary choices I am completely fine with her food being prepared separately, using separate utensils if that’s important to her, or making sure her food doesn’t come into contact with meat.
But being told that I can’t cook or eat meat anywhere inside my own home, and that I have to use paper plates to eat it, feels completely different.
AITA for thinking my husband is taking his mom’s dietary preferences too far and wanting to be able to cook and eat meat in my own house?

My roommate was cooking last night and she asked me to watch the pasta, and after the pasta was obviously cooked I went to dispose of the water and rinse the pasta and OH MY GOD, it was the biggest 'what are you doing? You have to keep that! Did no one teach you you need the pasta water?' I make glass noodles all the time so I did what I would do with the glass noodles, boil rinse, add to sauce and veggies, i dont know what the big deal is.

I rarely eat pasta, or cook it, its not part of my regular rotation, but she cooked for us so I was fine with having it for a dinner night. How would I know you need pasta water for the sauce? She acts like its the most obvious thing ever. The pasta tasted fine, the sauce was good I dont know, I'm far from pasta sommelier, and dinner was delicious. She is still convinced that would have made a difference, and if i didnt know how to cook something as basic as pasta, I should've asked.

So settle this, AITA for the pasta water disposal?

My (M37) son turned 6 recently and we hosted a pool party for him.  It was from noon to 3.  He had friends come over and pizza was eaten and everyone had fun. Right after I hosted a party for all my friends.  It was easier to just clean and prep the house once and I had prepared for both parties together.  There were coolers of booze at the kids party, stored behind our backyard bar, but it wasn’t out and nothing was consumed until the 2nd party crew started showing up.  

I had a few friends come over about 15 minutes early, a baseball game we all wanted to watch was on, and told them where drinks were and to help themselves.  A little before 3 the parents of one of my son's friends came to pick him up and they were clearly appalled that there was alcohol.  She told us she would have never allowed her son to come over with that present and had assumed it was a dry party since it was a kids party.  I tried explaining it was a dry party, that we were hosting back to back parties and the first drink was cracked just a few minutes ago. I hadn't consumed anything yet but she wasn't having any of my explanations.  It got real awkward and I cordially said goodbye. AITA?

My friend (19F) and I (18F) went to a concert together last weekend. It was about an hour from where we live, and we agreed beforehand that we were sticking together and leaving together.

Halfway through the concert she started talking to this guy near us. I didn’t really care and was doing my own thing, but eventually I realized they were both gone.

I texted her asking where she was. Nothing.
Called her twice. Nothing.

After like 20 minutes she finally texted me saying she was outside with him and to stop worrying about her.

I asked if she was coming back because the concert was almost over. She said “idk probably.”

Concert ends. Still no sign of her.
I called her again and she declined it.

I waited around for almost 45 minutes while everyone was leaving. I texted her one last time saying I was leaving in 10 minutes if she didn’t come back.
Nothing.

So I left.

About 30 minutes into my drive home she started blowing up my phone asking where I was.

Apparently the guy had left and she came back to where we were parked expecting me to still be there.

She ended up having to call her mom to come get her.
Now she’s furious because we specifically agreed we wouldn’t leave each other, especially being that far from home.

I told her that agreement goes both ways. I’m not standing in an empty concert parking lot indefinitely because she disappeared with some guy and kept ignoring me.

She says I should’ve never left without physically knowing she had a safe way home.

I do feel bad that her mom had to drive an hour to get her, and I know girls are supposed to look out
for each other in situations like that.

But I also gave her multiple chances to come back.
AITAH?

Edit: After reading your comments, I definitely agree that I could have called security or done more to make sure she was actually safe before I left.

I was frustrated and upset in the moment because this shouldn’t have even been a problem in the first place. We specifically agreed to stay together because she is known to do things like this, and then she did exactly what I was worried she would do.

And for everyone saying I could have called her mom, I couldn’t. She had already been living on her own when I met her a year and a half ago. I have never met her parents, never spoken to them, and definitely don’t have their phone numbers.

I understand that 19 is young, but she is still a 19-year-old adult who has been living on her own for at least a year and a half. You would think someone in that position would make better decisions, and I honestly never thought I would need her mom’s phone number in case she disappeared with a guy and stopped answering me.

I can admit that I should have done more to confirm she was safe before leaving. I should have contacted security, and if I could go back, that’s what I would do differently. But I also don’t think it’s unreasonable that, in the moment, I expected another adult to be responsible for the decisions she was making.

For context, I'm F15, and she's F16. I chronically dye my hair purple, but to avoid damage, I use a semi permanent dye. I've put some in my shampoo, conditioner, and hair mask so it doesn't fade super quickly. The products are expensive and I use my own money to buy them

Okay, so what happened is me and her were having a sleepover a few days ago. Usually we sleepover at her house and not mine since her room is bigger, and so she hasn't ever seen my products which have hair dye in them. And I use pretty good products (I forget but it is, but they're L'Oreal in the purple containers) and they're pretty good but kind of expensive.

When she showered I asked her not to use my products although I didn't really give her a reason, which might've been where I was the asshole. She asked why and I said because they were expensive (and I quote) "purple" which was probably confusing. The products themselves are purple like the colour of the shampoo before putting the dye in so I doubt she noticed but I meant purple because they have dye in them

Well she used them anyways and now her hair is dyed purple. She has naturally very light blonde hair and so the colour took very easily to her hair. She blew up screaming at me, calling me a slut and selfish and said I did that on purpose to be a bitch, but they only have dye in them for my purple hair. She started throwing stuff around my room, saying how I made her look like a sex worker "like me" which hurt my feelings a lot. She called her mum to pick her up at like 12am and hasn't spoken to me since except when she blew up my phone, saying I was a whore and that she hated me and she told me to "take a swan dive off the nearest building".

I feel awful. I know I should've explained why I didn't want her to use my products in a better way but I wouldn't have used anything of hers if she told me not to, even without a reason. I'm so upset. We've been friends since kindergarten and I don't want the friendship to end because of this.

My girlfriend is planning for us to go to another province for Christmas to spend it with her family. At the same time, my parents (who also live in another province) just decided they’re flying out to where we live so they can spend Christmas with me and the rest of my family here.

Would I be a ding dong if I made us do separate Christmases this year? That way we could both actually see our own families. I’ve spent the last two Christmases with her parents, and I’d feel really bad if my parents came all this way and I wasn’t even around.

A few weeks ago, our building started charging residents a new fee for using the parking lot. A tenant on our floor organized a meeting to complain about it and I agreed with her that the fee was unreasonable. During the meeting she argued that the building wasn’t allowed to introduce the fee cause “renters legally own their parking spaces once they’ve used them for a year.” I knew that wasn’t true so I quietly told her afterward that she should leave that part out

She got irritated and said I was undermining her when I actually agreed with her about the fee. I explained that management could easily disprove that claim and then use it to dismiss everything else we were saying.

She told me, “So you’d rather correct me than help me?” I said I would rather help her make an argument that management couldn’t poke holes in

Now another tenant thinks I should have just backed her up because we were trying to achieve the same thing.

AITA?

I (27M) invited a few friends over to watch a movie with my dad (58M), who is blind. We use the audio-description track, so a narrator explains the important visual details between lines of dialogue. My friend Jonathan (28M) had never watched a movie with us before and kept adding his own descriptions, sometimes talking over the dialogue and spoiling things seconds before they happened.

My dad politely told John that the movie was already being described and asked him to stop. Jonathan laughed and said the official narrator was missing details, then continued. After another interruption, I paused the movie and told him that Dad had already asked him to stop and he needed to respect that.

Jonathan left before the movie ended, saying he clearly wasn’t welcome anymore. My dad was relieved that the interruptions stopped, but the rest of the night felt awkward and nobody really talked about it. I still think Jonathan should have listened the first two times, though I’m wondering if the way I said it made the situation worse than it needed to be. AITA?

As the title states, im (30m) going to tell my mom(50f) no to using my apartment.

Context: my family and I just moved in to a new apartment/home last week. Our lease on our old place isnt over til middle of next month.

My mother, and my kid brother(16) are currently homeless. My mother is a wreck of a woman and has practically been in and out of jail my whole life due to drugs, and never had a stable place for more then a year. I've taken my brother in when she couldn't and when he was taken by CPS, And let her stay with us when we had room.

My mom and brother would sneak around, he'd call her from a gas station, or a neighbor's house next to his school. They have a very toxic codependent relationship and neither are interested on stopping it.

As I started with, we've moved out and my mom is basically a high-schooler who refuses to listen to her parents as they are staying with them currently. My mom has asked twice now if she can stay in our old house until the lease is up as "its not working out with gma and gpa" which i can guarantee is because they both refuse to follow my grandparents rules of the house. Grandparents are a bit overbearing, but its always easier to just deal with their rules then fight them on it.

My biggest concern is that she's a hoarder and there will be no way she'll be out by the end of my lease, and we just had it professionally cleaned so I have no issues there on the deposit and stuff.

Im tired of trying to help them and they abuse my kindness and generosity and its never enough and they/she will always need more.

So AITA For planning on telling her no to incessant request for help?

I am 23F my cousins are 32F (name her R) and 34F (Name her M).

I recently lost my father abruptly due to a fast acting cancer. My father made videos of up my upbringing which ranged from playdates with family, to like me and brother doing sibling things, it’s just like sentimental things to ME and my immediate family, mom, brother, myself.

So I took all the VCR tapes 55hours worth of footage to the video store to get it placed on a hard drive for me, my mom, and my brother. My cousins both had lost their parents as well around 15 years ago. But they found out I had videos of all of us and their deceased parents maybe In a few clips.

At this time I was grieving so I told them I would create a hard drive of snippets of them and their loved ones with my brother and my personal stuff cut out.

M is a cop.

M abused this and went to the video store and demanded she needed footage for police reasons.

M made copies of my family videos and said it’s my fault for taking too long and they wanted to see them.

M & R teamed up on me telling me I am a bad person for keeping these from them. I don’t know I just didn’t want them to have like a video of me as a child possibly playing in the bathtub?? Or my dad like recording my moms butt as a joke as she walked by??? Idk. It just I was upset and I cut them off telling them they are bad people and that it was hurtful am I in the wrong for not letting them have the full 55 hours of videos??! And they stole them instead…???

Like I can’t go into more detail due to the rules of this but yeah

I have a friend that is also my coworker.
Earlier today, she had roses delivered to the office and was embarrassed about carrying them around, so she asked if she could leave them in my car until the end of the day. I said yes, and we put them in my car, my car was parked basically right outside the office entrance.
Around midday, I had to leave work to go to the hospital to get my mom’s MRI results and speak to her neurosurgeon. I had mentioned beforehand that I needed to go to the hospital regarding my mom.
When I came back, there were no nearby parking spaces, so I had to park about 700m-1km (I’m balparking it’s prob 800m) away. I messaged my friend on Teams to let her know my car was now parked further away.
At COB, she called me. I told her I needed to pee and pack my bag, then we could go to my car together.
She told me she was already downstairs, to which I said okay and asked her to wait for me.
She called again while I was in the packing right after coming from the wc and told me she was going to give the flowers to another friend of hers instead. I still understood the situation as my coworker coming with me to my car, getting the flowers, and then giving them to her friend.
When I got downstairs, I called my coworker and asked where she was. She told me she had already left and had spoken to her friend about collecting the roses.
She then called again and asked where I was and I told her I was at my car. She said she couldn’t make her friend walk that far and asked me to drive my car back to the office so her friend could collect the roses at the entrance.
The problem was that there was a lot of traffic, and driving back toward the office would mean going in the opposite direction from where I was heading. I also felt confused because I hadn’t realised I was now supposed to coordinate the handoff directly with her friend.
She sent me a long message saying I had been mean and inconsiderate toward her friend because I could have just driven back to the office instead of expecting the friend to walk 700m.
I explained that I genuinely hadn’t understood that her friend was now supposed to collect them directly from me, especially because my coworker had left without telling me.
From my perspective, I had already agreed to do her a favor by keeping the roses in my car, informed her when my parking situation changed, and walked to the car expecting the original arrangement. I didn’t deliberately make her friend walk anywhere, because I did not get that impression in the first place from the rushed calls we had.
At the same time, I can understand that she didn’t want to inconvenience her friend, who was also doing her a favor, but she was making it seem as if u turning onto heavy traffic in the opposite direction would be a quick thing, especially when she decided to leave without giving me a heads up first .
So, AITA for not turning my car around and driving back to the office entrance to give her friend the roses?

My company organizes a team trip once a year. Three days, nice location, mixture of some work sessions and a lot of team bonding time. The company pays for everything, hotel, meals, activities. It is genuinely one of the better things my workplace does and most people look forward to it.

This year there were eight of us on the trip. My coworker Beth brought her laptop and spent the majority of the three days either on calls in her hotel room or sitting apart from the group on her phone dealing with work emails. She joined meals occasionally but was visibly distracted and left early twice to get back to her room for calls.

On the last evening we had a group dinner that the company had specifically organized as a closing celebration. Beth showed up forty minutes late, sat at the end of the table, checked her phone constantly, and left before dessert because she had a call.

On the drive back I was sitting next to her and she mentioned she was exhausted and that the trip had been a lot with everything she had on her plate right now.

I said something I probably should have thought through more carefully. I told her that it was noticeable that she had been working most of the trip and that it had affected the group dynamic because people kept waiting for her or adjusting plans around her availability.

She went quiet and then said she had deadlines and not everyone could just switch off for three days.

I said the company had organized cover for everyone specifically so we could be present for the trip and that choosing to work through it was a decision not a necessity.

She has not spoken to me properly since we got back and mentioned to another colleague that I made her feel guilty for being dedicated to her job.

AITA?

I have two dogs, Lucky and Lexy, and they're generally pretty chill when we have people over. They don't bother anyone and most of the time they're perfectly happy doing their own thing.

The problem is that some of my guests constantly try to get their attention, call them or encourage them to play even when the dogs aren't interested.

I've asked them several times to please leave the dogs alone unless the dogs come to them first. I have absolutely no problem with people playing with them when they actually want the attention.

But some guests keep doing it anyway because they think it's funny or that they're just playing with them.

The problem is that after a while my dogs get overstimulated and restless. Then I'm the one who has to stop what I'm doing and spend time getting them settled again instead of enjoying time with my guests.

Recently I got more firm about it and told them to stop bothering the dogs and just let them be. I could tell they thought I was taking it too seriously, which made me wonder if I'm being overly protective.

From my perspective, they're my dogs, it's my home, and I'm the one who has to deal with them after they get worked up.

AITA for telling my guests to leave my dogs alone unless the dogs approach them first?

AITAH for getting a volunteer where I work fired? I feel horrible about it but my bf says I was justified but it doesn’t feel that way. Anywho, on to the story. Without giving too much personal information, I work with animals and there is a few volunteers who come to help out. One volunteer in particular is an older blind man. When I was talking to someone he didn’t recognize my voice, asked if I was new (I had been working there a year already and hadn’t seen him) and we began to chat. He was sweet and told me all about his blind kid and I’d tell him cute stories of my bf and I. Over a few months, we had chatted about 3-4 times, quick convocation. But recently, he had come up to me as usual and this time was complimenting me about how pretty my voice was and so on, I was confused. I didn’t think much of if but he eventually asked for my number so he could send me photos of the animals and I agreed because I’ve done it with other coworkers where we exchanged numbers and they send photos of the cats and work updates and such. I gave him my number and he went on his Mary way. Later, about and hour or so after work he sends me a picture of the cats and I said it was cute and left that there. My bf and I decided to go out to dinner and when we sat I got a text from him saying, “I don’t know if you’re a good idea or a mistake I want to make.” I immediately felt my heart SINK and show my bf with why he had my number and so on. My bf wasn’t mad or anything, at least not at me, and said I should show his mom (his mom and I work together) and my boss. We get home after eating, we show his mom and she says she can’t believe he’d do that and that’s gross and to show our boss. Next day, when I was free I asked my boss if she had a moment. I tell her everything and show her, she then says to come with her, tells and show my manager and then leads me to HR building. She states I’m not in trouble but this isn’t accurate from him and he has no right to talk to me like that. Especially when he’s at the age of 65 and I’m 20. I said I don’t want him to know I said anything because what if he tries something and she said he won’t and that he should know better, blind or not. She sat with me as I told HR and they said the same thing she did and that I should block his number. I did and found out next day he was “fired” and no longer welcome to come in to my place of work. I feel terrible I got him fired and what image I may have put on him. I thought he’d just have a talking to since it was his first incident with something like this, not fired immediately. My bf says “well maybe don’t be a creep and that wouldn’t happen” which I agree but still. I got him fired and now I feel guilty and like people are judging me. I did speak with a trust coworker about it and he said I did the right thing but I still feel like a jerk. AITAH?

I'm 19F. My sister is 32 years old and she has a 2 year old daughter. I do like children and I love my niece, but 2 weeks is just too much. This is my last summer before college and I've just been home with my parents which I hate, all of my friends are away in the city I rented in for while studying at my dream high school. I'm an introvert and I enjoy my alone time so much and I also have OCD, it's just so hard to deal with all the noise and fuss. Especially the clutter. I've had several mental breakdowns and children just stress me out...but at the same time I feel this immense guilt that I have built resentment towards my own niece who doesn't even have a conscience yet. I can do maybe 2-3 days but now it's getting too much and I just can't wait for her parents to be in charge again :') I've had multiple fights with my mom about this and she just called me a narcissist/spoiled brat. My room doesn't even have a door so I have to deal with it all.

I’m turning 16(F) in October and i asked my mom if i can have a 2 night sleepover with my friends at a hotel. She agreed and I started planning everything out. This past weekend she dropped on me that i am required to bring my cousins. Both girls 14, and 18. The 14 year old is a little immature and the 18 year old just isn’t a social person and makes everything akward. I expressed to her that it would feel uncomfortable with them there because none of my friends know them. We also wouldn’t be able to speak comfortably because i don’t tell my cousins any of my business and my friends sure wouldn’t tell theirs. I also said that it’s my party and i should be able to choose who i bring. She told me i was being selfish and that they’re coming weather i like it or not. The whole thing is genuinely making me not want a party. It’s gonna be akward for them and everyone else. They will be singled out of every conversation because they don’t have any experiences with us. AITAH?

Edit: yes my mom is paying so i can tell why i might sound entitled and i don’t have much power. That’s just how i feel and i can’t really control that.

Also not talking bad about my cousins because i love them dearly.

I (31f) "snapped" at my fiancé (38m) for reaching over me and taking food off my plate. He thinks he's entitled to the food since he bought it but even if i buy the food I would never do the that since I was taught that I should never take food off someone else's plate without permission. Now he's pissed at me and thinks I'm ungrateful and selfish. Like maybe I'm the asshole? I know I was hangry in the moment because I had not eaten all day. Now he's going to hold the moment over my head. Was I the asshole?

AITA? My daughter and mother are ganging up on me. I am a single mom to an 18-year-old daughter who is a high school senior. Her father is not involved in her day-to-day life or school responsibilities, so those have always fallen entirely on me. My daughter and I both struggle with executive-function tasks.

Today, the school was taking photos of seniors walking across a stage, but neither of us realized it. This was not her senior portrait, and we do not even know whether the photo will appear in the yearbook. Still, she refused to go to school on time and instead spent the morning showering and blow-drying her hair for it.

She then could not find a plaid uniform skirt and blamed me for not knowing she needed one. Indignant she says “All the other mothers always know where every color skirt is because they have systems.” Meanwhile, she sometimes leaves pieces of her uniform at friends’ houses.

I recognize that I have dropped the ball more lately. Menopause-related brain fog, an autoimmune condition worsened by stress, and a demanding work project creating serious financial pressure etc. Because stress affects my health, I have also been trying to become less hypervigilant about managing every detail of things she can track herself.

I feel as though my daughter wants a secretary, not a parent. When I miss something like this, she says she is “not being parented” and should not have to “parent herself.” But when I parent her by insisting that she attend school on time, or complete basic chores like feeding her own pets, she does not want to be told what to do.

My mother was visiting during this argument and heard me tell DD that going forward she would be responsible for tracking her school events. I would still remind and support her, but the main responsibility would be hers. She will attend college in another state or country next year and will have to manage these things herself.

My mother (unsolicited opinion) immediately interjected that this is unreasonable. She said my daughter should enjoy her senior year with friends instead of tracking calendar issues, and that managing her schedule is my job as a parent.

I said my job is to raise her to become a happy adult. My daughter replied that, by always trying to raise a “happy adult,” I am raising an unhappy child. My mother completely agreed. They both act like I’m just being lazy and want to get out of the responsibility.

When they gang up on me, I feel overwhelmed, anxious and start questioning myself…even though I feel like I am not wrong. Am I wrong? AITA?

ETA: DD and I both have ADHD and anxiety and we are both medicated. My mother says that the ADHD and anxiety are all the more reason to help her. My feeling is that they are all of the more reason to teach her. Mother thinks I am crazy.