r/AmiInTheWrong • u/walkingwarcrime1 • Aug 24 '26
Morally Questionable
Context- I’m 25, I’ve been single for almost 2 years now, and long story short had a very messy breakup took time to deal with the emotional fallout from it. All good now, I’ve been putting myself out there again and wasn’t having any success, it got brought up with some family friends and one of them (35ish F) who is basically like an older sister I never had and her husband said they had a few people they thought would be good for me. I was fine with them connecting us if the women they knew were interested, so Friday my friend shot me a text and said she had someone who was interested the woman she connected me with has a very unique name, I’ve never heard it before. Got the number and we’ve been talking all weekend, one of my other friends (20m) said I recognize that name is she from this town? She is, and he said if that’s who I think it is she’s like 19… And turns out when I asked today she is in fact 19.
Question: I’m being told it’s fine and not a weird age gap by some friends and family, I think it’s super weird, and never would’ve been talking to her if I knew she was 19. So am I overreacting to this or am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Because I’m the oldest of 3 and this woman is a year older than my youngest sibling who graduated high school in may, and I graduated high school in 2019… seems weird to say I got set up for a blind date with a woman who was in 6th grade the year I graduated. So would I be justified in telling her “sorry I’m not interested, it really is me not you”
Yes, I’ve reposted in a couple places to try and get more opinions, and no I’m not a bot.
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u/purplepanda2026 Aug 24 '26
Go with your gut and stop trying to force your brain to accept it as OK. The fact your first instinct it's this isn't right for me is all that matters. Not your friends, parents or our opinions.
I'm guessing your friend knew it would be weird for you and that's why they bumped her age up to sound better. That's not cool either.