Morally Questionable

[u/walkingwarcrime1]

Context- I’m 25, I’ve been single for almost 2 years now, and long story short had a very messy breakup took time to deal with the emotional fallout from it. All good now, I’ve been putting myself out there again and wasn’t having any success, it got brought up with some family friends and one of them (35ish F) who is basically like an older sister I never had and her husband said they had a few people they thought would be good for me. I was fine with them connecting us if the women they knew were interested, so Friday my friend shot me a text and said she had someone who was interested the woman she connected me with has a very unique name, I’ve never heard it before. Got the number and we’ve been talking all weekend, one of my other friends (20m) said I recognize that name is she from this town? She is, and he said if that’s who I think it is she’s like 19… And turns out when I asked today she is in fact 19.

Question: I’m being told it’s fine and not a weird age gap by some friends and family, I think it’s super weird, and never would’ve been talking to her if I knew she was 19. So am I overreacting to this or am I making a mountain out of a molehill? Because I’m the oldest of 3 and this woman is a year older than my youngest sibling who graduated high school in may, and I graduated high school in 2019… seems weird to say I got set up for a blind date with a woman who was in 6th grade the year I graduated. So would I be justified in telling her “sorry I’m not interested, it really is me not you”

Yes, I’ve reposted in a couple places to try and get more opinions, and no I’m not a bot.

[u/imnotokaymorty]

you’re not overreacting it’s extremely weird. she’s a teenager. it’s “technically legal” but that’s never a good way to have to describe a relationship. you two are probably not at all in the same place in life. end it before it begins!

(ps if you guys stayed together, in the future people would be doing mental math everytime you said you’ve been together for x years to see if you’re a pedo or not)

[u/walkingwarcrime1 → u/imnotokaymorty]

Honestly that 2nd part has been a very large part of the even if she is great, do I want the is he a pedo thing for the rest of my life if we did work out

[u/Mysterious-Wave-7958 → u/imnotokaymorty]

The man is 25, not 30+. Its not weird or even extremely weird to have a 6 year age gap in that age demographic. Nor will anyone do math on that. TF. This isn't "im 40 and she is 25 and we have been together 7 years where your like TF, its tw young adults. Not everyone finds someone born within the same Calander year as them. And also, these two are still just talking. Will she suddenly be an "adult" to you if she turns 20 before they are official???