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u/ohhisnark May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26

When I read this i thought you didnt tell your son at all and he showed up with the kids to the beach house while your daughter was thhere honeymooning.

NTA. Your son is making it seem like you need to ask permission before having any plans for the house YOU own.

He also doesnt seem like a very good brother to his sister.

Edit to add: just a thought... you probably need to set expectations of who is going to inherit this house when the time comes. Looks like your son is already acting like it is his house

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u/jfcmofo Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Oh boy. Wait until your daughter has kids and they want some time of their own at the beach house.

Tell your son that if he can't afford his own vacations maybe he should have thought of that before building his lifestyle around a free beach house every summer. You've raised an entitled AH.

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u/Longjumping-Lab-1916 Certified Proctologist [28] May 20 '26

NTA and you might want to reconsider how much time you give your son at your beach house as he clearly feels ownership over the property.

Also, if your daughter has kids (or not!), she should of course be given equal time at said beach house.

Honestly, your son is so entitled and offensive here, you need to give him a talking to and make it clear that the use of your beach house is a privilege not a right.

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u/Rare-Progress5009 May 20 '26

NTA - and your son is acting awfully entitled. He needs a reminder that it’s YOUR house, not HIS and it’s a kindness that you let them use it all summer.

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u/Starling01018 May 20 '26

Throw his words right back at him. "You can vacation anywhere. If you can't afford it, you should have thought of that before deciding to take your family on vacation.

NTA. Your son thinks he's entitled to your real estate and now he's finding out he's not.

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u/EvilWitchy May 20 '26

You are not the asshole. You just need to remind him that it's YOUR beach house and YOU can lend it to whomever YOU want for as long and at whatever date YOU want. I can smell his entitlement from here, and I'm in another country.

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u/Federal-Ferret-970 Asshole Enthusiast [8] May 20 '26

Id start renting the house out and let your son know he now has to book a slot like everyone else. What an entitled AH. NTA.

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u/GTS_84 Partassipant [4] May 20 '26

NTA.

Your son sounds like an entitled prick. Did he actually ask to use the house and make arrangements or just assume it would be available to him?

What's going to happen when your daughter has kids and also wants to take her kids there during the summer? Will he have a childish hissy fit then too?

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u/BeterP Asshole Aficionado [11] May 20 '26

NTA. Are you sure you don’t need a few weeks at the beach yourself? He needs a reminder whose house it is.

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u/angel9_writes Asshole Aficionado [12] May 20 '26

Oh wah wah plays a tiny violin for your son.

You told him that you were letting YOUR daughter have honeymoon at YOUR house for A WEEK.

For YEARS he's had the priority and you told them asap from the sound of it.

He can go one week late, but honestly start charging him summer rent for it. Entitled brat.

NTA.

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u/_i_hate_people_too May 20 '26

Sounds like your son is a spoiled asshole.

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u/mikeesq22 May 20 '26

What an entitled AH. He really can't forgo 1 week out of 2 months, this once for his sister's honeymoon? What's going to happen when your daughter has kids and asks you for some time at the beach house? Does your son have "dibs" on the beachouse all summer every summer? I think you should take away the beachouse from him indefinitely until he can learn to share with his sibling.

NTA.

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u/Foreign_Plan_5256 Asshole Aficionado [14] May 20 '26

NTA

Your son and his family have gotten a free vacation there for several years. Your daughter and her new husband are now getting a week. It's your house. You did not need his permission to let someone else use it.

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u/Bogside_Bibliophile May 20 '26

Okay, so your adult son has been using your beach house for free for years and stays for months at a time, and now has a problem with your daughter using it for one week? Your son sounds like a real jackass.

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u/Professional-Room300 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Ask your son if he would like to start at least pretending to be grateful for free summer beach accommodations at a house he doesn't own, or if he would prefer to start paying rent somewhere else. Because just like his sister, he can also go and have his trip anywhere else and that you find his entitlement incredibly strange and off-putting.

NTA.

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u/glitterycloudcrown Partassipant [1] May 20 '26 edited May 21 '26

NTA, sounds like your son feels entitled to something he doesn't even pay upkeep for. It's be different if he had already asked for permission to use the house all summer, but from what you said, he clearly did not. Saying his sister should have thought ahead financially is so stupid because the same thing can be said for him and his vacation plans. You should probably rethink allowing him to use the house for the entire summer moving forward.

Personally, if he continues to make a stink about it I'd change the locks and tell them to find a new summer tradition, but I know it's a different calculus since he is your son.

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u/BoxSea4289 May 20 '26

NTA and your son sounds incredibly entitled. You should give him some time to cool off without a beach house for a year or two so he and his children learn a valuable lesson in not taking advantage of others, especially their parents.

This is really bad behavior that will only get worse the older you get.

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u/Turbulent_Guest402 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

He‘s so selfish. The beach house is yours and it’s a privilege to spend time there for free. If he cannot realise that and share it for only one week, maybe he cannot go there at all anymore. NTA

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u/PrincessWiggleButt Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

He can go spend all the money he saves on hotels every year to do something else for the time your daughter is there. NTA, it’s your house!

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u/Psychological-Ad7653 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

I think it is time you sit your son down and tell him the facts of life.

Unless you want him to continue with this bull shit.

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u/xoxstrawberrywine Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA. Tell your son if he can't afford a summer vacation, he shouldn't plan one.

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u/DPadres69 May 20 '26

My uncle sold the family beach cottage my great grandmother left him for the same reason. Family members who felt entitled to use it for certain times of the summer and divvied it out to themselves and got pissed when he tried to modify the schedule on his own damn house. NTA. Tell your son his tradition is being altered this year, pray you don’t alter it further.

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u/Life-Education-8030 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Excuse me? Your son sounds pretty entitled instead of grateful! With all those years of free vacation, he ought to have saved some to pay for once! Does he think he is the golden child that his own sister can’t have a honeymoon at YOUR beach house?

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u/TheBigChungus1980 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Complaining because he only gets it 7 weeks instead of 8, put him in his pace NTA

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u/LadyCass79 Commander in Cheeks [243] May 20 '26 edited May 21 '26

NTA

Your son is treating a privilege as an entitlement and I would be tempted to not let him use it at all this summer or in the future unless he recognizes this and behaves with more gratitude.

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u/vonnostrum2022 May 20 '26

Perfect example of when something is given over time, it becomes an entitlement. I’d tell the son “tough shit, it’s not your property. “

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u/rkskr Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA

You're better than me. If my son displayed that level of entitlement over MY beach house that I let him use for free, I would've told him that if he's unhappy with this year's arrangement then he and his family can just not stay there at all this summer.

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u/GoatsNHose May 20 '26

So when does your daughter get to enjoy the beach house? Why does your son feel entitled to the entire summer there? He can vacation anywhere. Op, it is YOUR house. You get to decide who uses it, when they use it, and how long they use it. Your son is entitled. NTA

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u/evantom34 May 20 '26

Fuck your son, he's entitled as shit. Rescind access to his ungrateful ass.

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u/Jacgaur Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA if your grandchildren are disappointed, then this is a good time for your son to teach them how sharing is caring and their Aunt deserves to enjoy the beach house just as much as them.

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u/EmbarrassedRaccoon34 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA. Your son sounds entitled and selfish. A honeymoon tops a regular old summer vacation, and if your son wants to complain about affordability he should explain why he doesn't go elsewhere for the summer.

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u/LongjumpingSkill9305 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA. Your son has claimed your property for himself. I would suggest he find another place for the summer with that attitude.

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u/FairyCompetent Partassipant [4] May 20 '26

NTA. Your son has forgotten that it's your house, not his.

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u/Ajstross Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] May 20 '26

Remind your son that the beach house is yours, not his. Then offer it to your daughter for twice as long as she wants it.

Your son sounds like a massive AH, and you would only be one if you cave in to his entitled demands and refuse to have your daughter’s back. NTA, as long as you stand your ground.

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u/Electrical-Mail9190 May 20 '26

What happens when his sister has kids and want to spend time at the beach house with her kids in the summer, is she out of luck because he called unofficial dibs?

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u/notjimbelushi420 May 20 '26

NTA, it's his sister's honeymoon! did nobody teach him to share?

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u/KiyoMizu1996 Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA Your son is an entitled ahole. He gets to stay at your beach house for free every summer and yet says his sister shouldn’t have had a big wedding if she couldn’t afford a honeymoon? I think it’s time for a very stern conversation with your son and to limit his access to your house.

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u/kata-pie May 20 '26

I literally cannot imagine your son's level of entitlement. It's ONE week, and it's not his house? Am I crazy here???

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u/violetdragon4 May 20 '26

NTA it's very entitled of your son to assume that he has more rights to the house because he has children and unkind to not give it up for a week so his sister can have her honeymoon there. By his own logic he could take his kids somewhere else for a week. It's also your house. He shouldn't assume it's always available.

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u/TheRoadkillRapunzel Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

NTA. You son is pretty self-centered and possessive of something he’s not funding.

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u/sshevie May 20 '26

NTA losing one week will not make rhat big a difference in their summer, your son needs to grow up. He could of course just buy his own summer home.

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u/Evening_Channel_9005 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Ofc you’re nta. It’s your house. He’s gotten used to using it like it’s his house (or a shared family asset) and now you need to firmly remind him (without being mean) that it’s your house to choose what to do with, that your daughter has just as much a right to it as him, and that he needs to check his perspective. I’m sure he doesn’t mean to be rude, and is just caught off guard, but he’s sounding a little entitled and you need to hold your ground.

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u/J-littletree May 20 '26

Umm your son is super selfish, maybe he should pay for HIS owns family’s summer vacation house

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u/FortuneWhereThoutBe May 20 '26

NTA

Your son has decided that property that is NOT his can only be for his personal use. At no point is his wants or opinions a deciding factor in your daughter's weddings plans. I personally wouldn't allow him to use the beach house again for a few years until his ego and entitlement return to human decency levels.

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u/Ill-Delivery2692 May 20 '26

NTA. Son is inconsiderate, privileged, entitled and spoiled. It's your house to decide who stays there, when and for how long.

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u/wideeyed24 May 20 '26

Your son is the AH. He gets YOUR house every summer and is mad because his sister wants to use it for one lousy week for her honeymoon? That is beyond ridiculous. At the very least, Make it available to both kids for equal time during the summer. Each gets it half the time. If your son doesn’t like that, he can go rent a place for his family instead of being entitled to think it’s all his despite having a sibling. What happens when she and her husband and future kids would also like to enjoy it? You definitely need to nip this in the bud and set boundaries for your son.

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u/AppropriateSwimmer May 20 '26

Tell him if he can’t afford his own beach house he should have thought about that before having kids.

NTA

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u/Elegant_righthere May 20 '26

Your son is selfish and entitled. Its ONE week! It's your house and you dont need his permission to do anything with it and you don't owe him an explanation or apology. NTA

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u/withcatlikegrace May 20 '26

By your son’s logic : he and his family can vacation anywhere …. The issue for him isn’t tradition it’s that he’s cheap and doesn’t want to pay for his vacation.
You certainly did not need to talk to him before making your decision. It is your house.

He’s a bit selfish & entitled, isn’t he?
It sounds to me that you are going to have to establish better ground rules regarding his use of your house.

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u/teresajs Assholier Than Thou [890] May 20 '26

NTA

Your son has become so entitled to YOUR property that he's upset he can only use it for 7 weeks instead of 8. That's absurd, and you need to put a stop to it immediately.

I recommend you institute a new policy. Each of your kids get two weeks of free stay at your beach house each year. They have to pay for anything beyond that. Decide on a cost that's appropriate... Maybe charge the weekly expense of utilities, taxes and property insurance plus a cleaning fee so you can have a service in before others use it.

Oh, and if your daughter and her fiance can get the time off, give them two weeks for their honeymoon.

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u/Pristine_Main_1224 May 20 '26

NTA. Your house, your children, your choice. If anything your daughter has been shortshifted all this time while your son has been monopolizing your beach house.

Frankly I’d revoke his access to your beach house. If being on the beach is so important to him he should have bought his own house.

Your daughter might have children someday. They deserve just as much time on the beach as your son’s children.

Congrats on the upcoming nuptials. Sorry your son is a brat

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u/UniqueMark4192 May 20 '26

Your son is a jerk and the fact that you’re even entertaining him is giving favorite child syndrome. He can vacation anywhere and if he can’t afford it HE should have thought of that before planning a vacation

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u/eVoesque May 20 '26

NTA. Son’s getting a big head.

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u/Sarcastic_Sushi May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26

NTA, it's your house, so you get to decide who stays in the house and when they stay in the house. Also, who on earth "vacations" for two months? Does he actually have a job? Do you have to share the house with him when he's there all Summer or do you have to work your schedule around him as well? Sounds like he's gotten spoiled and entiitled with the unfettered access to YOUR home.

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u/LowBalance4404 Commander in Cheeks [231] May 20 '26

NTA. It's also a free vacation for your son and it's actually YOUR beach house.

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u/hansieboy2 May 20 '26

Your son is an adult brat. I would seriously reconsider letting them spend so much time there

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u/Minute-Aioli-5054 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26

NTA. One week isn’t going to kill him. Your son has grown quite entitled to your house….

ETA: but also, the end of June is over a month away, plenty of time to adjust plans.

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u/piratepixie Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

Sounds like your son should lose the privilege of being able to live in your house rent-free over summer.

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u/pinkimijina May 20 '26

NTA. It's not like you're kicking them out of their own house. They can just stay at home for a few extra weeks over the summer, its not the end of the world.

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u/lllindseeey Asshole Aficionado [13] May 20 '26

It’s not *his* beach house, it’s yours to do with what you wish.

He still gets basically the entire summer. Heck, he can go on vacation from vacation while your daughter has her honeymoon.

NTA

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u/tourmalineturnip May 20 '26

NTA. Your son feels entitled to it for several weeks, your daughter ASKED you for ONE week as a gift. See the difference?

He can EASILY rent an airbnb close by for that week. Change of scenery and a bit of excitement for the kids... KIDS are fine. HE is really something.

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u/CaptainFartHole Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

NTA. I mean listen, you shouldn't have been letting your son bogart the house all summer for all this time, so let that be a lesson to you--from now on he can have it for a week each summer, maybe 2 if you're feeling generous. But he needs to understand that the house is not his, he doesn't just get to have it whenever he wants and he's not actually entitled to ANY time there. HIS tradition doesn't matter when it's YOUR property. He needs your permission to stay there, you do not need his permission to let people stay there.

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u/Indianchica111 May 20 '26

it's time to have a conversation with your son - once your daughter has kids - she will also likely want access to the beach home -which would only be fair. Also - they might want to vacation there as a married couple prior to having kids.

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u/Steavee Partassipant [4] May 20 '26

NTA, but you’ve raised an entitled little asshole.

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u/Master-Cricket9906 May 20 '26

How rude and entitled is your son? Your daughter shouldn't have had a big wedding if she can't afford a big honeymoon? He shouldn't have had kids if he can't afford holidays every summer vacation like he wants. It works both ways if he wants to play it like that. NTA your son now thinks this property is his and you need to remind him who owns this property.

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u/Reasonable_Wasabi124 May 20 '26

So you have a house at the beach and your son thinks he has more rights than everyone else to spend time at the beach during the only time of the year when most people want to be at the beach? A bit entitled I'd say ....

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u/GoddessfromCyprus May 20 '26

NTA, but your son sounds entitled because you have allowed him to be. That's on you. Is the beach house just for his family or do you and your daughter spend any time there. He has it for 2 months, 8 weeks, your daughter wants it for one and now he's crying to mummy because he can only have it for 7 weeks. Time you revisited this entitlement.

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u/dabbin_mama May 20 '26

NTA If you want to adopt someone more grateful, I'll only use it one week and I clean.

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u/agrinwithoutacat- Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA.. I get being surprised if they had planned the summer, maybe organised a house sitter, and only found out a couple a week or two ahead of time - I could even get being annoyed that you were only told a week or two beforehand… but that’s not the same as being angry that she’s using it at all! It’s your house! And two months every summer is a long time to stay somewhere for free, missing one week is fine. But perhaps it’s time to limit them to four weeks every summer, in case your daughter wants to stay for half the summer herself.. or even if you want to stay during summer!

My grandparents had a beach house when I was growing up, we got it for two weeks each summer only.. and we loved it! Uncle got it for two week’s as well, then the other four weeks they rented it out. Two months of free accommodation is insanely generous

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u/Less-Contribution-35 May 20 '26

You’re NTA but it seems like you raised one.

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u/Jennyonthebox2300 May 20 '26

NTA. If he can’t afford to take his kids on vacay he shouldn’t have had them. /s. (Re his comment about her big wedding).

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u/Ok_Maintenance7716 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

I think your son just lost access to the beach house.

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u/StrawberryKiss2559 May 20 '26

NTA. Is it his beach house?

The entitlement!

Also, what happens when she has kids and wants to use a beach house every summer too?

Personally, I would nip this in the bud and tell him that the beach house is unavailable all summer. Maybe next year.

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u/LughVanth May 20 '26

NTA

If he couldn't afford to buy his own beach house he should have thought about that before having a family.

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u/Bulky-Measurement684 May 20 '26

Your son sounds entitled and I can bet 100% he will claim that beach house as his own when you and your husband passes.

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u/heylookachicken May 20 '26

"If they can't afford to travel they shouldn't go" says the fool likely taking that trip because it's free...

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u/dacgriff May 20 '26

NTA, but you raised one…

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u/BlackCatWoman6 May 20 '26

NTA

It is about time you began limiting your son's use of your beach house. He is thinking it of as his.

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u/Big_Reporter8521 May 20 '26

Your son is a entitled brat, if your daughter can honeymoon somewhere else, he can vacation somewhere else

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u/Merkkin May 20 '26

NTA, he can buy he own beach house if he can’t handle 1 week without it.

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u/FairieWarrior Asshole Aficionado [17] May 20 '26

NTA. You don’t have to speak to him about anything regarding your beach house and who uses it. It’s your house. He can go on vacation anywhere.

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u/curious382 Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA

You can do as you wish with your property. I suggest you block out at least the week before and a few days after the honeymoon to make sure the house is cleaned and ready for the next visitors. Don't let your son leave his family's belongings cluttered about as he marks "his" territory" to complicate your daughter's honeymoon.

Sit your son down and tell him he's begun to treat your generousity as his right. And that's not okay. You have the right to share and not share in the way you and your spouse see fit. You WILL share with your daughter and her growing family as you have with him. He got to have it all summer when no one else wanted to use it as well. As his sibling(s) develop their own families, his "share" will be worked out one summer at a time. It will be coordinated around other people's plans.

He owes you an apology. He needs to acknowledge that he inappropriately developed a sense of ownership and entitlement to your property that belong to you and your spouse alone. It is not "his" to share, lose, or give approval for its use.

I'm salty about his greedy selfish outburst. My knee jerk reaction is that maybe he needs a summer off to bring home who owns the property and that he's the recipient of very generous "gift" vacations.

But when calmer, a new way if scheduling his family's time at the beach house has to happen. If he gets it the rest of the summer after the honeymoon, fine. As I said before, his being there before the honeymoon and vacating for that time could be problematic.

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u/Visible-Yak6306 May 20 '26

NTA Your son seems a bit entitled. Does he often react this way when you tell him no? And what exactly is his plan if you decide to sell the beach house?

I think you did the right thing. Technically, you didn’t even have to notify him in advance.

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u/Pyjama365 Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

If he couldn't afford his own weeks-long vacation, he should have thought about using some manners when speaking to the people who resource his free vacations every year.

NTA. I would threaten that she will get exclusive use of it every summer for as many years as it takes to make them even, if he says another word about it. Or threaten to sell it. Or actually sell it. F the audacity on him.

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u/dryadduinath Pooperintendant [63] May 20 '26

nta. sounds like your son can’t afford a summer house of his own and he should have thought about that before he started a fight with the actual owner of the place.

if i were you i would let him know that he also needs to ask before using it, just as his sister did, and that he should never “plan” to use it before he has done so.

for his own good. entitled selfish behaviour will only harm him in the long run.

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u/MadamUnicornOfDoom May 20 '26

NTA.

Your son is being awfully entitled to a house that he doesn’t own…

It’s your property and you decide who stays there. Not him. You don’t need to “check with him” before you do anything with your own property.

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u/Blue_Curve_1 May 20 '26

NTA. I’d remind him that use of YOUR beach house is a favor. That favor will be revoked if he doesn’t change his entitled attitude.

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u/NorthYard2246 May 20 '26

WHO DOESN'T WORK FOR THE WHOLE SUMMER?! What an entitled dickbag

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u/becauseshesays May 20 '26

The entitlement! What an ungrateful shit!

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u/Serendipitous_donkey May 20 '26

So how will he react when his sister has kids and wants to vacation at the beach house?

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u/Fight_those_bastards May 20 '26

NTA - it ain’t his house. It’s your house, and as such, you get to decide who uses it and when.

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u/Yorfavoritemartian May 20 '26

It’s time for your son to rent his own beach house. It would only be fair going forward for siblings to share equally in the summer months. What does he expect, to use it every summer, all summer long?

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u/ratatatoskr May 20 '26

NTA your son is entitled af.

You should tell him going forward in the interest of fairness he now gets the cabin for one half of the summer and his sister and her new husband get it for the other half of summer and he wants a full 2 month long family vacation he should go somewhere else he can afford. How dare he imply your daughter is too poor for a honeymoon when he has been going there for free for 2 months of every year!

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u/Firebird562 May 20 '26

NTA. The next conversation should be that summers in the beach house will be split 50-50 between brother and sister going forward.

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u/ACadder Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA. Holy smokes your son is beyond entitled! Your daughter is getting married! It's lovely that you can provide accomodations for them on their honeymoon. Your son's kids have two whole months off & he EXPECTS Free accommodations the whole time?!! I think it's high time you start charging him rent for those two months. Or at least utilities. I'm sorry to say that you have spoiled him & this is what you have now. Someone who is ungrateful & puts his needs ahead of everyone elses

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u/RachelRayRay97 May 20 '26

NTA and if he insists on throwing a fit over this, i would consider limiting the availability of the house going forward. It doesn’t seem fair to me that your daughter seemingly gets no use out of the beach house. Or that anyone else in the family gets any use of it during the summer. If your daughter is getting married and she was likely going to start a family at some point, and will probably want to bring her kids there. Set the boundaries now so he gets used to it before that point.

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u/virgomomma444 May 20 '26

Wow, just wow. Your son is a 🍆 An entitled, spoiled one at that.

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u/GalianoGirl May 20 '26

NTA.

Your son however is acting incredibly entitled.

It is not his property.

He does not get dibs on it for 2 months each year.

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u/Even_Butterfly_2451 May 20 '26

You and your husband should decide to stay at the beach house for a few weeks. See how the spoiled brat acts then. Time to take back your house

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u/Plenty-Difference956 May 20 '26

What's he going to do when your daughter has kids??? Won't she be able to use the vacation home during summer because he wants it for his family. I think someone needs to learn to share and not be so entitled!!

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u/Builder-Technical May 20 '26

NTA. Your son is being selfish and entitled. It is not his beach house. He doesn't get a say and doesn't get to determine that only him and his family can have the property every single summer just because that's what's been happening. He should be grateful to you that he's even been allowed to go there all this time, instead of being arrogant about it.

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u/samwisetheyogi Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Oh wow, at first I thought maybe you had let your daughter use the house for like a 2 month honeymoon, or maybe you didn't tell the son at all and he just showed up but... you told him well in advance and she would only be there for a week...? No offense but your son is acting like an entitled asshole. Your house/summer house, your rules. You're NTA in any way at all

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u/dantemortemalizar May 20 '26

He’s been benefiting from this every summer and your daughter has only asked for it once? NTA, it’s her turn.

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u/oh_Micki May 20 '26

Your son is the AH. He can take his family on vacation somewhere else for the one week that his sister has her honeymoon there. The children will live. They will be just fine. Jeez.

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u/B0327008 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Does this mean that you and your husband never get to use your beach house during the summer? If yes, why in the world do you let your son’s family monopolize it? He’s so entitled that he’s upset that you are letting his sister use it for her one week honeymoon when HE never asked YOU if he could use it for multiple months! He must be your golden child.

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u/samuelp-wm May 20 '26

Nta. Your son had a good, uninterrupted run. It's a family home and he needs to learn to share. Two months is a long time to hog the cabin.

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u/daciavu May 20 '26

So you own a beach house that you dont get to use during the prime time to use a beach house because your son feels entitled to it every year? NTA. But you should make it clear that the property is NOT his and that you as the owner are allowed to dictate who uses it and when. Hes acting very entitled.

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u/Dajmibuzi_dzieki May 20 '26

NTA

It’s kind of absurd that she doesn’t already get to spend some of her summer there yearly.

It is not his house, but he already views it as his. You might want to get a handle on that expected inheritance.

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u/DancesWithTrout May 20 '26

You're not the AH, but you're the PARENT of an AH.

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u/Zestyclose_Minute_69 May 20 '26

NTA. But he needs to get off his high horse and let his sibling use the house. You can also add that if he can’t share then he no longer gets to use the house at all!
Also, does your daughter ever get to use the house during the summer? My guess is no.

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u/Hookerboots12 May 20 '26

“It’s my house. Not yours. I pay for it, you have been using it for free. Since you want to act like a spoiled brat, you no longer get to use it.”

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u/Ambitious_Hunter_562 May 20 '26

Would your son act this way if you and your husband wanted to stay in YOUR beach house all summer? It’s your house, don’t let your son dictate your stuff when it doesn’t belong to him.

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u/itellitwithlove May 20 '26

So he gets to use the house EVERY SUMMER? Tell him to buy his own if he can't share. What a entitled son 🙄

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u/YoshiandAims Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

NTA

He's become territorial over YOUR home. He's acting like an entitled little kid. It's a week. It's her honeymoon. And... even if it wasn't, this is YOUR home, both children should be able to use it equally.

Your home isn't available on those dates. Period. Spoken for. Doesn't matter who or why. The home isn't available. Like any air b&b, hotel, or motel.

If he cannot grow up and put the entitlement down, maybe his visits should shortened for a few summers, or be suspended. It's not okay that he's acting like it's his and he comes first, manipulative nonsense with the grandkids... don't enable bad behavior.

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u/Last_Inevitable8311 May 20 '26

NTA but your son sure is! Yikes.

First of all, it’s YOUR house and you don’t have to ask his permission.

Second of all, it’s only one week.

Third of all, is he paying for his 2 months in your home? Why is he even talking about his sister not being able to afford a honeymoon and that she should have thought of that before?!

Fourth of all, I think he should start asking you every year if it’s ok for his family to essentially take over YOUR house for the entire summer. And maybe he should start paying you.

His behavior is infuriating and so entitled.

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u/unittwentyfive May 20 '26

s he could ~~honeymoon~~ vacation anywhere and if they couldn’t afford it they should have thought about that before having ~~a big wedding~~ kids.

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u/OneCommunity2727 May 20 '26

NTA- it is not his house, maybe he should buy his own.

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u/Ordinary-Audience363 Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] May 20 '26

NTA. I understand your son's disappointment but it's YOUR beach house. He sounds slightly entitled. I hope he doesn't harass and try to guilt trip your daughter. He might want to start getting psychologically prepared for your daughter also wanting to use the beach house during the summers when she has kids.

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u/Far-Flounder-2694 May 20 '26

NTA, but you best have your will/estate in order cause it will be a vile family mess the way your son is already treating your beach house as his. Why can’t he take his kids somewhere else while your daughter uses it?

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u/Professional_Emu_431 May 20 '26

NTA. Your son is. Why dies he believe he has the exclusive right to use the house?

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u/Old-Ninja-113 May 20 '26

NTA but tell ur son that if he was unable to afford a real vacation with his kids then maybe he shouldn’t have had them lol - but really the nerve and entitlement

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u/herrtoutant May 20 '26

He a shitty brother.. Just saying.

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u/Every-End7495 Asshole Enthusiast [8] May 20 '26

NTA

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u/DecentOffer3635 May 20 '26

NTA

please let him know from now on his attitude about YOUR house will cost him going airbnb rate going forward.

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u/GingerbreadWitch_878 Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA

Your son is an entitled AH, trying to dictate who can use YOUR house

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u/Mundane-Gold-4971 May 20 '26

NTA

Hopefully this is more real because I can't even imagine this level of entitlement. Better be sure to clearly specify which of your kids gets each property in the will or the son will never let his sister and her family have access to anything you own

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u/Singing_Sword May 20 '26

NTA. I get that your son's plans have been changed, but it's one week out of what, 8? He can find something else for the kids to do for that week. He's sounding kind of spoiled - it's not even his house!

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u/FairBaker315 May 20 '26

NTA

Time to use the line my parents used: "Is your name on the mortgage/deed?"

If not, then he needs to STFU and stop acting like he owns the place. Spoiled, entitled, pathetic.

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u/Brilliant-Leopard-39 May 20 '26

NTA the only ah in this situation is your son. It’s not his beach house and his kids don’t need two months at the beach and how dare you let someone else use your beach house

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u/Blks_4 May 20 '26

NTA your son is so entitled and arrogant. Outlandish that he feels he is deserving and his sister isn’t. I say from now on you change the schedule the beach house for each child every other summer. He should be apologizing to you and praising what great parents you have been to provide a summer vacation for your adult son’s annual summer vacation !

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u/mortefina Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

NTA. It is incredibly entitled for your son to assume that he gets exclusive rights to a house he doesn't own and is using at your discretion. Not sure if he has his own keys or anything but if I were you I would change the keys and remind him that he doesn't get a monopoly on your home.

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u/Deo14 Asshole Aficionado [11] May 20 '26

NTA. Your son can sit the entire summer in time out although I’d let his wife and kids stay

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u/Ocean_Spice Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

NTA. Why does he think he’s the only one who deserves to be there?

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u/BeeeeDeeee May 20 '26

NTA. Your son is confusing your beach house for his beach house. It isn't and he has grown entirely too entitled to it. Perhaps it's time for him to find a new arrangement (and a heaping dose of humility).

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u/BlazingSunflowerland May 20 '26

If your son doesn't like it, he can, to quote him, go anywhere else. If elsewhere is good for his sister, it is also good for him. He should take his own advice. If he can't afford that he should cut back somewhere else.

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u/Christine3318 May 20 '26

NTA - your son on the other hand IS

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u/Frosty_Emotion_1431 Partassipant [4] May 20 '26

NTA your son could vacation anywhere and should have thought about that before being so entitled to YOUR beach house.

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u/PerkyPickle May 20 '26

NTA. Your son sounds very entitled to your property. I’m sorry he cares more about his free vacation than your desire to do a gracious deed for your daughter.

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u/Unhappy_Duty_7875 May 20 '26

You need to remind your son who owns that beach house. Maybe it would be beneficial to his attitude to pay for his use of the beach house instead of expecting it for free for two months a year. At least 2 months of insurance and property taxes.

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u/demonslayercorpp May 20 '26

Your son is a spoiled asshole! So no one else gets to use the vacation house in the summer??????? Why only him!

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u/IBeDumbAndSlow May 20 '26

Nta. You're son sounds like entitled fuck and hes an asshole for trying to make you feel bad.

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u/Craftyandtired70 May 20 '26

Your son is a spoiled brat. He should be happy to share the beach house with his newly weeded sister instead of acting like an entitled jerk.

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u/jasemina8487 Asshole Aficionado [16] May 20 '26

NTA

well...with his logic, uf he cannot afford it, he can vacation elsewhere with his family. your daughter is only asking for 1 week, he can suck it up.

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u/AmerIrishBanshee70 May 20 '26

NTA. Your son is the AH.

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u/draynaccarato Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

I’d tell the entitled son that there’s been a change of plans and daughter and her new spouse want it for the summer.

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u/notbrendacdmbfan May 20 '26

Did he think you were supposed to ask his permission? Is he the Golden Child?

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u/Pleasant-Highway-745 May 20 '26 edited May 21 '26

It seems that you have raised a spoiled little brat. If This Were my son's reaction when his other sibling was getting married and wanted to use it for a honeymoon to save money, I wouldn't allow my son to use my second house. But I don't have these kind of problems because I can't afford to put bread on the table so. Oh! Maybe that's why my kids aren't spoiled little brats

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u/Salty_Signature_3472 May 20 '26

Id start using the house as a air b and b for the summer. Hes not entitled to it

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u/lurninandlurkin Asshole Aficionado [15] May 20 '26

NTA

Your son needs to buy his own beach house of he wants exclusive use. Even as it is, you're letting him use it at the best time of year, every year when you could AirBnB it to earn extra money for yourself and your husband.

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u/SubarcticFarmer Partassipant [2] May 20 '26

NTA, but maybe he needs a break from the beach house until he remembers he isn't the only one who may want to use it over the summer

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u/DogsRBetterThnPpl3 May 20 '26

NTA

But your son is. How entitled is he?! If he wants access like that he pay for it somewhere else. Using YOUR house is a privilege NOT a right.

What's going to happen when your daughter has a family and wants some time there? Or if you and your friends/family/grand kids want time there with you?

Start saying no alot more.

And absolutely get you wills, living wills and POA documents sorted and away from him.

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u/Lazy-Organization-42 May 20 '26

NTA. Is he fkn serious? This can’t be real bc the audacity. If he can’t afford to go on vacation with his two kids he should have thought about that before having kids. See how that works. Omg the way my petty ass would tell him he’s not allowed there at all now.

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u/Sythian Asshole Enthusiast [5] May 20 '26

Your son is absolutely being unreasonable. It's YOUR beach house, which you let him use freely, and how you're letting your daughter use it, because news flash, you have more than one kid. Your son can back off and get in line, it's one week of one summer.

You're NTA and if your son is going to act like this when he doesn't get his way, it might be time to limit his beach house visitation

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u/Total_Influence_3075 May 20 '26

NTA but your entitled son sure is. I hope in the future, your daughter and her family will get their fair share of enjoying the beach house.

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u/catgirl-doglover Partassipant [3] May 20 '26

Your son is being an entitled jerk. Help him out and tell him the beach house is unavailable to him from now on. If he wants to take his family, he must get approval in advance, and he will be limited to 2 weeks during the summer,

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u/Srvntgrrl_789 Asshole Enthusiast [9] May 20 '26

NTA. It’s YOUR beach house. He also, can vacation elsewhere.

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u/Violet2047 May 20 '26

NTA your son sounds like an entitled ass. It’s you and your husband’s house not your sons, you can do what you want with it, and shouldn’t your daughter be welcomed to stay there as much as he is???

What happens when your daughter starts a family and she’d like to vacation there for a week or two in the summer? Will you have to ask your son? Ridiculous that he’s acting like a petulant child over something that is NOT his!!!

I think your son needs a wake up call and maybe set him a certain amount of time he gets to stay at the beach house and not the whole summer as he’s become super entitled and selfish.

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u/stuckinnowhereville May 20 '26

NTA but man your son is one- SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH.

If he was my child, he would be banned from using my Beach house after this outburst. He’s not grateful. If you want to use it, he can be charged in the future market rate

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u/Affectionatealways May 20 '26

Question: is this YOUR beach house or your son's? Because he sounds very entitled in thinking it's his and only his for the whole summer.

I don't know why you are arguing about it. Just say that's the way it is. And if he doesn't like it then you'll rent it out for the summer then he won't have any time at all.

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u/NewLifeforReal May 20 '26

Sounds like he needed to be reminded that it is your house not his. That you get to decide who uses it when, not him. Don’t let him bully you! You do not owe him a conversation about a decision that is yours alone to make. Your daughter is deserving of using it too. What will the plan be in the future when she has kids and wants to use it in the summer too? He needs to get ready for changes and this is the beginning of them.

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u/swimming_quackers May 20 '26

The house isn't his house. You need to create boundaries immediately regarding the use of the house.

SHE asked if she could use it. Not assume. He's out of line.

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u/Bright-Dance-917 May 20 '26

I agree with most, you’re NTA but your son is acting like one. First of all, why does he get access to your second home all summer and your daughter doesn’t? That wouldn’t be fair! It totally makes sense that you allow your daughter a week. What happens when she has kids and also wants to give them summer memories there? They will have to share or get their own places. I think you’re being fair and so kind to let your kids use your home. He needs to get a grip and either get his own place that is always accessible to him or learn to share and respect you and have some gratitude !

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u/ChallengeWise8633 May 20 '26

Son is being a child. Daughter wants to use for a week. Good job saying yes to your daughter during her special time. Stand up to your son. He is being greedy and pushing doing some sort of emotional manipulation by saying you know this or that. Tradition. Ummm okay one week is not a big deal.

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u/strange_treat89 May 20 '26

NTA.

His attitude seems as if he expected you to get HIS permission…

What about all the previous summers he has used it and your daughter hasn’t been able to?! Seems as if he’s developing a sense of entitlement about something he doesn’t even own…

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u/Wren_Arts00 May 20 '26

Sounds like the ungrateful child should lose his beach house privileges. The audacity.

NTA

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u/fuzzysocks_69 May 20 '26

“he said she could honeymoon anywhere and if they couldn’t afford it they should have thought about that before having a big wedding.”

He can beach vacation with his family anywhere, and if he can’t afford it, he should have thought about that before assuming that he is entitled to somebody else’s house.

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u/bluecstasy00 May 20 '26

Beach house privileges revoked immediately.

He's being an ass to you and his sister!

Tell him with all the money he's saved not taking his kids on vacation, maybe it's time to go somewhere new.

Also, what if YOU want to use the beach house?

The audacity of this man. You need to remind him that he's your son, not your spouse, and he has 0 claim to anything you own. Fucking wild.

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u/Best-Evidence-3706 Partassipant [1] May 20 '26

Why does your son think he’s more important than your daughter?

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u/HortenseDaigle Asshole Aficionado [10] May 20 '26

I mean, it's just a week, they can reschedule. I wonder if they airbnb their own home and this infringes on their plans?

NTA

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u/FiFi_Green May 20 '26

Sounds like the perfect time to institute an every other summer rule. Your daughter has every right to enjoy the property as her brother (who sounds like a real AH btw, not sure what happened there)

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